Husband is depressed... Help...

Happytravelling

I don't have any advice to add really; although my mum has had several bouts of depression from various triggers, I still feel equally helpless each time. From an outsider's perspective, she seems to have the perfect life, but knowing that just makes her feel worse.

Its natural to want to nurse loved ones back to health, but when an illness doesn't manifest itself physically, its not as simple as that.

Just want to say that his being able to share this with you and you facing it head on with him speaks volumes about how strong your relationship is. Though you have a tough period to get through, you will only come out the other side stronger.

I wish you all the best

giddypenguin

Wow! Thank you all for your comments. I had a 'day off' yesterday for a pre-arranged day trip with a friend, which has really refreshing. It was so lovely to log back in today and see your comments.

I have to admit I was a little worried about the antidepressants- someone I know has developed a bit of an addiction to them (been on them 20+ years) so I was wary - but you've put my mind at rest. Thank you.

I guess I feel a bit silly saying 'I'm finding it hard' when it's not me that's I'll!!

I'm just so ruddy pleased he is being honest and talking to me about all this - got to look for the positives! Xx

tea_lover

You've got two small children and a poorly husband, who wouldn't find that hard?!

Glad you had a good day yesterday, it's so important to make that time to spend with friends and have a bit of 'normality' (for want of a better word).

Take care x.

charliewocka

It is hard to be the other party. My poor OH gets the brunt of a lot of my depression - the tears, inability to see positives, irritability, and sometimes no matter what he does just isn't enough. So yes, there is a lot that you're going through. Plus if you've got young children it's a huge strain. Definitely make sure you get time to yourself, even if just for a coffee somewhere (I should practice what I preach, but I'm a firm 'do as I say not as I do' individual ).


But, no matter what it may seem, having the support of an OH (i.e. somebody like you) makes a massive difference. Once the fog clears from your husbands mind (it could take a while but if he is starting to accept help it's a great sign that it will happen) he will see how much of a rock you have been. But in order to provide that support, you need to stay strong yourself. Perhaps look to see if there is a support group in your area for you to attend?