KonMari 2016 - The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up

Charis

camelot1001 wrote: »

I find that with stretch jeans too Polly, given up buying the for that reason.


Kondo'd a pair of marigolds to the bin, they aren't leaking but my hands smell when I take them off. Using another pair that I obviously didn't like as they have been used, they'll do until they get a hole in.

Mine used to do that and even if I turned them inside out, put them on and 'washed my hands', they didn't stay fresh for long. Now I clip them together with a strong plastic clothes peg and hang them from the bar over the sink that my utensils hang on. It solved the problem. Apparently the air needs to be able to circulate inside them.

mavvymoo

Morning all

Mrs MP Hedgehogs arrived finally at Hillside for the Christmas fayre they were thrilled with them and I saw a couple of children walking round with them (A little girl had the Pink sparkly one ) So thank you for knitting them and also thank you for giving me the joy of seeing some of them off to there new home.

I am back at Hillside today if anyone is looking for a gift please have a look at Hillside West Runton as they do a great job and save so many animals and birds. So I buy Bales of Hay for the Animals rather than Christmas cards

I have been sorting out again here and I have made a note to myself 'Mavvymoo no buying cleaning stuff of any type,shape,make or form until at least Jan of 2018' :eek:

Guess what I am tackling clothes once again as I still have stuff that I need to let go and bring someone else joy.I love them. BUT I know I will never wear them. Clothes is such a hard one for me.Its almost like they belong to someone else and I am hanging on to them for dear life.Everything else I can thank and let go without another thought but clothes is so different to anything else.

Also boots is another one I cant let any go :rotfl:Shoes I dont care about as very rarely wear them. Just flipflops in Summer and boots in Winter.I have so many pairs I wear a different pair everyday so they will never wear out.

Oh well I will try and work out what is going on in my head and deal with it

Mav x

MMF007

Oh Mavvy, my heart goes out to you with the struggle about clothes. Remember though, as you think about clinging on to them - they are not a life raft.

Clothes was my hardest category because I never had nice clothes when i was a kid. We 'shopped' at jumble sales, nothing matched, there were no trips to buy an outfit, we wore clothes until we couldn't squeeze into them anymore as we grew.
Added to that the idea of dressing up smartly to look nice was dismissed as the sin of pride.

Finally, as my weight yo-yo'd over the years I'd make emergency purchases, putting off buying until absolutely necessary and then getting whatever was on the rack in my size.

So when I started KM I had lots of ill-fitting, unloved clothes, no idea of a capsule wardrobe and a fear of not being able to find something nice to wear.

I did a first go at releasing some clothes way into the KM journey, because for me it was the most emotional category. I have since done 2 more full kondo's of clothes and now I am doing a quick try on every few weeks, largely due to steady weight loss, but also because i know I can release more as I get better at feeling joy and releasing Stuff that does not give me the spark!

I am sure, given how determined and practical you are, Mavvy, that you can deal with this.
I must say that I didn't try to analyse why I had lots of clothes that I found hard to let go, I just concentrated on doing the joy test and making sure I put items into CS bag straight away and took them to CS asap. I felt the weight lifting off me as I handed the bags over.

The above thoughts are a recent recognition of old problems lingering into adulthood. I did the kondo-ing before I fully realised where I had previously gone wrong, iyswim. I certainly don't dwell on the issues, I am fortunate that I look at my present fortunate ccircumstances and am thankful. No point looking back, can't change it, doesn't help to go over it, just have to release the sadness or pain along with the physical items that bring it to mind.

I think someone in the 2015 thread suggested imagining putting the stress or hurt in a box and taking that outside to release it. I just put the items out!

(((((((((0))))))))

M

oceanspirit

GreyQueen wrote: »

Loving hearing about all the lifestyles transformed by the old kondo-magic. She's a funny little person, that Marie, but she's definately onto something.

Marie's methods have definitely changed my life for the better and there are more improvements to come as the process continues.

GreyQueen wrote: »

D'you ever find that people are a bit discombobulated by having proffered freebies declined?

I decline politely and find folks get phased. It's free! they repeat, anxiously, as if I've misunderstood them and am in danger of missing out. I smile sweetly and move on.

I have a similar conversation when the door to door poppy collection comes around in that I give the money then try to refuse a poppy as have several still in good condition from previous years. Ended up with another metal badge (to add to the two I already have) this year as the lady couldn't leave without giving me something.

So now what to do with them? Keep or bin? And what to do next year? I don't want to stop donating but also don't want the money to go to producing more poppies, would much rather it went to helping people.

MMF007 wrote: »

The joyfulness of being organised, less cluttered, and losing weight. All of which seem to have
stemmed from the amazing little book and the inpiration on here:T:T:T

Just been catching up on last weeks posts and loving reading of all progress. Kondoing is definitely a lifestyle.

Still no new clothes bought and have also been better at wearing those saved for best. Have now realised why I was buying so many which have been left unworn. It was about wanting to make myself look better due to the obvious damage my illness has left me with. I would buy lovely things then carry on wearing baggy old things to hide behind. A lot of these clothes are not going to make me look any better - in fact some will make me look daft - so looking forward to having another Kondo of clothes in a few weeks time. Need to find a way of celebrating the blobby, wonky bits as they are all a part of me and the journey I have been on.

OH offered to take things into town for me this week and when I handed him several jewellery boxes for the CS he tried to give them back to me, telling me he thought I ought to keep those that had been given as presents. I was firm and said no I have plenty of other gifts from the same people which are used and do spark joy so I am happy to let those which I will never wear go to new homes.

Fen1

Excess poppies: could you make a spray or mini-wreath and hang it on the door so that the collectors can see you have enough? Or have a bunch of them inside the front door, ready to present if they really can't take no for an answer.

GreyQueen

Ahh, poppies. One of the hard categories of clutter at the parental home.

Every year, the parents put a tenner into the collection tin and take a couple of poppies from the tray. And the poppies, if not accidentally lost from a lapel, are put somewhere random in a little catch-all dish or pile. And they can never ever be thrown away ........... because? I've not got a satisfactory answer to that one, because it'd be disrespectful, perhaps? I think there are probably two dozen floating about their house.

Full disclosure, we have several members of the Legion in the family inc several poppy sellers.

I'd tried suggesting to the folks that they re-purpose the poppies and just give the money, but that isn't apparently do-able. The waste appals me, I'd rather we re-used them and more of the money went to the cause.

Other things which come to light are those fund-raiser daffodil badges. And Nan's bungalow had a lot of palm sunday palm crosses dotted about the place. I am afraid I added them to the bonfire, which may be incorrect form but there seemed no purpose to them in October when they'll be another palm sunday along in 2017.

Years ago, when those rubber wristbands started appearing, a friend was fundraising for a cause which was trying to give you one of the blasted things in exchange for your donation.

I told them they could only have my money on condition they didn't make me take a wristband. They were slightly phased but acquiesed, and I escaped without a useless rubber band.

Floss

GreyQueen wrote: »

... Nan's bungalow had a lot of palm sunday palm crosses dotted about the place. I am afraid I added them to the bonfire, which may be incorrect form but there seemed no purpose to them in October when they'll be another palm sunday along in 2017....

TBH the ashes used on Ash Wednesday are comprised of the burnt remains of the Palms from the previous year, so it is not disrespectful and your Nan will have had daily sight of them in her home. I guess they will have burnt very well!

GreyQueen

OK, I have a confession to make. I'm wandering between my kitchen and my lounge (one opens off the other) looking for the rest of my kitchen Stuff.

The party wall-o-damp (now dried) is 6 ft, the width of my kitchen. Completely filling it are two double wall units, each with two shelves. Said units are pretty shallow (11 inches deep).

Yesterday, I refilled the one nearest the outside wall. Everything which used to live in there went back in, with room to spare between things.

Just now, I started refilling the other one. I switched out the food which normally took up the two lower shelves into the single wall unit on the other side of the kitchen (also 11 inches deep) and put the things which used to live there (pyrex casserole dishes and a few larger tubbywares) into the double unit.

I cannot believe my eyes. It is half empty! I keep pawing around the sitting-room, thinking I must have somehow lost a cache of stuff which was removed temporarily, but I haven't.

Somehow, my kitchen contents have inhaled and scooshed themselves up much smaller. Plus I've added a couple of new-from-Nan's things into it, and there's still space.

It's definately a bit woo and I'm freaking out here. Happy as a dog with two tails, but freaking out................! :rotfl:

Fen1

Oh, GQ, you lucky thing, you now have a special place to keep all your poppies.

GreyQueen

Fen1 wrote: »

Oh, GQ, you lucky thing, you now have a special place to keep all your poppies.

I managed to lose mine before Rembrance Day (threw itself off the lapel of my coat, again).

Accumulating poppies isn't one of my many shortcomings.

Still weirded-out by the cupboard situation, keep going in to peep at them to make sure it wasn't some kind of fever dream.