Do you get on with your neighbours?

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Hi,

tell him it's 'on the list', but you want to get the inside sorted first.

Anyway, it's still too cold and changeable to be doing anything outside, if I'm doing any outside jobs, painting shed, fence, cleaning patio it has to be T shirt and shorts weather.

PasturesNew

Locally, modern planning insists on 6' high fences all around - the woman in planning said it's something to do with kids/trampolines .... and as I'm a bit of a midget that means I can't see out at all. So, sometimes I can hear a neighbour's outside (in their 20'x12' garden) but I can't see them.

If you can't see them, you can't get to know them.

I have no annoying neighbours (yet). One new resident this month and another's just sold, so things could change in the blink of a key jangle.

pollypenny

We have good neighbours all round, three lots of which I term friends.

Our immediate next door neighbour was real boaster; it took her years to twig that everyone else had good jobs, families with ditto, but no need to show off.

OP, I agree with telling your neighbour that the fence is on your list of jobs in a new home. However, he may well help you repair it.

catkins

Most of my neighbours are ok. Some I chat to, others we just say "hello" to each other.


We do have a fair share of nosey ones though. I just ignore them and if they try and corner me to ask me questions I make an excuse and walk away

TBagpuss

My current neighbours are lovely. I had bad neighbours in my previous home so it was such a nice surprise when my new neighbours came round shortly after I moved in to ask whether I would "mind if they came onto my front drive to trim the top of their hedge, and would I like them to tidy 'my' side of it while they were there?"

Those neighbours also feed my cats when I go away, (and I water their plants when they do) and we keep each other informed about the perpetutual saga which is the Leaning telegrapgh Pole of Doom.

The neighbours on the other side are equally nice.

The vlaue of good relationships with neighbours can't be overstated. In our case, as the neighbours have mentioned the fence I would be polite and friendly about it.

If you are not planning to do anythign just yet, then I'd sugest that you let them know, but be pleasant about it.

For instance "Yes, I know. But it's pretty low down our list of priorities, as it's still doing it's job, and we have a lot of other things inside the house we need to get to first, so we're not planning to do any work to the fence at present. "

If there is anything quick and easy you can do in the mean time, such as having some strategicly placed heavy planters to help prop it up, I would consider doing that as aa gesture of good will.

euronorris

Yeah, our neighbours are nice.


There was a small issue regarding parking when we first moved in, but it's been resolved and the neighbour who was upset about it is now nice as pie.


She can be a bit nosy, but that's no bad thing when it comes to people potentially burgling your place - she'll be the first to know and call the police. She's also given us a small gift when we got married etc. I think the previous occupants of our place were awful regarding parking, so she was on the defensive at first but now knows we're not like that so everything is fine and happy again.


Neighbours on the other side are lovely and take in parcels for us, and vice versa. We don't have massive convos with them or anything, just polite hellos, waves and smiles.


A little can go a long way when it comes to neighbours!

mellymoo74

Ha

Most of mine are lovely
Unfortunately the ones above, make noise from 6am to midnight, he kicks the cap out of her, tries to kick my door in, call me white b and threaten so slit my throat and as of this weekend vomit everywhere and leave it.

suki1964

We have lovely neighbours

We live in a hamlet of just 7 ( now eight and another being built) houses and we all know each other and look out for each other, without living in each other's pockets

We cut each other's grass, clear snow, help with big jobs around the home, have a drink with each other if we meet up in the bar, take parcels in, run errands if needed - it really is a lovely place to live

I think it helps that we are all detached houses , often with a field separating us and that most of the families have been in the area generations. It really is a great place to live, looked after without being looked at

maman

Andrew_Ryan_89 wrote: »

Hey guys,

My fianc! and I recently purchased our first place in December. First impressions was that the neighbours were very nice. Both directly either side of us helped us settled in through taking our post, telling us when the garbage is due and so on.

However, one of the neighbours seems to be a little nosey. It could be that where I was brought up in London, everyone left everyone alone. People leaving rubbish on the street, noise you just didn't make a massive deal out of it. No "Hello neighbour" or anything like that in the morning.

Here, most people are pretty friendly though the one neighbor does knock our door or catches us outside and goes on about the fence, garden or something.

Which brings me to ask a second question within this thread. In a nice way, the neighbor keeps mentioning that our fence is leaning and need to be fixed. I haven't checked the deeds so let's assume it's my responsibility. How bad does it have to be in order for it to be fixed? When you looks at it, you wouldn't even notice anything. Doesn't impede are flowers, look untidy or anything. Just a little Lean

Possibly the neighbour is just advising you (and he'd be right) that if it isn't fixed soon it's likely to be a bigger and more expensive job if it blows down. I'm sure he means well.


When you talk of 'garbage' does this mean you've moved to the US?

Madmel

We too have lovely neighbours. Nothing is too much trouble for them and we all help one another. I live in a hamlet and the vast majority of people are nice. A new family moved in 18 months ago at the edge of the hamlet and when their immediate neighbour went round to welcome them, were really rude. They keep their gate locked and make no attempt to interact with anyone else; their house is now up for sale.

Other neighbours moved in between us and have been building their own home, living in a caravan on the site. They are a delightful couple who go out of their way to be kind and helpful. Their 1st child is due shortly and most of us would be only too happy to help them in any way we can.

I have also endured nightmare neighbours, so really appreciate those we have now. Keep the lines of communication open about the fence, but be honest that it's not a high priority. They may have had issues with the previous owners and want to make sure that it doesn't happen with you.