Anyone not doing Valentines Day Cards & presents with partner?

selement

OH has always been fairly anti Valentines Day. the standard procedure is to spend the evening in with a takeaway and have a cosy evening, but we do this sort of thing fairly regularly anyway. I think he got me a card once, we never do gifts. This year I got him a card, last year to get a fiance one because next year we'll be married! No gifts. I'm doing slimming world so no takeaway either. We booked tomorrow off and are going to go cinema and avoid the crowds going on cinema dates for valentines day, it isn't really for valentines day we just want to go see Deadpool!
I reckon for the first year of marriage we'll get husband/wife cards then give up. We make slightly more of an effort to do something special for our anniversary but still no cards or gifts (also as we're not married yet it isn't a proper anniversary really...).

SandC

Must say Facebook yesterday was full of loads of pics of over the top displays of affection (materially) but pretty much all of them, couples who are in the first year of their relationship, so first Valentine's day. Think the established couples I know don't bother telling everyone every movement they make or with taking 50 pics of all the gifts/food/wine etc. Lol. :-)

seven-day-weekend

We have been married nearly 45 years and never 'done' Valentine's Day,, nor Mother's and Father's Day.

catkins

tooties wrote: »

never done it and never will!!!!
We show our love every day not just today.

regards

We show our love every day too and as Valentines Day is a "day" we show it then.


If couples don't want to do anything fine but it gets like "oh we don't have to buy each other something cos we love each other all year". Well so do me and OH but I think it is nice to do something on Valentines Day.


We do something different every year from cooking a nice meal at home to eating out or getting a takeaway. We often go out for the day or have been away over night before.


We also celebrate the day we met 36 years ago and our wedding anniversary. Birthdays are also a big deal for us. It never hurts to do something a "bit extra". We have always been like that but even more so now after OH had a major health scare last year and came very close to dying.

Rebel_Cause

SandC wrote: »

Must say Facebook yesterday was full of loads of pics of over the top displays of affection (materially) but pretty much all of them, couples who are in the first year of their relationship, so first Valentine's day. Think the established couples I know don't bother telling everyone every movement they make or with taking 50 pics of all the gifts/food/wine etc. Lol. :-)

I know exactly what you mean.. all the showboating and showing off like they are the only ones in a relationship. It is infatuation. and still in the honeymoon phase. I never brag or show off about mine at all, I do not want to jinx things, even though we have been together for several years. Althought, even though my other half is still on Fakebook, he has had friend on there asking if we are OK because he doesn't post copious status updates about how happy we are.

Rebel_Cause

Besides, yesterday was just like any other day for us too like others have posted because we make the effort and show love everyday. I can understand if couples, mainly the women get upset if their partners do not do anything on the day and they were expecting some form of acknowlegement for the day, maybe that day highlights they question why they are in the relationship. I think it speaks volumes if you do something sentimental, romantic and thoughtful on a random day. Although a suspicious woman (NOT ALL!) will then wonder what the bloke has been up to! LOL

If you celebrate it, great, if you don't don't worry about it. Different strokes for different folks.

fairy_lights

SandC wrote: »

Must say Facebook yesterday was full of loads of pics of over the top displays of affection (materially) but pretty much all of them, couples who are in the first year of their relationship, so first Valentine's day. Think the established couples I know don't bother telling everyone every movement they make or with taking 50 pics of all the gifts/food/wine etc. Lol. :-)

I saw one woman on facebook who had posted an album (a whole album!) of photos of the presents her partner had bought her: Champagne, roses, chocolates, balloons, Valentines ornaments, a cuddly toy and a pair of GHD's! You'd be forgiven for thinking it was her birthday, not Valentines day.
They've been together a few years now so it's not their first Valentines, honeymoon period thing. I suppose if exchanging such lavish gifts makes them happy then that's their choice, but I don't understand the need to splash it all over Facebook.

LeafGreen

We agreed not to bother this year, although I bought a card just in case and was glad I did as she got me one too. I did breakfast in bed for us both and she also got a box of chocs for me!

catkins

I never see why people feel the need to post all over facebook what they got or did but then most of the facebook posts I see I wonder why the person needed to make them.


I didn't post about my day at all and rarely do post about every day things.


It makes me laugh when you see photos of massive bouquets of flowers, champagne etc for Valentines or a birthday when the couple have only been together a short time. Most of the time all that romance fizzles out.


It's like when a newspapers prints a photo of a celeb couple walking hand in hand and the headline is something like "So in love even after 2 years"! Surely you should still be madly in love after only a couple of years? A couple of years on and they will probably be divorced. Me and OH walk hand in hand after almost 36 years

BarryBlue

We regard Valentine's Day with the same contempt as the other money-making spendfests, Christmas, Mother's day etc. We don't exchange gifts for any of them but, like for Christmas, we give each other the same cards every year. They are many years old now and it is simply to show what a complete waste of time (and money!) these commercial events are.