Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

dandy-candy

We rang 101 and they transferred us to the control centre but said there was a queue to be answered. We held for 23 minutes without answer before deciding to fill in the online statement instead. I got DS to dictate it to me and was really shocked when he said it was a woman in her 20s/30s who was driving. I'd imagined it to be some boy racer in a stolen car or something, maybe I'm old fashioned but I'm really shocked that a woman of that age would be so callous to drive off when she must have felt her car going over his leg.

dekaspace

dandy-candy wrote: »

We rang 101 and they transferred us to the control centre but said there was a queue to be answered. We held for 23 minutes without answer before deciding to fill in the online statement instead. I got DS to dictate it to me and was really shocked when he said it was a woman in her 20s/30s who was driving. I'd imagined it to be some boy racer in a stolen car or something, maybe I'm old fashioned but I'm really shocked that a woman of that age would be so callous to drive off when she must have felt her car going over his leg.

Women and men are not much different when driving, I find women actually to be more agressive when it comes to taking corners or having the nose of their car poking out a side lane.

I mean today I was with a friend and were walking next to some lights on the pavement (which lowers as its next to car park) this young woman who looked in her 20s took the one way turn about 10 feet from the entrace and just pulled straight into car park almost hitting my friend who had to quickly react and step back.

Then her and her passenger gave us dirty looks, she even went at a highish speed into the car park too (id say 20-30 mph but bear in mind the car park only holds like 20 cars tightly packed)

Izadora

Dandy, I'm glad you've got your son with you so that you don't have to worry about how he's doing and hopefully he'll heal quickly.

Did everything get sorted out with his landlord in the end?

Also, YAY, Friday!!! :j

This week, thanks to random bouts of insomnia, seems to have been a very long one. I would say that I'm looking forward to a weekend of doing nothing but I haven't done very well with planning and am out with IzHe tonight, have stuff to do during the day tomorrow and am out with the girls in the evening. Then, rather than having a nice lie in on Sunday I'll be going over to my parents' as they're away and we're cat-sitting.

Have a good weekend everyone, hugs and squishes to all who need them.

whitewing

Well done dandycandy and dcDS.

It may be that the driver panicked and drove off. (No excuse, of course, but may not be as callous as it seems). I know when I was younger if things went wrong, I would want to find a friendly face to talk to to sort it out, plus they wouldn't know who your son actually is.

Hope the noisy neighbours are under control today!

I have got some Christmas crafts to do this weekend. I would rather be doing them now so optimistically brought some to work but doubt that I will get a chance today.

Littlewing has a busy Saturday so that will involve trailing around after her tomorrow afternoon.

Then there is a family birthday meal on Sunday. So I think I'll be very tired by the evening.

dekaspace

Stressed with that friend, the one that goes into miserable sod mode when hes tired or stressed then gets snappy.

All I did was query if he contacted his old ISP since he moved 2 weeks ago to cancel contract.

He started saying no with some confusing wording which implied he was too busy.

Then I mentioned his ex flatmate wants to get a line put in as someone he knows can get him a cheap deal i.e tv phone and broadband for £25 per month.

His response "well the contract ends in 3 months, so he should pay me £75 then"

I say its easier for everyone for him to cancel and friend responds

"well he can argue with the isp for 8 hours then"

I say he can't, only (he) can cancel to get

"well invent a new day then"

I mention he can email a complaint in then and he goes

"I don't want the hassle, just give me the £75"

Its the sort of person he is, he gets stressed easily and if you say certain things to him then he gets snappy. I was the one who found him all 3 properties he viewed (inc the one he took) when he moved here I found him a cheap washing machine and free sofa, when he comes round for his weekly take away and chat he lets me phone as he tells me its too stressful to order a take away himself.

I don't think hes a user but just in his own world which he retreats into and neither thinks nor cares about the stress and problems it causes others.

He lived in his last flat 9 months, he never hoovered since day one when he moved the walls had a large dust mark from ceiling to floor and its about a 12 feet wall!

dandy-candy

Deka I really don't know why you bother being friends with this guy, he sounds a real burden. Is the friendship worth the stress?

Izadora nothing has come of the landlord situation but he does sound pretty unpleasant from some stuff my son has told me. I will be very glad when this academic year ends and he moves out!

When we filled in the online police form about DS accident it said we will contact you in 24 hours if we feel it necessary. Well it's been over 24hrs and nothing which I think is pretty rubbish. DS of course is quite happy as he didn't want the hassle but I have just tweeted the local force saying what had happened and that no ones been in touch. I haven't told DS I've done this as I know he wouldn't want me to bother, but it seemed wrong. Now I'm not sure if I should have done it behind his back. I might delete it, I don't know?

*update* I did delete it. I had remembered my other son said to me just yesterday that I have to stop mothering them and let them make their own decisions and mistakes.

dekaspace

It's tough as I am his only friend and I can see he has social anxieties and depression though he struggles to see anything but his own way.

He promised to me me today as he was doing his washing at old flat around the corner at 1pm, he never showed up I know he is also meant to get internet in today so its more likely he had that done and just forgot but shows the sort of mentality he has, things just don't cross his mind and his overall personality is like speaking to a young child who doesn't realise they have done wrong.

dekaspace

Im thinking to take a step back from my friend anyway, now he lives barely over a mile away he seems obsessed with his own life, I had another discussion with hin last night where I just logged off mid conversation as he was angering me too much, I asked him that is it likely going forward he will come round to mine on the Friday night for a takeaway and he mentioned no.


But didn't end it like that mentioned it was because I refused to let him stay in my spare room, and I discussed reasons why and though he claimed "it was my right" he kept disregarding reasons.


One he isn't tidy and piles up rubbish, he basically said so what/I was exagerrating
One I said I had to wash the sheets after as my parents use it sometimes he said I was making things hard for myself and that was silly (not taking into account he works in fish factory and only showers a few times a week, has severe dandruff as never washes his hair, and questionable hygine.


I said that I wanted my privacy and to go to bed and wake whenever I wanted he said "well it won't be hassle as I will have a nap and leave first thing in morning" Well I thought either way that means he was just treating my flat as a place to sleep with no respect.


I did also enquire about how 3 out of the last 4 occasions he was meant to turn up he didn't and he told me "I never confirmed it, it was your fault for assuming I would turn up"


His words each time I asked was like me saying "Are you coming round today/tomorrow at usual time" and he would reply like "sure/yes" but often saying something like "assuming something else doesn't come up" and I would ask "ok then leave me a message either way" He of course never did. then uses that "I never confirmed it, so therefore its your fault for assuming" excuse.


I even googled it, 23 minutes walk to his new place going the short route, 27 main road route


His main excuses was "its too cold to walk back" then when I said its a small price to pay he whinged at me "I shouldn't have to suffer as you don't want me to stay" and off on a rant, felt like speaking to a spoiled child.


Was at that point I disconnected from the chat, just angry at him.

onomatopoeia99

dandy-candy wrote: »

*update* I did delete it. I had remembered my other son said to me just yesterday that I have to stop mothering them and let them make their own decisions and mistakes.

Which is good advice.

30 years past, but I can remember thinking "I'm 18 now, it's my responsibility, let me take responsibility." But I never said it as I didn't want to upset the applecart at home, I just never came back after university. Two hours away on the motorway gives one the freedom to get on with life without oversight.

surveyqueenuk

Oh hell's teeth. Hells bloody bells. PIP review tomorrow :eek:

Positive wishes needed please...