Relationship decorum dont do's: What turns women off?

Legacy_user

In my never ending quest to help the singleton men of MSE find love, i thought it would be insightful for them to know what turns women off and as the MSE birds and myself are of the highest standard! We really could help someone

The only time i've failed was when i was 19. I was trying to pull someone who was playing the long game and knowing she was tired from working overtime, i invited her around to give her a massage to relax her. The only problem was, i had no massage oil so improvised and used shampoo that move didn't put me head and shoulders above the rest!

So yeah, dont give a woman a shampoo massage!

What else turns women off?

pigpen

looking at some of the guys in the antenatal clinics over the years...nothing...

Alikay

Poor hygiene, excessive laziness, being whiney and pathetic, lying, meanness, not being open, selfishness....the usual things, really.

The shampoo massage would've just made me laugh tbh, provided your intention was genuinely to help her relax her rather than have your wicked way!:rotfl:

fairy_lights

Blokes using pliers to cut their toenails and them leaving them in proud little piles on the arm of the sofa. Bonus points if they do it while you're eating dinner and one of them flicks in to your soup.

lisa110rry

I can usually get a sense for someone who thinks too highly of themselves. Having great wedges of dosh isn't an automatic turn on for me, but being arrogant is an automatic turn off. I like confident, but not arrogant.

On the physical side, I have a penchant for rugby players...preferably back rows...

marleyboy

When I was 13 I met this girl on holiday and after swapping addresses was invited to stay over. Being somewhat shy at that age and staying on the sofa for the night, I awoke really needing a leak.

To my horror I had no idea where the bathroom was and with the front door being locked I was trapped, I held it and held it......and held it. Then came the point of no return, hold it now and the sofa is going to be drenched.

In panic I scurried around looking for a way to relieve myself, my only find was a huge cheese plant in the corner of the room, so I eased into the pot, made worse because then the pot overflowed, (ever tried stopping mid way - men cannot do this).

Next morning the Mother awoke and it was noticeable how she went straight to the plant and took a cautious sniff. As soon as the Mother left for work, I bolted out of the house and took the train home.

Never did I see her again and to this day (over thirty Years) it still haunts me.

heuchera

I keep seeing men with builders bums. Is it the fashion now to wear trousers that don't stay up properly?

I saw 2 young blokes just now in the supermarket with their nether regions on show. I didn't know where to look :A

miss_independent

Complete strangers who approach and ask for a date. I find it extremely creepy. I know nothing about these men. Why would you go out with a guy you just met on the street?

Personally, I also find men who are old enough to be my Dad or Grandad asking me out or making flirty/sexual comments a massive turn off. One of my good friends is happily married to a man 25 years older who has a son only 18 months younger than her, so clearly this is not a turn off to all women. The worst thing I find is men acting as if I am rude by politely turning down a date because I'd rather enter into a relationship with someone closer to my own generation as opposed than someone in their 40s/50s or 60s. In fact, any man with a sense of entitlement over women or a sense that a woman "owes" them a date or sex is a turn off. I'm hearing more and more that if a man pays for a woman's meal during a date then they feel they are "owed" sex at the end of an evening. As is a woman on a date is merely a cheap alternative to a prostitute!

Treating me as if I am intellectually inferior or weak because I am a woman also not a good move.

!!!! pics. No thank you.

Hitting, kicking, punching or being generally rude as a form of flirting. My ex used to (gently) punch my shoulder or hit my arm when he wanted me to speak to him or pay him attention. Even in the workplace. Speaking to me would have been more effective. If I ignored his hitting/prodding/tugging and sometimes even biting, he would sit on me. In a non sexual way, obviously. Again, even in the workplace. All of it without even a simple hello or good morning. Which leads to...

Immaturity/Peter Pan syndrome.

ETA: Spinkz a list of "turn ONs" thread might be a good idea... I hate being negative and re-reading the above I sound like a right moaner. And moaners are a turn off lol.

Jagraf

Men who have really really clean cars inside and out.

Men who don't open doors for people.

Men who don't say thank you to the waitress when ordering food.

Actually anyone who is not emotionally astute

fuzzyduck22

No, we really don't want pics of your willy*


*excuse my french

elsien

Men who call women birds.