Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

onomatopoeia99

Pyxis, I don't know I'm afraid, my telephone is Android, I don't have an iPhone/iPad to check on.

I have a feeling that given how much Apple lock down what software developers can control on iOS devices (one of the reasons I dislike Apple), such an application would be impossible without jailbreaking the phone. That is just a feeling I have though.

tea_lover

I genuinely had to leave the office last week as a visitor sitting behind me had a) incredibly loud keypad tones on and b) the need to constantly text! It was a choice of go for a walk or throw or a stapler at him.

I was relieved in some ways when I found misophonia is a real thing. Had always wondered what was wrong with me... and now I know lol! Least I have an explanation for why other people eating crisps induces an utter rage in me!

Georgiegirl256

I have a dilemma, not a big one, but I still can't make a decision. I've been invited to the photographic societies 'out of hours' sessions. When the club stops it's Monday night indoor meetings and replaces them with outside ones to get some new shots and go to the pub!

I never went with my Dad when he was alive (apart from one) and although I love photography, visiting places like old churches etc isn't really my thing, and I've got so out of touch with socialising with new people (I stick to the friends I've have known for years!) and nowadays I just feel awkward. I used to be able to mix and talk with anyone, but if feel like I've lost all my confidence. But, I do kind of want to go. I'm going backwards and forwards here over a simple choice, do I go or not.

D is pretty antisocial nowadays, and I feel it is rubbing off on me, and I hate it. We were out in the country yesterday and he was saying how he'd love to live out there, and I said I'd absolutely hate it and hate the solitude. I know I tell other people not to catastrophise things, but that's exactly what I was doing yesterday. He'd love a house with no neighbours about, and that's just not me at all. I was thinking well if that's what you want, we might as well just split up now because that ain't what I'd want buddy. I know he was just probably talking out loud, but in my head he's got the for sale sign up and moved in already! :rotfl:

tea_lover

Georgie, can really empathise with a lot of that post!

FWIW, I think I'd go along once (unless I absolutely hated the idea) and tell myself I wouldn't make any decisions about whether I'd be going again until after that first time. The worst that happens is you're bored and a bit awkward for a couple of hours, and you know you can survive that.

Make it a smaller decision - rather than thinking "do I want to join this group, go every week (or however often they meet), socialise with them", etc. think about "do I fancy spending an hour or so out one evening and seeing how it goes".

Which I realise is always easier said than done! My default position is always to stay at home but I've been better at making myself try things over the last couple of years. Some have been good, some have been awful. Some have become longer-term interests and some I wouldn't go back to if you paid me. But overall, I'm glad I tried them.

Flybaby

Code - Chubb rub made me laugh. I never had a term for it before. I buy cheap legging s or cycling shorts and cut them down to wear under skirts but since my skirts are always black, I can use black ones no problem.


The hatred of sound thing really struck a bell for me. I thought I was just really sensitive to sound and very very intolerant. very interesting. It often results in me wearing ear defenders or ear plugs, even in the house and the garden.


Georgie - FWIW - I too would love to live in isolation in the country with no neighbours (mainly because of the noise thing) but Mr Flybaby is MR SOCIABLE and would hate it. But we manage and you should not be worried about your differences in levels of socialness as long as you work to understand each other. No split required! Just a little understanding and you are absolutely right in not letting it rub off on you. I know I would certainly not want my unsocialbleness rubbing off on Mr.Flybaby - it's part of what makes him him.

onomatopoeia99

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

and I've got so out of touch with socialising with new people (I stick to the friends I've have known for years!) and nowadays I just feel awkward.

I've always felt like that, at least since I started to become an adult, although it has become worse in recent years. That said, I went to a couple of photography related events organised on another forum a few years go and it was actually OK, since wandering around taking photos allows for as much or as little interaction as you want, I had the camera to focus (!) on as well, so the requirement to actually talk to people I didn't know wasn't as pressing. Plus there was the shared hobby to facilitate conversation.

I wasn't always this way, when I was at infants and primary, I got told I had "verbal diawoowoo" but then went completely the other way around age twelve, which co-incided with the onset of puberty (whether that was related or not, I have no idea).

heartbreak_star

Thanks everyone.

Melly - annoyed on feedback from recruiter. The interviewer heavily implied they would make me an offer (in fact, as good as said it) and then called the recruiter to say he had two more candidates. He then gave the job to one of them.

HBS x

mellymoo74

Hmm mm
We're they all the same agency?

And
I would find person who interviewed you on LinkedIn send a personalised invite something like..really good to meet with you on blah blah, I would really like to join your network.

Then keep in touch other person may not work out

heartbreak_star

mellymoo74 wrote: »

Hmm mm
We're they all the same agency?

And
I would find person who interviewed you on LinkedIn send a personalised invite something like..really good to meet with you on blah blah, I would really like to join your network.

Then keep in touch other person may not work out

I don't think they were all the same agency. It just seems unprofessional to make an offer and rescind it makes me wonder what I did wrong too.

I will do that re LinkedIn

HBS x

Lambyr

Hello all!

Good news is mum didn't get up at a ridiculously early time this morning! On the flip side struggled to get to sleep and stay asleep cos it seemed really muggy in my room.

I could do with getting one solid night this week cos my last OU assignment for this module is due on the 17th. I've done about a third of it so far but could really do with one day with a clear head to read through for edits and revisions since I'm chasing a distinction.

Pyxis wrote: »

Lambyr, do you know, I've never played any games online! :rotfl:

I don't think I ever actually played pong!

As you can tell, I play a lot of games. Most of them aren't online ones as I prefer single player, but there's a couple of exceptions

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

What's the game you posted the images from Lambyr? I played EQ many years ago (my main character was a high elf wizard), and it doesn't look like that.

World of Warcraft. Terribly geeky of me but I began playing it about ten years ago when I first had to become a carer and found myself struggling to keep my mind busy. I used to play the Warcraft strategy games when I was younger, again partly cos I found myself housebound for quite some time in my teens so I figured I'd give the MMO a go. It's ended up being quite a big part of my social life over the years cos I've managed to meet a few nice people on it.

Don't play it as much now cos the most recent expansion was a bit meh but still talk to people I met on it. Been playing some other games recently. E bought me Dragon Age: Inquisition recently so been playing through that (also as an elf... :rotfl:).