Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

codemonkey

That's the trouble. The symbol for the condition is a teal ribbon and butterflies, but that's really similar to the Cervical Cancer symbols, so I want to incorporate a lightning bolt. Plus we're known as TN warriors so I want some kind of warrior component to it too. So something mixing sweet and girly with 'I'll kick your !!!'. Not asking much am I? :rotfl:

I kind of like this, but I'd want it to be a bit more badass.



What are you thinking about getting?

ETA: how come badass is allowed but a s s isn't?

Georgiegirl256

I love teal and I love butterflies, so that looks really cool!

You could take that picture down to a decent tattooists, one that would be able to actually help design one for you (not one that just does flash), and they might come up with some ideas you haven't thought of?

I think it would look really good with a lightening bolt positioned between the O and the P. Not going completely through it (that might be too ACDC like!) but starting above the letters, stopping when it gets to them and then continuing out the other side. Or the lightening bolt shaped in such a way that it forms the ribbons?

I'm not sure what I want yet. I'd like something in memory of my Dad. But, I am quite chop and change with my ideas, and it would be an important tattoo obviously, so I'd have to be 100% certain. I love feathers and butterflies, but I already have a butterfly one. Although I really do like those 3D ones that look like you could just grab them.

System

Trying to catch up

Was, heard owt from Monty? Hopefullly he found his way out and is enjoying some happy rat time (off topic but Swain has a Rat (from Ratatouiie) that he sleeps with, he now has another two of the same one so i get to sleep with one!). So glad your friend got back in contact


Code i'm sorry about your dad and you feeling like you can;t have the same banter as you did. Age can do a lot to people, my grandma is not the same woman she was 10 years ago. it breaks my heart to see her so forgetful and frail

georgie-i need to try the 5:2 diet again, i tried it before and did lose weight but ive been lax recently and not stuck to it. my fast days i try to do when i'm at work so i'm busy and have less chance to think about food (she says...being surrounded by pasties and cakes )

Pyxis, wihs i seen the metoer shower thingy, at Swain's the sky is usually clear (its away from the city) but ive not seen anything of interest, i love looking at stars, always relaxs me!

code: i bloody hate chuggers :mad: they just don;t seem to take no for an answer. I had a bad manic episode where i ended up signing up to a load of charities, that i couldnt afford and was hounded by them. i had to get my cpn to wroite to them to get them to back off
I agree wiith georgie about tattoos, get some ideas and find a decent tattoist (ask friends for recommendations), my butterfly wqas flash the tattoo artist already has bit its primarily orange with is used for self harm awareness and so it the butterfly for the butterfly project, so it felt fitting

tea-good luck with the exam! i'm sure you'll ace it. revision wise what worked for me was having a huge flowchart that detailed key points, good luck with it

elsien- you're so much braver than me for going to the dentist. ive not been in 9 years :eel: need to seriously look into it, but am going to need sedating before they come anywhere near me!

Sorry iof i have missed people (hello Calley, Onomatapia, tea, Faerie and anyone else i;ve missed)

I'm generally ok, my mood has been down recently (not sure why, i usually get a spring bust of hypermania every year but this year i seem to be having a depressive period), think its mainly money worries atm (and PIP). I feel bad for Swain as he wants to help and wants me to feel better but as i dont know why i feel down theres not a lot he can do (any suggestions to help Swain help me are welcome)

Waves_and_Smiles

What a beautiful tattoo!

Hmm, if I have a depressive episode MU, I find what helps me is a balance between WaSp listening but carrying on as normal too. I do like to know that I can talk if I need to but a lot of the time there is nothing to say because nothing is actually wrong, it's just chemical. Also, me being me if someone constantly asks me what's wrong I'll start to think a non-issue is an issue because my brain will scramble for a reason why I feel low. I find it reassuring to have ordinary life going on around me, if WaSp starts to alter his life to accommodate me I just feel worse because then I am guilty too.

I tend to watch WaSp play computer games a lot, that way I am distracted and he is doing what he wants to do without me having to take part, plus I still feel involved. Things I can share in without making an effort work the best.

Monty has gone off back to his family with a tummy full of peanut butter! The hole is blocked now and we can't hear any scratching so all's well that ends well. I still miss him a little.

codemonkey

WaS would your landlord let you have pet rats?

Pyxis - who knew a tiny piece of surgical tape could be so effective? Managed to keep it on all night and my app registered only one tiny snore, and me saying hello to DA dog when he jumped on to the bed.

As for the chugger debate a relative does it for a living. They are paid based on how many dds they sign up to. They work for an agency and cover a range of charities. The actual charity doesn't get much money from this as the agency fee and wages are pretty high. He makes a good living from it and can't seem to understand why people might not want to sign up. Recently they went to a very poor area with a high rate of unemployment, addiction and disabled people and he was annoyed that very few people would want to sign up. I pointed out that the area had cheap housing and a high proportion of people on benefits and most people only have basic bank or post office accounts for their benefits to be paid into as a lot of people there have never worked at all . He was annoyed by this saying they should still sign up for a dd to whatever charity he was pushing. I pointed out that a lot of people would be reliant on food banks and didn't have £10 a month spare. He didn't seem to undertand this. They're taught that the only thing that matters is getting people to sign up and they don't care how vulnerable the person they stop is; the more vulnerable the better. Also, he's never said this specifically but from what I can work out, your name goes on some kind of list so that other chuggers can harrass you at home for other charities. It's scummy.

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tea_lover

I quite often have lucid dreams WaS, will definitely be trying to write next time! Woke up at 4am after a nightmare... gonna be a long day.

Waves_and_Smiles

Morning all!

ESA form update-Cautiously optimistic! There has been movement. A doctor reviewed my claim last week and sent it back to the DWP. I do not need a face to face assessment. The very lovely man told me on the phone that if he was me he would relax a little! He said if there was any doubt that they didn't have enough evidence to continue my claim that they would have sent me an appointment. It is still the DWP's decision whether to grant benefit but he said I can be pretty sure that the medical centre have said the claim should continue without change.

Now I wait for the envelope of relief or doom but I am slightly happier!

tea_lover

Sounds promising WaS, at least it's moved! Have everything crossed x.

Well, another day, another utter lack of motivation.

mellymoo74

PIP appeal help happening Tuesday.
Food bank visited cats have lots of tinned fish
Just need milk and loo roll and we will be okay

Embarrassing is a little old man sorting out sanitary products for you