Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

Georgiegirl256

Thank you Torry :A

faerielight

hi guys.. Yay for Saturday!! It means that my week long solitude is over for a couple of days! I saw my bestie male friend and the last couple of weeks he has spent a good few hours here with me at home.. the last year and a half it was just a quick coffee, but it's nice to have the time to chat and feel close again.. he's so good to talk to.. we talk a lot about psychology, he reads a lot of interesting articles and he seems to be a lot less angry the last couple of weeks.. I'm really missed our friendship,the last couple of years he's been so distant, but it feels good again at the mo And I get to see my female bestie tonight for some binge watching! The make friend who is acutely mentally ill hasn't been in touch since I backed off from the health triggers.. I do worry about him though, and miss him.

As you know, it's a lonely, hard, depressing week, but the weekends are good And my foot is getting better so I recon I'll be able to drive on mon to get to the centre for the group, plus I've got keyworking. I've got a new colouring book too and it's really magical! Enchanted Forest by Johanna Basford.. have any of you got any of her books?

Waves_and_Smiles

Aw, I am so glad that you are having a good weekend, Faerie! A good friend can make such a difference!

I am in a happy mood because WaSp just gave me a huge compliment without meaning to, and because he has lived with me for 26 years I do take him seriously. We were talking about a friend who is being rather frustrating right now and I said that he isn't so bad, I see a lot of good in him. WaSp then said "But your default position is always to see the good in everyone! Unless people prove otherwise to you, you always like them and want to help them no matter what they do. It takes so much for you to view someone badly, you like everyone!"

He meant that it frustrates him that I do that but I thought what a lovely opinion of me! I WANT to be like that and I am so glad that he see's me that way. He rarely talks about how he views me and only did this time to point that he's frustrated with me but it made my day. I like myself a little more now which is no mean feat for me! So WaSp got a big thank you cuddle and he's even more frustrated and confused now. :rotfl:

faerielight

He is right!You do see the good in everyone!.. Even in me

Torry_Quine

Glad you're having a good weekend Faerie and that the foot is improving.

Waves_and_Smiles

Aw, it's easy to see the good in you, Faerie! There is so very much of it!

Poor WaSp is now saying he can't even insult me because I take it well! He is also laughing a lot and says he gives up. That wasn't an insult, it was a lovely thing to say and I am very happy that after knowing me for 26 years that he thinks of me that way. I thought it was incredibly sweet!

Pyxis

This made me laugh!:rotfl:

Torry_Quine

Pyxis great picture.

Pyxis

This one's button has been activated......run for your lives! :rotfl:

Pyxis

The regular repost....

Pyxis wrote: »

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Here is the suggested THREAD ETIQUETTE. By following this etiquette, all posters, whether new or existing, will feel safe, unpressured and respected..

!!!But first...............please be assured..................................................................******It should be pointed out that if anyone is feeling very distressed or close to a crisis, they do not have to worry about what they are posting, or whether it is a penguin for someone else or not. (See below about penguins). In a crisis situation, just post! We wouldn't want anyone to feel that they couldn't ask for help in case it's a penguin! The penguin thing only applies to a general discussion situation.******


- This is a thread for support. We have discovered some good friends on here, but we promise always to welcome and include new people, and not to be cliquey.

- People may make suggestions to help each other, and might even ask if the suggestions were helpful or have been carried out, but we'll really try not to nag each other or put too much pressure on.

- The normal board rules about sexism, racism, homophobia etc. apply, but if we are careful we should be able to discuss almost anything without breaching board rules - so far we have discussed subjects ranging from child abuse to incontinence!

-If someone thinks that too much pressure is being applied, they can post the trigger word PENGUIN and flag up the fact that they believe there's a potential for someone feeling too nagged to do something. ANYONE could post PENGUIN if they felt there was a danger that suggestions were being enforced too much.

Similarly, if they want to discuss something that might be a trigger for some people, then posting PENGUIN would be a warning that what follows in the whiteout might be a trigger.


- So, if you think something might be a PENGUIN, please post something like the green bit which follows.

"Possible penguin about.........(Type of Trigger)" The trigger might be:- child abuse, marital abuse/violence, paranoia, stalkers, death, etc. (It's important to indicate the type of trigger, so that people can avoid reading it if they need to).

Then, when you post, repost the word PENGUIN above the discussion. Then post the penguiny bit in white! And the phrase END OF PENGUIN when you have finished.

It will look like this. You will be able to see the white text if you highlight it or if you quote it, (so please don't 'quote' a post containing a penguin onto the thread!)
(Harmless example follows here):-
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This is a penguin. A nasty, crotch biting penguin (CBP).
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IMPORTANT: It has been ascertained that some posters to this thread have found that there are certain subjects which act as triggers, precipitating a worsening of their condition.
To protect these posters, you are respectfully requested NOT to discuss these subjects on this thread:-

Religion. (Please note: it is recognised that everyone is entitled to their beliefs, and we respect those beliefs. It is only because of the fact that religion does act as a trigger for some posters, that we exclude it from discussion.)
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The afterlife. The reason for this is explained in this thread by one poster, and there will be others for whom this is a trigger.

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- More suggestions please.............We stress that we are suggesting that we AGREE some Thread Etiquette to HELP people who might feel anxious about posting, we are not trying to IMPOSE rules, just relating this to facilitating groups, so that people feel safe and able to participate as fully as they can.

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