Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

Pyxis

Oakdene wrote: »

Hopefully youre right, however I'm not sure things will be the same again.

You know, stuff happens, and over time hurts can ease up.

Have you been in contact with them to talk about it? Although it may be too raw still.

Oakdene

Pyxis wrote: »

You know, stuff happens, and over time hurts can ease up.

Have you been in contact with them to talk about it? Although it may be too raw still.

No doubt that time will heal, just really gutted I'm on the verge of losing a very close friend because we both acted impulsively on our feelings...

Pyxis

Oakdene wrote: »

No doubt that time will heal, just really gutted I'm on the verge of losing a very close friend because we both acted impulsively on our feelings...

If you both acted impulsively, then there may be some common ground there?
Would it be worth approaching them to demonstrate how much you value their friendship and regret your impulsive action?


(The only reason this might not work is if infidelity is involved, with your friend being the 'injured' party. That would take an awful lot of mending).

codemonkey

Hello friends.

Sorry for my absence. Work has been mega busy, deadlines everywhere and a totally awful place to be since my manager decided he doesn't want to work there, they've not made any attempt to replace him and somehow everyone seems to think I know what I'm doing I'm actually furious about how the whole thing has played out so haven't been in a very chatty mood. I'm looking for a new job because of all this.

codemonkey

Also just started a LinkedIn thingy. No idea what I'm meant to do with it and haven't got many contacts so far.

Lambyr

codemonkey wrote: »

Also just started a LinkedIn thingy. No idea what I'm meant to do with it and haven't got many contacts so far.

I know about LinkedIn.

Do you need any advice?

Waves_and_Smiles

Oh no,tuna! What a nightmare, no wonder you are both stressed. Is the hotel at least comfy?

Talk to your friend oakdene. If it is a strong friendship you will get through it. It may not be the same but it could become even stronger.

I am sure WaSp would be happy to share his photo's Georgie! I shall ask him!

Code! We missed you! So sorry to hear about the work situation, that sounds terrible and way too much pressure on you. Good luck with the job hunt, your current place of work doesn't sound like they value their employees very much.

It is my american friend's birthday today. She has the day off work and she decided what she wants to do is order pizza and play computer games with me all day which is rather funny and sweet. She normally has such a busy and sociable life that a celebration for her is staying in pj's, seeing no one but her cats and playing Minecraft. So that i what I shall be doing!

codemonkey

Lambyr wrote: »

I know about LinkedIn.

Do you need any advice?

Meh, I don't know. I have a profile and everything. Just not sure what I'm meant to actually do with it.

DH got headhunted through his, but he works for a big organisation and has loads of contacts whereas I sit behind a desk and do my codemonkey thing and know about 10 people. :rotfl:

Also, I had a very weird phone interview. Well, I say phone interview. The dude talked at me for 30 minutes. I'm not sure how he decides if he wants to see me in person from that. I couldn't get a word in, and I can talk for Scotland when I'm nervous.

Lambyr

codemonkey wrote: »

Meh, I don't know. I have a profile and everything. Just not sure what I'm meant to actually do with it.

DH got headhunted through his, but he works for a big organisation and has loads of contacts whereas I sit behind a desk and do my codemonkey thing and know about 10 people. :rotfl:

Also, I had a very weird phone interview. Well, I say phone interview. The dude talked at me for 30 minutes. I'm not sure how he decides if he wants to see me in person from that. I couldn't get a word in, and I can talk for Scotland.

I'd just make sure that your little bio/blurb thing contains a "Specialties" or "Skills" section at the bottom where you just reel off what you're familiar with doing... so it might say something like "Skills: PHP, C++, Java, MySQL" blah blah blah.

It's a good idea to put down what excites you... some folks prefer LinkedIn over the usual recruitment process because they can get a sense of the candidate and how motivated they'd be. A lot of people apply for jobs because they need a job, whereas on LinkedIn you can throw in words like "enjoy" or telling people you have a passion for development or whatever.

But you know, make it sorta personal and make them think that you wouldn't rock up to work needing five cups of coffee before you even open your email, because you've stayed up all night watching Netflix box sets to take your mind off the fact that you hate your job. Where you list other jobs, don't just treat it like a CV but make yourself look more enthused by the work, and genuinely excited about what you've done.

Worth also including a note that you're happy to talk to recruiters. Depending on whether your current employer is likely to get the hump with that and how diplomatic you need to be informs how subtle you may like to be.

There's the outright statement that you're looking for new opportunities, the slightly less obvious statement that you're happy to talk about new opportunities and the safe statement about being always interested in new connections.

Also LinkedIn does have groups and forums you can join, if you can stomach the heavy Americanisation of business networking. So join a few groups, post a little bit here and there and see if any new connections roll in as a result.

And you can go share some articles you find and follow "influencers" in your industry, make the odd comment on their post. All about getting noticed really.

calleyw

Afternoon ship mates,

Hugs and squishes and handshakes. Hope everyone is the best they can be today.

Was having a good day until I hit my neighbours car and put a scrape on the front bumper. Did not damage my car. I will fess up later. Just got to steel myself. I know he wont go mad but not point just makes me feel like a carp driver. And the times I have seen both him and his wife bump my car when parking. never come and say I just bumped your car. So kinda feel not like telling him. But its got red paint on it the same colour as my and his wife car and during day light hrs so anyone could have seen me.

Anyway steak and cinema day today. Paid for by me today.

Penguin -Stuff about woman things and probably TMI :rotfl:

I think I am peri menopausal as periods are ranging from 21-28 days. And I know it has been warm but I seem to be sweating like a pig for not a lot of reason recently as well as my sleep is a bit messed up as well. So who knows.

Penguin end

Me and lego man are fine saw him sunday evening and will see him again at some stage this week. Still struggling with how easy it all is. He texts me every day and we make plans and they happen. And i know where I stand.

Lodger came back after a few days away. It was nice having no one else in the house.

Any how. Everyone take care.

Yours

Calley