Relationship decorum dont do's: What turns women off?

Lunar_Eclipse

Body odour, dirty clothes, beards, scuffed shoes.

Flirty men who aren't single.

Men who still act like teenagers (Xbox & fast food junkies.)

Over indulgence.

miss_independent

Just remembered another pet hate... "Eliza Doolittling". This is how I refer to men who seem to want to take women on as a project and mould them into their idea of the perfect woman. They attempt to change the woman's political or religious viewpoints by forcing their own ideologies upon them. They find it necessary to educate the women but in no way are they allowed to demonstrate any ideas which oppose his... she'd just be "wrong", she "doesn't quite understand the complexity of the argument". They force these women to go to things they may have no interest in such as art exhibitions, the opera or public lectures, all in an attempt to "better" them. They suggest the woman dresses differently, perhaps even buying new clothes for the woman without even asking if they like them. They might even order for them in a restaurant, "I'll have the Fillet Mignon and for her, the Sea Bass. I hope you don't mind me ordering for you but trust me, it's delicious and I know you will love it." Instead of finding a woman with these interests and shared ideologies in the first place, they seem to hunt out younger, vulnerable women and believe they are doing them a favour. What happened to falling in love with the person in front of you, warts and all? I suppose it is an extreme form of arrogance, which other posters have already suggested is a turn off.

ciderwithrosie_2

Turn offs for me are (in no particular order):

Bad hygiene - body, teeth, hair and clothes
Clothing and footwear choices (quite a large number of items are definite no-nos for me in this category)
Chauvinism
Racism
Guys that think they're 'wacky' (think Colin from the Fast Show)
Practical jokers
Tightwads
'It's all about me' types - in conversation and in bed
Terrible kissers
Lateness/generally unorganised
Boring hobbies/interests

System

heuchera wrote: »

I keep seeing men with builders bums. Is it the fashion now to wear trousers that don't stay up properly?

I saw 2 young blokes just now in the supermarket with their nether regions on show. I didn't know where to look :A

I'm going to have to start a thread culturalising MSEr's!

Hpot wearing your trousers like that is an American thing known as sagging your pants (i'm not joking either :rotfl:) next time you see someone with their pants sagged, show them your dab. They'll love you for it

prosaver

women who uses the thing as a bargain tool

Gloomendoom

prosaver wrote: »

women who uses the thing as a bargain tool

Not the Thing!

System

miss_independent wrote: »

You are very kind Lisa! I believe I'm seen as quite old fashioned among my contemporaries but I don't really mind anymore. I adore manners (Spinkz...manners are a MASSIVE turn on) and like you, I am not keen on bad language and try to avoid it where I can. Unfortunately, in my (very artsy) line of work every second word begins with f and ends in k or worse still the C word and you are seen as abnormal if you don't have one night stands, multiple sexual partners at once and a significant weed habit. I sometimes feel as though I'm rebelling against their rebellion.

I was recently the only woman on a course with a lot of construction workers and the jokes got old very quickly. I can imagine what you have to go through on a daily basis and sympathise with you.


Digforvictory you are spot on.

Fork and catering? :huh:

I agree on good manners miss i. When i was a youth my mum drummed the importance of good manners into me. I always remember getting a clip around the ear for not taking my baseball cap off when talking to the old lady that lived next door. That was the literal drumming :rotfl:

In your other post, i dont think i'm the most suitable person to start a thread for turn ons! Like so many of my missing threads, someone will find something minorly offensive, report it and get it pulled.

System

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Not the Thing!

Haha! Brilliant :rotfl:

prosaver

this thing

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kafVkPxjLYg

prosaver

ciderwithrosie wrote: »

turn offs for me are (in no particular order):

Bad hygiene - body, teeth, hair and clothes
clothing and footwear choices (quite a large number of items are definite no-nos for me in this category)
chauvinism
racism
guys that think they're 'wacky' (think colin from the fast show)
practical jokers
tightwads
'it's all about me' types - in conversation and in bed
terrible kissers
lateness/generally unorganised
boring hobbies/interests

me too

.. ..:)