Nice People Thread No. 15, a Cyber Summer

zagubov

Pyxis wrote: »

Secret admirer(s)?

That's nice custom, though!







Edit. Going back to Pasture's randomness of existence reminded me of various sci-Fi stuff I used to read in the 70s and 80s, inc. Asimov, Heinlein, etc., plus I think there have been a couple of films since on the same theme, namely, that 'predestination' dictates things, and even if you go back in time and make different decisions, you'll still end up in the same place/job with the same wife and children, etc.

I suppose it'd save you having regrets!

In some ways it's sort of right, namely, that however much you change the physical aspects of your life, you're still the same person with the same tendencies, likes, dislikes etc., and we do all tend to repeat behaviours.


Someone once researched into the happiness aspects of winning tons of money, and it showed that people who were fundamentally unhappy before the windfall, once the euphoria of the win had worn off, were still fundamentally unhappy!

And people who had had disasters, like health, amputation etc., eventually reverted to their happy selves, despite their misfortune.

Interesting.

I used to read those authors! I'd recommend Grimwood's Replay ( Ireccommend it all the time, TBH).
It involves a person blacking out and waking up 25 years ago, in their same (younger) body. Fascinating story, never lets up.

oldandhappy

Pyxis wrote: »

One of these days, Pastures, you're going to find you have a 'funny little furrin' relative in your tree! :rotfl:

Actually, didn't you say you had Huguenots? Aha! Pastures is furrin! :rotfl:

Its me looking into husbands family as its a very interesting family with past clever members....Huguenots where Aumoniers in this case..... lived just north of here in the 1600's

Pyxis

oldandhappy wrote: »

Its me looking into husbands family as its a very interesting family with past clever members....Huguenots where Aumoniers in this case..... lived just north of here in the 1600's

Oh yes, I remember now!

oldandhappy

still looking for Mary Ann Aumoniers family links....

Pyxis

Perhaps the second Mary was a completely different Mary! A third Mary, if you like!

PasturesNew

Pyxis wrote: »

Perhaps the second Mary was a completely different Mary! A third Mary, if you like!

I could ask ... but I daren't.


Mum used to say "God gave us our relations; thank God we can choose our friends".

I think part of my interest is trying to find relatives that I like better than the lot I've got

Pyxis

PasturesNew wrote: »

I could ask ... but I daren't.


Mum used to say "God gave us our relations; thank God we can choose our friends".

I think part of my interest is trying to find relatives that I like better than the lot I've got

I was one of those kids that always used to wish that I'd find I was adopted! :rotfl:

I was still wishing that when I was 50! :rotfl:

vivatifosi

Nice new info on FMP this week: passenger lists for the £10 poms that went to Australia up to 1960. I left after that (well I wasn't born then, so I deffo left after that!) so mine's not there yet, but managed to find my uncle and his wife.

My uncle is very ill, terminally so, therefore it was a nice surprise to be able to pass this on to my mum and for her to be able to call him and cheer him up with the news. What was really surprising though was that my aunt had a totally different first name to what we'd all believed for the last however many years since he got married. Totally fits with Pastures's theory that you don't know who you're looking for and get chucked curved balls all the time.

PasturesNew

vivatifosi wrote: »

... totally different first name ....

I had no idea my uncle wasn't using his real first name until the death notice of his wife in the papers. I'd known him as an abbreviated version of his middle name. I sent the death notice link to my sibling and she emailed me back in surprise at his name not being what we'd known him as.

bugslet

silvercar wrote: »

There is a Jewish tradition of placing a small stone on the grave stone of a deceased person when you visit. More info here on the background to it.

My grandfather was a quiet guy, had lost touch with most of his family and virtually all his friends were friends of my grandmother too. When visiting his gravestone there were always piles of stones on his gravestone, we could never work out who these people were. My grandmother would have a sweep clean quite often, but never indicated she knew who may be visiting. When she passed away and was buried next to him, the stones continued on his, but hers didn't have more than expected. Always wondered who these mystery visitors were.

That site was a bit of a rabbit warren. I did like when it said that someone got the idea of placing a large rock with some personal details on it on the grave. I'd never thought before how headstones came into being before.

Am I right in saying that in Judaism, there isn't an afterlife, or have I got that wrong?