Do you get on with your neighbours?

TBagpuss

Tygermoth wrote: »

I have had both.

A lovely old lady who had our key for emergencies, post etc. …….used to let herself in and steal my dog for company while I was at work. I knew she absolutely adored him and literally used to wait at the window ‘till I pulled out the drive.. She would be round like a flash in her dressing gown and slippers scoop him up and take him to hers where he would bumble around the garden with her in the sunshine all day. She then used to sneak him back just before i got home. Neither of us mentioned it, she knew I knew but it was like a rule that we couldn’t say anything lol.

Years ago I had a new neighbour I hadn’t ever spoken to who took to parking in my drive – long story short only every second house had drives recessed up the side of the house. There was absolutely no road parking so the houses without a drive had to park in a bay which was a 5/10 min walk away. The new neighbour rationalised to herself I didn’t have a car so I didn’t need the drive.

She just took to parking there and I totally would have agreed if she asked. But from the day she moved in she just drove up the drive and parked. As she was new, just in case she wasn't aware the drive was mine and thought maybe was a communal one I politely asked her not to park in my drive, establishing it was my drive and belonged to my house - which she confirmed she knew... to which she replied 'but u aint got a car an i need to park init'... So she just carried on as if that trumped everything.

In fact on the second or third day after she moved in she had a gate put in her side fence so she could walk into her garden from my drive rather than having to walk round! At this point i realised that she was just going to appropriate my driveway whether i liked it or not!

She did not react well to being asked formally via letter not to again (I happened to need access for a medical reason at the time). I swear in her head as i didn't have a car the driveway became hers by default so she just carried on parking there.

In the end after an issue with access and her refusing to move her car for an ambulance calling at mine I bought a running junker car registered it off road and put it on the drive.

She went bonkers.

She then made hate calls to people telling that I was running a prostitution ring from the house, tried to trap and poison my cats and kept piling my bins up against my front door. All this rage… because she couldn’t park in MY off road private driveway! She kept it up for the three of so years i lived there.

Wow, that's awful! I've had bad neighbours in the past, but nothing quite that bad. Mercifully the ones I had backed down when I contacted the Housing Association they rented from.

mark5

Where I lived as a kid everyone knew everyone's business and I would hate that now.

My current street, most people keep to themselves but one couple clearly want everyone to be best friends as you describe, you can see people can't get away from them quick enough, if they get you talking you can't get away your stuck.

If neighbours want to be best friends let them but I don't think others should be frowned upon just because they keep to themselves and don't want to be included, it's their choice.

Farel01

I adore my 89 year old neighbour on the unattached side, she's friendly and sarcastic

The attached side though is a different matter. 3 years ago when I moved in. they were friendly enough to me, but to each other, not so much. Screaming matches through the wall (and it's decenty insulated, never could hear tv or something, that's how loud they were) on a near daily basis. Then they put in a hot tub, which then meant their teenage doughter would have parties when they were away. Not a problem so much, but got a bit annoying at 4 in the morning. Went over to ask them to take the party inside, and was greeted by 7 naked 16 year olds. Not sure who was more mortified...

They have now put the place up for sale and are divorcing. It's been up for a year or so since they are asking waaay to much for it. Hope to have better luck with the next ones.

Rev

I live next door to the local weed seller who has four dogs who bark 24/7 and a back yard full of bird cages with birds who coo 24/7. The house has been raided several times and his weed farm closed down. But he just carries right on when he's released a few weeks later. Local chavs after their drugs often knock at my house mistakenly. So that's fun too.

So no, I don't get along with my neighbour.


If I could afford to. I'd move today.

pigpen

Tygermoth.. I'd have had it towed!!! lmao.. pretended I had no idea who it belonged to and byebye car!! Knowing people helps It is kind of funny from over here but I know it would have been utterly frustrating and stressful for you.

plasticcheese

Similar fence problem here, although it belongs to the neighbours. It's been swaying in the wind for a couple of years and they had just agreed to get it cemented in properly on our side, when the storm last week knocked half of it out. They now need to spend a fortune getting the whole blumming thing replaced!

System

In our last place i always remember wifey bolting out the back door and going crazy at the neighbour! I was like !!!!!! is going on :eek: he had a cat in his garden and he threw it over the fence onto the road and she saw him do it. I honestly thought she was going to deck him. We didn't get on with him after that incident.

mark5

It's easier to stay on good terms with neighbours (few houses away) than next door neighbours. When you live next door to someone your bound to do things that annoy each other.

If my neighbours leave me alone and don't disturb me I'm happy, I have my friends, I don't need any more.

theoretica

It might be worth checking the deeds to confirm if it is your fence and asking the neighbour to show you exactly the issue with it. Then decide if you will use one of the nice 'noted but not doing anything now' phrases above or not. I have a number of issues around my house which grew considerably because I didn't do anything when they were small jobs and it may look worse from their side.

dms03

We get along well with our neighbours luckily.