Do you get on with your neighbours?

balletshoes

Andrew_Ryan_89 wrote: »

So been at my new house for around 9 months and the mentioned neighbour above is getting very annoying. At least once every other day she is knocking at my door at all hours; in the morning, whilst I'm working and in the afternoon and evening when I'm trying to relax. She knocked me the otherday to tell me my butterfly Bush was getting tall. It's not even on her side of the garden. We are getting the pond cleaned and left a couple bins out to collect rain water. She knocks me saying to move it. Other times she knocks she is asking for help as she has a physical disability or giving me food she doesn't want. Problem is, the knocking is 3-4 times a week and I find it weird that she notices every little thing that I do; when I pull up, when I leave the house, when we put the blinds up, had a painter, asking where we went when we go out and noticing when we are away for the day. Such a neighbour has its benefits but she's quickly getting annoying.

just stop answering the door when she knocks, she will get the message eventually.

kingfisherblue

She sounds lonely.

Detroit

Not criticising you OP as this does sound annoying, but it's also quite sad.

She sounds lonely, and probably remembers a time in the street when people were a lot more sociable with neighbours than they are today, in and out of each other's houses and so on.

I think I would be inclined not to answer the door to her either, but I'd make a point of telling her first.

Perhaps tell her that if she needs you for anything in future, could she drop a note through and you'll get back to her.
Maybe tell her this is because you work at home with headphones on and won't hear the door.

I think it's a balance trying to treat lonely elderly neighbours kindly, without sacrificing your own privacy at home.

happyandcontented

I have always had great neighbours. It is odd how some people seem to have neighbour problems everywhere they live, and how they pick up on the slightest thing their neighbours are doing and turn it round to be about themselves. I find a smile and wave works well with most folk.

andygb

When I used to work up in London, I was always amazed at how unsociable the people were who lived and worked in London,
I used to have an hour plus commute back to what I called "civilisation", where folks said "hello" and didn't feel guilty about chatting to others.
We have nice neighbours both sides of us, and generally speaking, our whole street is great - we have street parties and christmas do's in the local club.

Kim_kim

cjdavies wrote: »

I wouldn't even bother to answer the door.

balletshoes wrote: »

just stop answering the door when she knocks, she will get the message eventually.

Exactly what I would do. She must have some sort of mental problem to be bothering you so much when you're not friends & she doesn't realise that it's inappropriate.

Just ignore her - she'll probably move on to bothering someone else.

catkins

We've got a new neighbour. I've seen her and she probably mid 30's with a son and a dog. I've not seen the son or do but I repeatedly hear her calling/shouting to them so I know they are there!

She is about 10 doors away but I can hear her when I am in the back garden or if I have the back door or windows open as clear as if she were standing in front of me.

She never seems to talk only shout and she never seems to shut up. She hasn't actually moved in yet but is there most days as work is being done to her house. I must say I am sick of her already so what it will be like when she is actually living there I dread to think.

indesisiv

catkins wrote: »

We've got a new neighbour. I've seen her and she probably mid 30's with a son and a dog. I've not seen the son or do but I repeatedly hear her calling/shouting to them so I know they are there!

She is about 10 doors away but I can hear her when I am in the back garden or if I have the back door or windows open as clear as if she were standing in front of me.

She never seems to talk only shout and she never seems to shut up. She hasn't actually moved in yet but is there most days as work is being done to her house. I must say I am sick of her already so what it will be like when she is actually living there I dread to think.

Sounds like my neighbour. We work on different time zones so I never see her, but she only has 2 volumes, asleep or shouting.

Luckily she doesn't appear to spend too much time there.

melanzana

My neighbour fixed my fence and tidied the whole lot up for me. He also put my wall mounted clothes line on the wall just where I wanted it... (like a rotary, but fixed, and can be let down flush to the wall, brilliant thing..),

The fixed rotary had been sitting in my box room (ahem rubbish depository) for the last year as no one had a drill strong enough for the wall fixings. But as he was fixing the fence I asked him, and it was absolutely no problem at all.

Otherwise rarely see them as we are on different timetables...

I love you Liam! Well I'm sure his missus didn't hear that...