Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

uberalles

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

Its more so neither of us spend it, Swain isn;t too bad with money but i'm terrible which is why i give him money to save for me, i shall ask about putting it into an account though

I was supposed to start the bipolar group session today but its a morrning session (yes i too am questioning the sanity to put a group of people with bipolar on a cocktail of sedative medications in a morning session ) and with working late on wednsdays (i didnt get home till 11:30 last night)i just can't do it. So i;ve asked if i can defer starting till the next session in june and i'm going to ask work if they will give me early wednesday finishes then/ Its only for 9 weeks so hopfully it can be done.

Oh, that's not good Messedup.

When did they drop that bombshell on you about it being a morning session? I'm interpreting that it must have been short notice.

Pyxis

dandy-candy wrote: »

. But sometimes I just really need someone to hug me and tell me it's going to be ok.

Blimey, Dandy! I can so relate to that!
The power of hugs, eh? Yet a lot of men find that hard to appreciate.:(



Out of interest, have you told him how helpful some hugs would be at those times?

And that it's not the same if you have to ask for a hug?

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

Swain is very understanding. If i'm down he;'l offer me hugs and reassurance. if i' m up he'll try and calm me down. I'm very lucky that hes so understanding because i can be a living nightmare to deal with.

I;ve not always been so lucky.

One of my exes did not deal with it well. When i was going through different medications he told me that the mental health team should think of him cos he was the one who had to deal with me/ he threatened to kill himself because i "stressed him out", he told me he wished i;d died from my last suicide attempt, and when i was struggling with self harm told me he's do it himself to me if i carried on

another ex refused point blank to acknowledge i was even mentally ill and told me frequently there were other people more deserving of benfits than me.

So i've had mixed reactions.

Oh goodness, MU!

Well, you're well out of those relationships!
I'm amazed you survived them! :T

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

also Pyxis, i've had no pepsi max all week and nearly drank though all the green tea work actually have :rotfl: i'm trying hard to kick the fizzy pop habit!

Yey! :T :T :T

:dance::dance::dance:

Go MU! :j :j :j





And I'm on my 12th day of Dry January!


Go us! Go us!
:rotfl:

Izadora

I'm very lucky that IzHe's naturally a cuddler so if I'm feeling down one of the first things he'll do is give me a hug. He does also try to fix things, I think it's a fairly standard male trait, but is slowly learning that sometimes I just want someone to say "there there" rather than try to give me solutions.

One of my favourite things he does is when I'm curled up in my chair and a bit mopey he'll build a fort round me with the sofa cushions and a blanket

MU - well done on the fizzy pop and I hope all goes well with deferring the bipolar group.

Pikachu - that's a massive amount of change to make, well done!!

Pyxis - yay for sticking with dry January, well done.

Ono - I totally agree. If I want chocolate then nothing, no matter how nice, is going to be an acceptable substitute.

It sounds utterly ridiculous but last year I didn't join my best mate in giving up chocolate for Lent because I was trying to diet - previous years I've found that I end up eating tonnes of biscuits in an attempt to satisfy a craving that one square of chocolate would get rid of.

onomatopoeia99

Izadora wrote: »

I'm very lucky that IzHe's naturally a cuddler so if I'm feeling down one of the first things he'll do is give me a hug. He does also try to fix things, I think it's a fairly standard male trait, but is slowly learning that sometimes I just want someone to say "there there" rather than try to give me solutions.

I'm a more fixer rather than a source of comfort . I give hugs, but my way of thinking is "you're unhappy because of X, how can I help solve X for you?"

dandy-candy

Mu I too am glad you left those crummy exs behind! Some people have no compassion.

Pyxis hugs are the best medication! And you're right that an asked for hug isn't the same as a automatic one, if I sort of bury myself into him though he does get the hint and give me a cuddle.

Izadora your fort comment really made me lol, thanks for sharing that

geminilady

I don't post very often but read and wow it is quiet on here! would hate the thread to go as there used to be one for depression a few years back and it disappeared.so come on everyone get posting

Pyxis

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

I'm a more fixer rather than a source of comfort . I give hugs, but my way of thinking is "you're unhappy because of X, how can I help solve X for you?"

Aw! Give 'em a hug first, Ono, then do the fixing!

Hugs should always be the default setting!




Besides:

Before a hug........HUGE PROBLEM



After a hug...........Problem half the size and not as fiercesome.

Pyxis

Re. the thread, I suppose it's trickier without our honourable leader.


But she has been in a bad way.

WaS, if you're lurking, do pop in, if you feel up to it! :A
You started a brilliant set of threads, and helped loads of people!






By the way, I'm over the hump with Dry January, and still going strong!

Izadora

Pyxis wrote: »

By the way, I'm over the hump with Dry January, and still going strong!

:T:T:T

Well done and keep up the good work.

Happy Friday everyone.

elsien

I'm still here.

Vent alert: self pitying self indulgent whinge coming up. Feel free to skip, not after advice, just having a moan.



My usual January blues have kicked in and motivation is zero.
Gitdog is poorly and is being far too subdued. . (This is a comparative thing - he'd be acting normally for any other dog!)
Work is ridiculously pressured and not likely to change any time soon.
can't remember when i last got together with friends
Written off my car in an accident of my own making.
House is a tip and thoroughly depressing me. And needs lots of work doing to it that i am currently ignoring.


Roll on spring.