Money Moral Dilemma: How should I tell my sister I can't afford these gifts?

Jagraf

Spinkz wrote: »

That is a great idea :j

As they are the forum team, they should engage with the community more! I do often wonder if Nick even reads the replies to these dilemmas. Sometimes they are so half cut, it feels made up! Like the broken unit dilemma smh :doh:

Spinkz - are you Nick? You have 3 of his letters in your name. I am starting to wonder whether you have become part of the forum team in your quest to rub noses with the posh people :rotfl:::D

System

Jagraf wrote: »

Spinkz - are you Nick? You have 3 of his letters in your name. I am starting to wonder whether you have become part of the forum team in your quest to rub noses with the posh people :rotfl:::D

Lets get it right, he has 3 of my letters in his name

They should pick my brain though. I have plenty of ideas that could create fun discussions on this board but it needs their input as they appeal more to the community than i do! At least they are trying to improve it a bit and there is less fighting here than there was when i joined

27col

The best reason in the world for not buying something or contributing to something is the fact that you cannot afford it.

julie777

She has quite a nerve to buy a present she can't afford (presumably) and expect you all to cough up.
Tell her some people have a budget they have to stick to!!!

pigpen

just say no and don't hand the money over.. rocket science it is not!

Pollycat

jgriggle wrote: »

She's your sister! Just tell her that's the situation and she can like it or lump it. Especially if she's younger than you because frankly younger sisters deserve everything they get !

WOW!
I wonder what the younger sister of this poster has done to deserve that!

Augustus_the_Strong

Just tell her, don't be ridiculous.

By the way, all this speculation of whether or not these are 'real' dilemmas is getting tedious. They are still situations worthy of giving an opinion about.

gaving7095

I think that it's unreasonable for somebody to buy a gift and THEN ask others to contribute, arguably even more so when it's just as a surprise as opposed to being specifically a birthday gift or whatever.
For that reason, I would let your sister know that you can't afford it and don't want to be included in any more such (unpleasant, for you) surprises in future.

Ebenezer_Screwj

Your sister has her own reasons for doing this and has hitherto afforded it. She has no right to ask you to contribute towards her spending, tell her that you buy your mother a present at Christmas and on her birthday, which you budget for.

crmism

Easy - don't be afraid to admit that you're short of money and, much as you'd like to, you simply can't afford to keep doing this kind of thing. It's your love that counts, and that can't be measured in presents, no matter how much they cost. Tell your Mum, too - she'll understand.