large booking at restaurant- how to split the bill?

Ames

cadon wrote: »

I prefer to split the bill and no, I'm not asking to be subsidised by anyone. If anything, I'm the person who is always losing out by splitting the bill. Not all of us who want to split the bill are greedy, ignorant and rude. I'll share a bottle of wine someone - but I'll have one small glass and they'll have the rest.

Anyway, as the tiring circle has degraded into something plain weird, I've taken it upon myself to solve your various issues. :rotfl:

We're all going for dinner here: http://www.inamo-restaurant.com

We can order our own food off the table, see itemised bills, and if someone suddenly decides they want the same food as someone else, they can discreetly order some more of the same from the table.

I've eaten nicer food, but it's OK and the interactive table ordering system is something that I think will blow many of your minds.

Ooh I like the sound of the three courses for £20, I've got a few London theatre trips coming up. I've already booked my meal for one but I think I'll be trying this place on one of the others!

mumps

PasturesNew wrote: »

Not for about 10 years

I don't think I was that good at it, to be honest.

Practice makes perfect

missbiggles1

Peter333 wrote: »

You know, this may come as a shock to you both, but people ARE entitled to a different view to you; however strange/bizarre/funny you think it is.

Letting people eat off your fork, is IMO, a bit weird, bad etiquette, and certainly not something I ever see. Unless - as someone said way back in the thread - it's a couple who are about to spend the night together. Letting your mates/colleagues/people at the table with you eat off your fork at a meal out is VERY odd IMO.

The (very few) people who think it's OK don't seem to like people not agreeing with them. :rotfl:

Unfortunately, hardly anyone is going to agree that eating off each other's forks at a meal out is normal or acceptable. Because it isn't.

Whilst there are obviously different views on the subject (as this thread shows) food sharing is actually very common for many people and definitely not ODD.

Get your Googling gloves on and see what you find.

http://www.startribune.com/trading-food-at-the-table-can-strengthen-relationships/364253721/

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/lifestyle/news/article.cfm?c_id=6&objectid=11547895

Feral_Moon

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Well, for someone like my Mam who has a compromised immune system, it's not really adviseable tbh.

That aside, she'd find it terribly rude and unhygienic, as would I.

I don't mind "swapping saliva" (although what a horrible phrase that is!) with a kiss, but I'd rather not have saliva and god knows what mingling with my prawn cocktail thank you very much!

You can try with a clean fork, but don't just dig in, ask my permission first!

I was talking about accepting food someone offered you from their fork. I wouldn't dream of helping myself to the food on someone else's plate unless it was a sharing platter or I specifically had their permission. Neither would I be happy at someone taking food from my plate without permission.

Maybe it wouldn't be advisable for an immunosuppressed person to share utensils but there should be no health risk whatsoever to an otherwise ordinarily healthy person.

Georgiegirl256

cadon wrote: »

I prefer to split the bill and no, I'm not asking to be subsidised by anyone. If anything, I'm the person who is always losing out by splitting the bill. Not all of us who want to split the bill are greedy, ignorant and rude. I'll share a bottle of wine someone - but I'll have one small glass and they'll have the rest.

Anyway, as the tiring circle has degraded into something plain weird, I've taken it upon myself to solve your various issues. :rotfl:

We're all going for dinner here: http://www.inamo-restaurant.com

We can order our own food off the table, see itemised bills, and if someone suddenly decides they want the same food as someone else, they can discreetly order some more of the same from the table.

I've eaten nicer food, but it's OK and the interactive table ordering system is something that I think will blow many of your minds.

Ooo I like the sound of that place! Might try it next time I'm in London.

Kim_kim

Person_one wrote: »

Is it not more mean spirited to be absolutely fine with letting other people pay more than their fair share because of what you chose to order?

If I was in a 'split the bill evenly' situation I would feel really guilty about ordering more than others, and would probably order cheaper/less just to avoid being subsidised!

Me too - which is another reason I'd rather pay for mine.
If I want th fillet steak or lobster I'd feel rude if we were splitting the bill.

Kim_kim

Homeownertobe wrote: »

Erm... when was the last time you went to the cinema? Normal seats, premium seats, gallery, snack choices, wine, beer, Ice Blasts, popcorn, 2D, 3D, IMAX, blockbuster release or older film, matinee or evening screening etc. There's plenty of choice.



Equally I think those who insist on 'just having the soup' at a decent, and relatively expensive restaurant because they want to enjoy the ambience, are underestimating the embarrassment caused to those of us who would like to return to said restaurant without the skinflints.

It's time some people accepted that if they can only afford the soup at a nice restaurant, then they should go to a cheaper one where they can afford to eat properly and let their better off friends not face the awkwardness of the situation.

I love soup. One of my favourite starters ,:-)
I love soup & a sandwich as a light meal

onlyroz

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Whilst there are obviously different views on the subject (as this thread shows) food sharing is actually very common for many people and definitely not ODD.

Sharing food is not odd. Eating food off another diner's fork most certainly is.

itsanne

Well it's not often I'm speechless, but I've just read the first ten pages and last two of this thread. :eek:

Whatever happened to live and let live?

For what it's worth, I don't have a hard and fast rule about how the bill is paid - it depends on circumstances. With family and some friends, it's more likely to be an argument over which of us will pay than resentment over paying extra, partly because we're much alike and it will balance out overall. On other occasions, such as work outings, the preference would have been paying my own - mainly because of the expensive amount of alcohol some consume whereas I'm unlikely to have had much ..... and my preference after a glass of wine is likely to be tap water.

As for sharing, I wouldn't randomly take food off someone else's plate (other than OH's), but short of reaching across other people what difference does it make to anyone else if OH and I want to taste each other's meal? I don't see why it's any more gross to be seen putting a fork with something from his plate in my mouth than one with food from my plate.

There's no right or wrong answer to any of this - what's strange is how vehemently people seem to be taking one stance or another. Generally speaking, whatever is agreed should be fine.

cbrown372

itsanne wrote: »

Well it's not often I'm speechless, but I've just read the first ten pages and last two of this thread. :eek:

Whatever happened to live and let live?

For what it's worth, I don't have a hard and fast rule about how the bill is paid - it depends on circumstances. With family and some friends, it's more likely to be an argument over which of us will pay than resentment over paying extra, partly because we're much alike and it will balance out overall. On other occasions, such as work outings, the preference would have been paying my own - mainly because of the expensive amount of alcohol some consume whereas I'm unlikely to have had much ..... and my preference after a glass of wine is likely to be tap water.

As for sharing, I wouldn't randomly take food off someone else's plate (other than OH's), but short of reaching across other people what difference does it make to anyone else if OH and I want to taste each other's meal? I don't see why it's any more gross to be seen putting a fork with something from his plate in my mouth than one with food from my plate.

There's no right or wrong answer to any of this - what's strange is how vehemently people seem to be taking one stance or another. Generally speaking, whatever is agreed should be fine.

Wait until it goes in the email :rotfl::rotfl:

One course for me with possibility of a dessert and as a non drinker soft drinks only but happy to split the bill evenly because life is too short to be whipping out a calculator and working things out to the last penny and I always leave a tip