Husband is depressed... Help...

Poppie68

It's a positive sign if he is willing to go to the GP, and wanting you to go along means he's wanting to open up to you. Depression can hit anyone at anytime, it's not the end of the world even if it feels like it at the moment... In most cases it's just a blip and once treated may never come back... It's important to find couple time at a time like this, it helps to realise that your both more than just parents and there is life outside. Arrange a babysitter once a week if possible even if it's just to go shopping together and grab a bite to eat.

charliewocka

gabriel1980 wrote: »

he could be having an affair - sometimes changes in mood are related to you and a potential new partner. Would explain his reluctance to see a GP

Hilarious, wasn't sure how serious you were with that.


I'm going through a period of depression at the moment, am ratty and short tempered with my partner and having bad moods associated. Am I having an affair? Bl**dy hell, one man is enough, I couldn't cope with two! :rofl:


OP, you're husband is making a massive step forward by going to the GP and it's fantastic that you are there to support him. Remember to look after yourself as well though.

giddypenguin

I am very pleased he's going to see the doctor- I think he's also starting to see how bad it's getting, although reluctant this morning he now seems adamant he wants to get this sorted asap. I think he's just embarrassed. I think he feels ashamed.

As for the affair comments - I have no suspicions about that. We're both very open with our phones, plus I don't know when he'd have the time!! Aside from the lack of evidence- I really don't think he'd do it to me.

Will get some baby ibuprofen tomorrow! Poor thing obviously isn't happy.

I'm starting to feel a bit more positive now :-) really hope we get a good GP tomorrow and DH can articulate himself, he has a habit of under reporting symptoms (we found out a "sore foot" was actually broken 5 days later and "a bit of a headache" a severe sinus infection!) I guess it's just better now that something is being done x

giddypenguin

Just got back from the doctors- she was very sympathetic. Wanted to sign DH off from work for a month, but he was reluctant (doesn't want them knowing what's wrong) so he's got a couple of weeks off instead. She also gave him a prescription (IMO a bit premature, but DH asked for it) hopefully things will look up soon...

heartbreak_star

Glad you got a good doctor - that really helped me too regarding the prescription, the meds can take a few weeks to get into the system, so the quicker he can start the quicker he'll feel the benefits.

Hope things work out well, sending lots of positive wishes to you all!

HBS x

heuchera

gabriel1980 wrote: »

he could be having an affair - sometimes changes in mood are related to you and a potential new partner. Would explain his reluctance to see a GP

Oh dear. Don't ask questions on a public internet forum unless you're prepared for ANY answer..

giddypenguin

heuchera wrote: »

Oh dear. Don't ask questions on a public internet forum unless you're prepared for ANY answer..

Ha! How true! Luckily I have a thick skin. We're very lucky that we have a very strong relationship - trust has never been an issue with us :-)

Although I don't think that particular poster is a troll (I suppose given the facts I said & without knowing us it could be a reason) they do seem to be everywhere on here - don't feed them!

Mojisola

giddypenguin wrote: »

Just got back from the doctors- she was very sympathetic. Wanted to sign DH off from work for a month, but he was reluctant (doesn't want them knowing what's wrong) so he's got a couple of weeks off instead. She also gave him a prescription (IMO a bit premature, but DH asked for it) hopefully things will look up soon...

Tablets can be a very useful way of helping his mood while he works out what's wrong and how to change things. They will take a few weeks to kick in, like heartbreak_star said, so just as well to get them started.

gabriel1980

giddypenguin wrote: »

Ha! How true! Luckily I have a thick skin. We're very lucky that we have a very strong relationship - trust has never been an issue with us :-)

Although I don't think that particular poster is a troll (I suppose given the facts I said & without knowing us it could be a reason) they do seem to be everywhere on here - don't feed them!

Why is someone always a troll when they give a differing opinion?! Anyway, in this case it doesn't sound like an affair, but I was just highlighting the possibility.

Primrose

He's possibly feeling depressed too because he feels he ought to be handling the situation better and possibly this is making the situation feel worse for him. Try and persuade him not to take feelings of guilt on himself. We all have down periods. You probably feel very alone if you are worn out with childminding and can't share your feelings of anxiety.


Never lose the chance to talk these things over together on a daily basis so that neither of you start withdrawing more into yourselves. Go with him to your GP and don't take NO for an answer if you don't feel you're getting the referrals you need. As somebody else has suggested, Self Help books can sometimes help in giving a new insight into a condition and helpful hints on how to cope. Sometimes when you're down, taking obvious steps to help improve your condition don't always occur to you but taking a little responsibility for yourself can help you feel that your life isn't running completely out of control. Often it's the fear of being helpless to change things which adds to the downward spiral.