Official Trying to Conceive - Thread 13

angel11

Rachy sorry you're having such a rough time atm. Losing a baby at any stage is difficult, and it sounds like you maybe need to find a way to work through your grief. Everyone is different, and what works for others might not work for you - only you can decide what is the right way forward for you at this point in time. Do whatever you feel you need to do to get you through the next days, hours, weeks & months, but be kind to yourself & ask for help if/when you need it.

Take care of yourself xxx

Rachylou1981

Thanks everyone, feeling a little bit better. I guess PMT is mixed in with all this emotion.

Another issue is that I am piling on weight, simply because I have no interest in planning meals or cooking so it's been a bit grab and go/takeaways for a while. OH says he is going to help more in this aspect though. I know what I need to do, it's just easier to lie on the couch crying into my comfort food

Keekee

Rachy, I'm just delurking to say that I'm thinking of you. Some months it's just so much harder than others. All I can say is hang in there! You've done it once - you'll get there again. Take care of yourself.
Big hugs
Xx

Slinky_Selina

Huge hugs Rachy. I know how you feel, I should have a little 3 month old in my arms at the moment, but it was not to be. I ended up in tears at my diabetes clinic appt and the nurse there insisted I go get some bereavement counselling. As it is I havent, I do think just think opening up and having someone validate my feelings really helped. I do have the numbers of a counselling group and details of a bereavement and just having those gives me comfort. The people on the Miscarriage Association forums were wonderful as well.

I also refuse to let myself become obsessed by trying to conceive, I dont temp and I dont use opk sticks, I do have an app that lets me know when I am due to ovulate and when my period is due.
I do have to stay away from pregnant people still, a friend has just been defriended for having her 4th pregnancy in 5 years and a relative for being pregnant. I've also offered to leave my partner so he can find someone who can get pregnant and even had plans on how to do this.
It hurts, it hurts like hell, it does get easier though, I'm still mourning my Dad who died just over a year ago, but every day is a new day and a step forward.
xxx

Li5a

Thanks for the warm welcome, I'm CD10.

last year we had a MC although we were not TTC it's taken this long to come to terms and give it a go.

FX everyone x

newthrift

Two Week Wait (BFP Hopefuls)
CD26 newthrift - 5DPO :cool:
"If in doubt - BD" Zone
CD8 angel11 - Awaiting ov
CD11 Li5a - Awaiting ov
CD14 easilydistracted - Awaiting ov
CD14 Milliebob - Awaiting ov
CD15 April87 - Awaiting ov
CD24 ButterflyBabe -Awaiting ov
CD24 firebird082 - Awaiting ov:o
CD26 Slinky_Selina - Awaiting ov
CD28 athensgeorgia - Awaiting ov
CD52 midget_1907 - Awaiting ov
CD102 freshstart11 - Awaiting ov
"Wine and Chocolate" zone





Those we haven't heard from in a while
CD62 LottieLou - :cool:



Those with * sometimes uses conceive plus/preseed.
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MancMama4

The bravery of people on this forum amazes me. You are all brilliant and I stalk this thread every day waiting for your good news x

cats2012

I second what MancMama said. I know my story isn't the same as my MC was so early but after 14 months of nothing I truly was giving up hope and was in a very dark place. I also know I still have a very long way to go.

I have heard the most incredible stories as part of this journey and I truly believe it will happen for every one of you. The things that can be done these days are just amazing. You WILL all be mummies, I 100% believe that.

Thinking of you all xx

Rachylou1981

I think talking to you lot helps me massively, especially since I know how much some have gone through and still are going through. One of the main things is getting people to understand as not many people know what to say to me in real life. My OH is brilliant but he is not as sad as me, he just is sad because I am sad. My friends just keep saying it will happen and to stop worrying and then change the subject - I feel like I am not allowed to talk about it sometimes, that I am boring them or they are just eyerolling at how dramatic I am being.

cats2012

I truly believe people don't understand. I've only told 3 friends about our experiences and they were all so shocked. They had no idea how common it all is - but people who haven't experienced it just cannot understand no matter how hard they try.

If you don't have anyone who has been through similar I really do think counselling or similar would be good. You need to talk to people who can truly listen and not just be awkward. I don't know if anyone has mentioned but I think Tommies miscarriage charity may have some ideas? I find reading their stories really helpful, even now.