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Is Marriage losing it's value?
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Marriage is about the big expensive day out isn't it? In that case, not very good value!
A study in america found a link between divorce rates and the amount spent on a wedding.
Higher the amount spent = higher rate of divorce.
Which doesn't surprise me at all.Mortgage remaining: £42,260 of £77,000 (2.59% til 03/18 - 2.09% til 03/23)
Savings target June 18 - £22,281.99 / £25,0000 -
So many marriages now end in divorces.
So many people commit affairs because they get easily distracted.
What's the point in marriage if sex, affairs, and cheating are so easily done? And so easily available?
As many people have said on this thread, cheating and lying and affairs etc, have been going on for eons! That doesn't mean people should stop getting married! What's more, couples who are NOT married still cheat you know!missbiggles1 wrote: »I know that you're not alone in reporting this but I've never seen it.
It makes me wonder whether some people have just been waiting for the "big day" and the lavish party whereas the people I know have had interesting, low key affairs, often within their own homes.
I agree. I always hear these tales of people being perfectly happy in a relationship, and then when they get married, the relationship falls apart within a year, but I have never known it happen to anyone I know.Marriage is about the big expensive day out isn't it? In that case, not very good value!
No! Not for everyone!0 -
Marriage will give me the legal next-of-kin status that entitles me to switch off Marley's life support
Seriously speaking though, we've been together seven years and have a child. Getting married will give us legal benefits, that is all.:heartpuls Mrs Marleyboy :heartpuls
MSE: many of the benefits of a helpful family, without disadvantages like having to compete for the tv remote
Proud Parents to an Aut-some son 0 -
So many marriages now end in divorces.
So many people commit affairs because they get easily distracted.
What's the point in marriage if sex, affairs, and cheating are so easily done? And so easily available?
I would imagine very few people go into marriage expecting to cheat (or thinking their partner will cheat) or that they'll end up divorced.0 -
Marriage is about the big expensive day out isn't it? In that case, not very good value!
Not for us it wasn't (38 years and two months ago). We were married at the local registry office, me in a wool suit, my husband in the suit he had made for his sister's wedding. There was a bread strike on so getting a cake was nigh impossible and we went to the pub with friends. I was 21, my husband was 30.
Five years later our son was born.“And all shall be well. And all shall be well. And all manner of things shall be exceeding well.”
― Julian of Norwich
In other words, Don't Panic!0 -
FreddieFrugal wrote: »A study in america found a link between divorce rates and the amount spent on a wedding.
Higher the amount spent = higher rate of divorce.
Which doesn't surprise me at all.
Could be frivolity. Could also be that those who can't afford a big white wedding also tend to feel "stuck" as they can't afford to move out/get mortgages alone or perhaps one or both don't work and would struggle alone.
I imagine if you have tens of thousands in cash to splash on one day, you're more likely to be able to afford a bacherlor(ette) pad if things aren't working out.0 -
Sadly, a girl I worked with stated on her wedding day that she'd give her marriage two years.I would imagine very few people go into marriage expecting to cheat (or thinking their partner will cheat) or that they'll end up divorced.
It was a very strange attitude to go into the marriage with, I thought; I lost touch with her when I changed jobs, so I have no idea how long her marriage did, in fact, last.
When Mr LW and I got married, we didn't do the "til death do us part" bit, we promised "for as long as love shall last".If your dog thinks you're the best, don't seek a second opinion.;)0 -
lisa110rry wrote: »Not for us it wasn't (38 years and two months ago). We were married at the local registry office, me in a wool suit, my husband in the suit he had made for his sister's wedding. There was a bread strike on so getting a cake was nigh impossible and we went to the pub with friends. I was 21, my husband was 30.
Five years later our son was born.
That's nice. Clearly I don't have any statistics, obviously some marriages are carried out at registry office, I wonder how many?0 -
Massive generalisation. And wrong in a lot of cases, mine included.Marriage is about the big expensive day out isn't it? In that case, not very good value!No! Not for everyone!lisa110rry wrote: »Not for us it wasn't (38 years and two months ago). We were married at the local registry office, me in a wool suit, my husband in the suit he had made for his sister's wedding. There was a bread strike on so getting a cake was nigh impossible and we went to the pub with friends. I was 21, my husband was 30.0 -
Sadly, a girl I worked with stated on her wedding day that she'd give her marriage two years.
It was a very strange attitude to go into the marriage with, I thought; I lost touch with her when I changed jobs, so I have no idea how long her marriage did, in fact, last.
When Mr LW and I got married, we didn't do the "til death do us part" bit, we promised "for as long as love shall last".
That sounds superficially romantic but it isn't what I would mean by commitment.0
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