Save the dates

JuneAB

Would you send save the dates to people you only intend to invite for the evening only?

If I had my way they would come to the whole day but weddings are so costly it isn't possible (and luckily lots of people we are inviting understand this). We are getting married on a bank holiday and would still love these people to come to the evening but don't want to send save the dates if they are expecting a whole day invite later on?

gettingtheresometime

No I wouldn't.

they weren't around in my day (you just told people ad Naseum when the day was) but as they are now, if I was to send them I'd only send them to people I wanted there at the day's proceedings.

Too much chance of misunderstanding - especially as it's a BH...i personally would be annoyed if I was sent a Save the date (just used the initials which came out wrong!) and then only had an invite to the evening do

laughingcow81

I agree - when we got married we only sent save the dates to people we were inviting for the whole day - especially as we got married on a Friday.

Usually if people are just coming to an evening they would not have to "save the day" as it were.

AnnieO1234

Why not just send invites, with specifics, and do two types. One to the evening and one all day? Xxx

JuneAB

My sister suggested 'save the evenings' - what's your opinion on these?

JuneAB

AnnieO1234 wrote: »

Why not just send invites, with specifics, and do two types. One to the evening and one all day? Xxx

The wedding is a year away and on May bank holiday, so it's too soon to send formal invites but we also want to let people know so they can, well, save the date (assuming they want to that is!)x

gettingtheresometime

JuneAB wrote: »

My sister suggested 'save the evenings' - what's your opinion on these?

Personally speaking, if I could make the evening do then I would go, if I couldn't then I wouldn't worry about it, especially if the alternative was going away for the weekend.

Tbh sending out save the evening cards is a tad too much for me

Georgiegirl256

I think Save the Date cards are pointless and just another unnecessary expense.

Anyone who's important and you really want to be there will know when the wedding is anyhow and keep that date free.

laurahester

I agree with most of the above. A few years back I recieved a save the date card for the wedding of an old uni friend - she'd been to my wedding and so naturally on recieving the card I'd assumed it was for the whole day. As the wedding was 4 hours away from where I lived, hubby and I both booked the fridays's off work and reserved hotel rooms for both nights. To say I was a tad annoyed when the actual invites came out 6-months later and we'd only made it onto the evening guest list is an understadment. I wish it had been made clearer in the beginning to avoid any 'embarrassment' or misunderstanding.

burnoutbabe

agreed, I'd be very disappointed to get a save the date and then an evening only invite.

Skintmama

I think it is a bit misleading to send Save the Date cards when you only plan to invite people to the evening do. This happened to us about a year in advance so when the invitation came through for the evening only we felt obliged to accept (we could hardly say we had made other plans!) and did a six hour round trip in order to attend it.

What with the wedding gift (it was quite an expensive list) the travel and the babysitter it was a jolly expensive party to go to. I think in all fairness and judging from the initial verbal invitation they originally planned to invite us to the day but changed things having done their sums. Despite not naming them on the invitation they were also disappointed that we hadn't brought the children....... Anyway it was good to see the couple as we are fond of them and to wish them well for their future together.