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Children and bedroom fairness...
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I had 8 children in a tiny 3 bed house.. is that crammed enough for you?
I had 3 boys in a room 6ft x 9ft
4 girls and ALL the toys in the biggest room and CF and I in the middle sized room with all the clothes and the baby in the cot..
You work with what you have!
I have 7 children and my partner and I in a 5 bed at the moment.. the 3 smalls share the biggest room, OH and I have the other big room. the 2 boys in the next biggest room and the 2 older girls in the 2 tiny rooms.. one is smaller than that dressing room of yours!
In ye olden days they had less stuff.. toys and clothes were minimal whereas now they all just have too much stuff!LB moment 10/06 Debt Free date 6/6/14Hope to be debt free until the day I dieMortgage-free Wannabee (05/08/30)6/6/14 £72,454.65 (5.65% int.)08/12/2023 £33602.00 (4.81% int.)0 -
the 'dressing room' becomes the bedroom with the addition of a window for the child you currently have..
the new child has her current bedroom
Bedroom 2 becomes a designated play room with study area and a 'guest bed' for sleepovers.
This was what I was thinking, I was just a bit concerned about the room still being seen as one room and there being arguments... but then if it doesn't work out, Tigsteroonie's idea is a great one! Thank you
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it is only a cause for arguments if you allow that to happen.. if it is just the way things are then they accept it as normal and as it should be.. it is constant change that causes the problems!
I wouldnt go with tigs idea.. moving them constantly would be like they never have a space to call their own.. you just get comfy and you get moved.. My children would fall to pieces over the though of their room being taken off them every 6 months and the upheaval and logistics would be enormous.. I've found it enough of a struggle moving one chest of drawers from one room to another!LB moment 10/06 Debt Free date 6/6/14Hope to be debt free until the day I dieMortgage-free Wannabee (05/08/30)6/6/14 £72,454.65 (5.65% int.)08/12/2023 £33602.00 (4.81% int.)0 -
No 1 is don't move if you love it where you are. This house is plenty big enough for four people.
Just before baby arrives child no 1 is old enough for their own room. Also because babies cry (s)he will be glad to be on a different floor.
Baby goes into your room then dressing room. You'll have at least another 3/4 years before you need to worry about moving them. And you, or the kids themselves might be happy for them to share while they are little (primary school age) That's the next 10 years more or less taken care of and really no one can worry too much longer term than that!
I'd also say that you seem to already be anticipating sibling rivalry - kids respond to expectations so just be aware you're doing this.0 -
moving them constantly would be like they never have a space to call their own.. you just get comfy and you get moved.. My children would fall to pieces over the though of their room being taken off them every 6 months and the upheaval and logistics would be enormous.. I've found it enough of a struggle moving one chest of drawers from one room to another!
What upheaval? Identical beds, different bed linen. Take down the posters and swap to the other room. Maybe move a personalised rug. Swap clothes between wardrobes & drawers. I know as children we helped with the process; it also acted as a spring clean, and a chance to throw out old toys etc.
Maybe we had less stuff back then, maybe we weren't quite so indulged in terms of our bedrooms being personalised.:heartpuls Mrs Marleyboy :heartpuls
MSE: many of the benefits of a helpful family, without disadvantages like having to compete for the tv remote Proud Parents to an Aut-some son 0 -
Why can't dressing room has its own door off the landing and just be bedroom 4?0
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burnoutbabe wrote: »Why can't dressing room has its own door off the landing and just be bedroom 4?
That was our plan when we bought the house, but we've found we can't get the building regs permission to do that because of the position of the stairs and the extra restrictions on 3 storey homes
Currently there is just an archway through from the top bedroom into the dressing room, but we're looking into options to make it more of a doorway. It can't be a "proper" door though due to fire regs (although the dressing room does have a large window which is not on the floorplan picture)
Thanks for the ideas everyone 0 -
I had to walk through my older brother's room to get to mine - that was just the way it was in that house. Kids cope.But a banker, engaged at enormous expense,Had the whole of their cash in his care.
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RainbowLaura wrote: »It does put it in perspective to hear about bigger families managing in a small amount of space
You don't actually have a 'small amount of space' though. You have a good sized house with a bedroom for everybody, plus a spare/dressing/play room and two bathrooms!
It might be smaller than the other houses on the street, but it isn't small.0
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