Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

dekaspace

Phew, I just hand moved as much of the leaves from my garden to the other side of fence (right next to communal bins) took about 45 minutes most of that clearing the majority from my gate, next to my verandah and the fence next to the tree, I did just dump them onto the grass at side of flat so how if it gets windy it doesnt blow back into my garden.


I really need a rake for the rest of it, did buy one but the ground is very muddy normally and rock solid in this weather so can't drag stuff.


I made a pile of leaves about 5 foot high and the shape of a snowman! An d thats half or so of the leaves in my garden.

Lambyr

Yay! After far too long mucking around, several complaints, long phone calls, live chats, emails, general frustration and added expense, I finally have a working phone line and up-to-speed Internet again!

This is probably the least stressed I've been in a while.

Now to enjoy these few days before the rellies phone to announce they're descending on me again. Bah.

System

Festive depression (had it every year for the past 7/8 years) is trying to kick in. Felt it bad last night, Now trying to counter it with Christmas songs, its so annoying, theres no reason to be down, ive got xmas off i'm seeing Swain and seeing my family, works fine (if not a little busy),i;ve been taking my meds. Just seems to kick in this time very year. sod it i'll listen to christmas songs till it subsides!!!

dekaspace

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

Festive depression (had it every year for the past 7/8 years) is trying to kick in. Felt it bad last night, Now trying to counter it with Christmas songs, its so annoying, theres no reason to be down, ive got xmas off i'm seeing Swain and seeing my family, works fine (if not a little busy),i;ve been taking my meds. Just seems to kick in this time very year. sod it i'll listen to christmas songs till it subsides!!!

I get extra weak in the dark months, the one year I was on meds I felt physically faint i.e dizzy and wanting to throw up literally around 3.30pm when it got dark.


Now I don't get them I just feel sleepier all day.


With me though it does get better with some vitamins, that may be because the last time my doctor actually gave me blood tests 2 years ago they discovered I had a iron deficiency in the winter months, and the year before that my testosterone dropped to dangerous levels, you would think with that history they would check but nope, cutbacks.

System

dekaspace wrote: »

I get extra weak in the dark months, the one year I was on meds I felt physically faint i.e dizzy and wanting to throw up literally around 3.30pm when it got dark.


Now I don't get them I just feel sleepier all day.


With me though it does get better with some vitamins, that may be because the last time my doctor actually gave me blood tests 2 years ago they discovered I had a iron deficiency in the winter months, and the year before that my testosterone dropped to dangerous levels, you would think with that history they would check but nope, cutbacks.

I'm on vitamin d as well as my meds and gp thought it would help. my mood do seem to follow the season,like new year/spring i usually end up manic, autumn/winter its more depression. Just what i need my mood decided upon by bloody seasons!

dekaspace

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

I'm on vitamin d as well as my meds and gp thought it would help. my mood do seem to follow the season,like new year/spring i usually end up manic, autumn/winter its more depression. Just what i need my mood decided upon by bloody seasons!

I feel the tiniest bit better in January, reasonably better in Febuary, March and April all things considered are the best months of the year for me, the lighter days, not freezing but not too warm or light to late hours.


In Feb-Aprtil I tend to read more books or watch more movies as I am chilled without feeling over tired (though still weak and sleepy)

Pyxis

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

I'm on vitamin d as well as my meds and gp thought it would help. my mood do seem to follow the season,like new year/spring i usually end up manic, autumn/winter its more depression. Just what i need my mood decided upon by bloody seasons!

Have you tried using a SAD light?
They aren't cheap, but it might help.

Make sure you get a proper one, though. There are lots of 'fakes' which don't offer the correct light spectrum thing.

seven-day-weekend

Hi everyone, hope I can update on something aftert not posting for ages (although I have been lurking).

I don't know whether anyone remembers, last year some long-standing friends fell out with us because we had to leave their wedding reception because my husband was suffering from anxiety? I did explain and apologise, but to no avail. The man in the relationship who we have known for forty years is quite ill and we asked if she would keep us updated on his health, she said no, we didn't deserve it.

Anyway, a few days ago I sent a message via Facebook to their daughter. I said politely that she may or may not know that her mum no longer considered us friends, but we had been wondering about her dad's health and could she let us know how he was. I said if she felt she couldn't go against her mum's wishes we would understand and wished her a merry Christmas.

Anyway, I got the most vile reply from her mum, saying how dare we, that her husband agreed they wanted nothing to do with us, and that even if he died we are the last people they would inform. (This is a censored version, it truly was vile and toxic).

Anyway, I wasn't upset like I was last year. It struck me that her reaction was ridiculous. It wasn't as though we had injured her grandchildren, or burgled her house. It was to do with us having to leave her wedding reception, for which I had explained and apologised profusely. I have never held that much hate for anyone for so long, over such what, in the overall stream of things, is a pretty trivial issue.

So I thought I don't need this and I have now deleted all converstions with her on FB and blocked her. They can still get in touch through their daughter, should they ever wish.

But I'm a bit sad about her husband, we have known him over forty years, he lived with us when his first marriage broke up. I don't believe for a minute he agrees with her, but he will take the line of least resistance,he always has done.

Anyway, thanks for letting me vent, I needed to tell someone .

Love, etc to all.

Pyxis

Seven-day, I feel it is enough that you made that gesture, and obviously the guy will know about it. If he is glad you asked after him, then that's ok. If he also doesn't want contact, then that's ok too.

You can't do any more than that, so you were right to draw a big black line under the relationship.


Relationships with friends can be strange. It might be that other things in your relationship with her had been festering for years, and the wedding incident tipped the balance. It might be that subconsciously, for whatever reason, she was looking for a getout clause from her relationship with you, and the wedding thing gave her that reason.
Or she may just be a really horrible person.
Either way, it's all over, and you can do no more for the husband.

At the end of the day, even with his illness, he is a grown man, and if he wanted to acknowledge you, it would be very easy for him to do so, but for whatever reason, he chose not to.

You've let them know you care, but they don't want that, so, sad though it is, inexplicable though it is, you can't do any more.


Deep breath, draw yourself up, shut that door and open a new one! :A

seven-day-weekend

Pyxis wrote: »

Seven-day, I feel it is enough that you made that gesture, and obviously the guy will know about it. If he is glad you asked after him, then that's ok. If he also doesn't want contact, then that's ok too.

You can't do any more than that, so you were right to draw a big black line under the relationship.


Relationships with friends can be strange. It might be that other things in your relationship with her had been festering for years, and the wedding incident tipped the balance. It might be that subconsciously, for whatever reason, she was looking for a getout clause from her relationship with you, and the wedding thing gave her that reason.
Or she may just be a really horrible person.
Either way, it's all over, and you can do no more for the husband.

At the end of the day, even with his illness, he is a grown man, and if he wanted to acknowledge you, it would be very easy for him to do so, but for whatever reason, he chose not to.

You've let them know you care, but they don't want that, so, sad though it is, inexplicable though it is, you can't do any more.


Deep breath, draw yourself up, shut that door and open a new one! :A

I agree with every word you have said, Pyxis. Thanks . I think she wanted out of the relationship . Well she is out of it now.