Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

Oakdene

I do often wonder why I continually put myself in a position where I know no good can come of it & the outcome will be I get hurt

onomatopoeia99

I find without the deadline imposed by an actual lesson that I have to attend (as in my Italian evening class), any kind of study gets pushed to the bottom of the list of jobs to do, then sort of falls off the bottom of the list and vanishes into oblivion :rotfl:

codemonkey

Waiting for scary work related call. Golden lights vibes please.

Izadora

Code, I hope the call goes well. Here are some pretty golden lights for you

Wellyboots6

I'm signed up to Ingress now ono but no idea what I'm doing, just clicking stuff!

faerielight

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I've has such an awful day, the friend that is clearly still mad at me for being mentally ill, and who is my current guarantor came to help me do the last bits of cleaning and tidying for the flat inspection and he was yelling at me to go.. myself and yelling at my cats and scaring the hell out of them.. they are terrified of him anyway. He has asked me not to show any panic/anxiety/be upset or distressed but when i ask him not to be aggressive to me and my cats he tells me how dare i tell him how to behave. it's such an awful dynamic , he's resentful and angry cos he had to act as my next of kin for 5 years when i've been in hospital, and he's the only able bodied friend to help me with anything i cant do physically and what my care agency wont do, but then that means he is agressive.. right now, if I didn't need him, I would so be trying to protect myself against his aggression but i cant because i have no one else to help me bar him, but i draw the line at him scaring my cats, but he always says im over protective of them,and they are just stupid animals, . and he hates animals anyway.but their not.. they are my kitty babies. One of my cats is timid anyway, I hate it that he treats them so badly, nd pepper's timidity angers him all the more.. this friend is such a bully these days to everyone,Any form of vulnerabilty, be it his parents ibn a care home, me or animals, vulnerability makes him so aggressive. he has such a huge ego and arrogance.. I hate it when i'm in a cafe or shop and talks down to people and treats workers like dirt.. he never used to be this bad, he is just so scary and horrible to be around, and his agression is scaring me. the only way to deal with it is to dissociate, go quiet, not make a fuss Her used to be loving and kind and gentle with me for 25 years, then he got sober, got off drugs and alcohol, moved back to brrighton 2 years ago and has been so awful to me since the move.

. I've feel emotionally battered, and got the housing entourage tomorrow.. I'm petrified, and back to hysterical crying and panic again.. I don't ever seem to run out of tears.

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Torry_Quine

Faerie that's awful for you and your cats. I wish I lived near you to help. Hugs

Pyxis

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codemonkey

Faerie, I don't think he'd be welcome in my home if he treated me or my furbaby like that.

In other news, I have been offered a new job. Of course instead of being happy, I am panicking because I am a giant ovethinker and scary thing is scary.

calleyw

codemonkey wrote: »

In other news, I have been offered a new job. Of course instead of being happy, I am panicking because I am a giant ovethinker and scary thing is scary.

Code,

Massive hugs for you. I know its very scary for you.

All the best.

Yours

Calley