large booking at restaurant- how to split the bill?

Person_one

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Of course they matter (I expect most of us have been there at some point in our lives) but it doesn't mean that they should expect to be able to go on holidays and have meals out in the same way that those who have money do, given that those things are luxuries and not essentials.

It's that feeling of entitlement rather than managing with what you have that leads so many people into debt.

They do have the right to go out to meals without being expected to pay for more than their own bill though. They have the right to be able to make the decision on whether they go out based on what they will spend, not on what everybody else possibly might spend then expect them to cough up for.

missbiggles1

duchy wrote: »

I think a lot of it depends on where you live as well as your attitude.

You used to live in London - the social and financial range of your friends was probably far broader than it is now .

Thinking about it though I've kept my friends from my more socializing London days so maybe I still meet a broader range of people so the financial range is broader too . Interesting thought- Maybe I just don't care what people earn/have though <shrug>

I lived in London in my early twenties - all the people I knew then were either students or lowly office workers - we were all skint, just by virtue of living in London!

The only reason I even think about people's income is so that I don't embarrass them by suggesting that we eat in more expensive restaurants, which I may be able to afford but they may not. It actually gets more difficult when you're retired because you can find that you know people who are in the "asset/property rich, income poor" situation which I still find difficult to get my head around.:o

duchy

I'm just wondering how bad the meal was to only warrent a £2 tip per person for a three course meal.

missbiggles1

Person_one wrote: »

They do have the right to go out to meals without being expected to pay for more than their own bill though. They have the right to be able to make the decision on whether they go out based on what they will spend, not on what everybody else possibly might spend then expect them to cough up for.

We're going round in circles - I don't have the energy to dance this dance again.

Georgiegirl256

duchy wrote: »

Ah there's always those who believe paying more (and insisting on informing everyone they pay more) gives them some kind of status.......Although the status they believe it gives them ........and the one it actually does are somewhat different

You've just described my BIL and SIL to a tee! They think they're something, and really, they are not!

I don't know if some people actually really think discount shops just sell crap un branded (not that's there's anything wrong with that) rubbish or that they do realise they actually sell branded stuff like any other shop but their snobbishness prevents them from even setting foot in the place?

My MIL had never been in HB before until DH had took her there for a look. She found the deodorant that she uses £2 cheaper than what she pays in Boots/Superdrug etc. She told my SIL and she was saying how she wouldn't shop there, and my MIL was like "why? Things are the same that you get elsewhere but just cheaper" but she wouldn't have it.

Personally I laugh at people like that and love it when I get a bargain!

Granted, for some things spending more money is worth it, but for a lot of stuff it isn't. I'm pretty sure people's £7+ pack of Andrex doesn't feel any better on your bum than my £3.99 (for 18) pack of loo roll!

Person_one

missbiggles1 wrote: »

We're going round in circles - I don't have the energy to dance this dance again.

Well in over 1200 posts, nobody seems to have adjusted their opinions at all, so I can understand that!

Georgiegirl256

missbiggles1 wrote: »

We're going round in circles - I don't have the energy to dance this dance again.

Have another portion of porridge!

SingleSue

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Have another portion of porridge!

My aunt did the most amazing Scottish oats, I tried to recreate it but failed miserably and now she has sadly departed this world so will never get to experience her wonderful cooking again.

SingleSue

missbiggles1 wrote: »

I lived in London in my early twenties - all the people I knew then were either students or lowly office workers - we were all skint, just by virtue of living in London!

The only reason I even think about people's income is so that I don't embarrass them by suggesting that we eat in more expensive restaurants, which I may be able to afford but they may not. It actually gets more difficult when you're retired because you can find that you know people who are in the "asset/property rich, income poor" situation which I still find difficult to get my head around.:o

Silly as it may sound, I would actually be offended if you downgraded the choice or thought you were actively downgrading because of my financial situation.

You would probably end up being in a no win situation to be honest with me, I would be offended if you downgraded but would also be anxious/stressed if you didn't.

Pride is a begger! :rotfl:

onlyroz

Feral_Moon wrote: »

Precisely! I have one particular dining friend who's as adventurous and foodie as I am and we wouldn't think twice about dining at a restaurant with a tasting menu of £75 offering 5/6/7 courses.

But I have other friends who would never entertain paying that much for quality food, along with the dining experience. They're quite happy to dine at Hungry Horse or similar where they can get a full plate full for £5.

But what if you want the £75 tasting menu and I want a single course at say £25. Should we split the bill and pay £50 each? If you insisted on doing that then I wouldn't be eating out with you again.