Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

elsien

I think I may be getting a little cynical in my old age.

Post on FB from an adult wanting to know if her stepfather with dementia who lacks capacity can adopt her as it's what he would have wanted.
I immediately started to wonder a)if it meant so much to him why he hasn't done something about it when he was well enough and b) is there an inheritance involved.
Am I a realist or just too suspicious, do you think?

calleyw

elsien wrote: »

I think I may be getting a little cynical in my old age.

Post on FB from an adult wanting to know if her stepfather with dementia who lacks capacity can adopt her as it's what he would have wanted.
I immediately started to wonder a)if it meant so much to him why he hasn't done something about it when he was well enough and b) is there an inheritance involved.
Am I a realist or just too suspicious, do you think?

Nope would think the same as you.

Yours

Calley X

Gingernutty

No elsien, I'd call you a realist.

It sounds like there's no will and a hefty inheritance.

jobbingmusician

Yes, it really is a case of 'to what end'? If he really lacks capacity surely it won't now make any difference to him if she is adopted? On the other hand, if she ACTS like a daughter to him, she could make his last few years very pleasant. The only difference between the 2 scenarios is therefore to her.... and oh, it might just affect any inheritance......

System

Torry_Quine wrote: »

My pip refusal has left me feelng totally useless and worthless. My lfe feels empty and what's the point of bothering if I'm not believed.

I'm really sorry it was bad new Torry don;t know if you have facebook but theres an advocacy group who seem nice and who i've heard can be very helpful with appeals and stuff, maybe give them a message and see if they can help advocate for you? Found them when i was applying for PIP

https://www.facebook.com/FightBack4Justice/?fref=ts

Torry_Quine

MU thanks.

tea_lover

Can you adopt an adult anyway? I thought the cut-off was 18 but I could well have made that up!

Izadora

Morning All,

GN - belated birthday wishes. Sorry Coventry wasn't what you'd hoped but at least the play was good.

I was away for the weekend for a friends' wedding and we had to go pretty much straight to my parents' house when we got back for a big dinner for my Auntie's birthday. Having forgotten to re-set my alarm and drunk a little too much wine for a school night, I ended up taking yesterday off work and doing very little other than watch telly yesterday. Probably not the best use of annual leave but it was most definitely needed!!

I'm another one who's suffering a rather severe lack of motivation at work. There's often not really enough to do and what there is seems so pointless that it's hard to bother.

onomatopoeia99

tea_lover wrote: »

Can you adopt an adult anyway?

It seems you can't in the UK. But you can in Germany, according to an article in the Manchester Grauniad I found while avoiding doing proper work :rotfl:

calleyw

Afternoon my lovelies,

Hugs and squishes and handshakes all round.

Not feeling good think it might be action mans cold. Took doggy out for a walk this morning. Put my trainers on so I could walk at a faster pace than my normal walking boots. Feeling light headed.

Massive Penguin Diet/weight/ED

Last night action man took a photo of me. OMG :eek: look like a massive fat elephant. I know I have gained weight. When I said I am fat action man tells me to be quiet. he tells me I am cuddly!!!!

I just want to tape my mouth up and never eat again. Yes I know that is not the right thing to do.

Its not his fault its all my own. But action man is not helpful as he seems to want to eat crap most of the time. I try and cook every night when he is here. But he seems to prefer takeout. Never eaten so much take out.

Mind you when I was younger at 13/14 I was 10st 7lbs and I thought I was fat.

Penguin end

I think the cold is getting to me as according to action man I am getting a bit snappy with him. I think it is getting use to having someone else in the house long term. As lodger was never here. And I never had to do anything for him. Got to be careful I don't self sabotage.

Need to stop whinging and start to make plans to get everything together. Like work out how I am going to get back to work or get some sort of income.

Yours

Calley X