Mooloo's little tapestry of life, 2016

Savvy_sewing

DGD is back tomorrow. I'm at my Mums this evening and decided to stay the night. We are having a good chat, a brandy and Coke, and I have an Indian meal and mum has burger and chips!
Work is ticking along, but I would be happier if there was more than a day's work ahead booked in.

Savvy_sewing

Well DGD is home, and after a hug, she is now in her bedroom on her tablet! At least I know she is home, and she knows her Mum will be back at the weekend when I take my Mum to see her brother in Dublin.
I should be doing the ironing now or I won't be able to get into bed tonight as I moved it out of the workroom so that the gas boiler can be serviced.
I'm cold dispite the heating on, and think I may have to consider finding some heavy duty socks to put on as there seems to be a draught on the floor? Not sure where it is coming from.

I'm also very tired and was surprised that it is so early in the day yet!
I was up late last night chatting with my Mum, and sleeping in a different bed means I didn't sleep as well, and I was up by 7.30 too.

When I got home my neighbours van was once again blocking my access.
Very frustrating. He blocked me in on Friday, even though I told him I'd be going out in 30 minutes he took over an hour before he bothered to move it.
Grrrrr

Savvy_sewing

We walked to school yesterday morning and then I also walked too and from work. However by tea time my left hip was hurting me and so I drove to collect DGD from after school club. Just as well as DS messaged me needing baby milk! So a trip to Tesco and a 16 mile round trip to deliver it. It appears that he lost one of his weekend jobs!
I give up!
Twin two also ran out of food and asked for £30, I sent £15. I don't have enough to dish out anymore as I had given twin1 £50 each trip to come and get and return DGD from Kent!
I fear that money will start to get very very tight if this continues to happen so timely reminder to them all that I am not a bank required again.

dktreesea

Mooloo wrote: »

We walked to school yesterday morning and then I also walked too and from work. However by tea time my left hip was hurting me and so I drove to collect DGD from after school club. Just as well as DS messaged me needing baby milk! So a trip to Tesco and a 16 mile round trip to deliver it. It appears that he lost one of his weekend jobs!
I give up!
Twin two also ran out of food and asked for £30, I sent £15. I don't have enough to dish out anymore as I had given twin1 £50 each trip to come and get and return DGD from Kent!
I fear that money will start to get very very tight if this continues to happen so timely reminder to them all that I am not a bank required again.

What about food banks? If people run out of money they are usually good for to or three days worth of food, just to tide them over.


All I can think of, if your children really can't manage their money, is to get DWP to make you their appointee. This means their money would go into your account and you would just dole it out for whatever they needed. This may save your children wasting the money/spending it for their friends and their benefit, then not having enough to see them through. Just a thought, and not for everyone, because it can be time consuming, but at least them you could be giving them their money £10 or £20 at a time as they needed it, not letting them blow it all at the beginning of the month.


It's hard, isn't it. Small children, small problems, big children, big problems. I can appreciate you wanting to get to the end of motherhood, at least for your own brood.

Savvy_sewing

The adult children are too far away from me. One lives in Cornwall and the other in Kent. I did used to control their money years ago but it was like being the baddy all the time.
I am too soft I know but I suppose I would rather that than being uncaring.

Savvy_sewing

By the way you are only allowed to access the food bank 3 times a year.
So it's not much help to those who cannot budget due to learning disabilities. (I.e. My twins and DS)
And you can only access them on certain days of the week, during very limited time. So you need to be organised and be refuted by a professional.
Not so easy if you run out on Friday and the next food bank is 10 o'clock on Tuesday 8 miles from where you live with no transport.
If you're not able to buy food you certainly don't have bus fare to get to the person who gives out the forms to get you access to the food bank, and then transport to the same in another direction.
It is a great shame that my children have been put into the system that is supposed to be supporting them and yet they even lost their carers because they could not do the jobs that they were originally employed to do.
So I do a little bit more than I should have to do.
I realise that I will have a struggle in my retirement as I don't have a pension or savings invested but I have to live in the real world of my family.

Savvy_sewing

Today is my Tax Credit day, "pay day", so I log in to my main account and start to move small amounts in to various savings accounts, nothing unusual in that, but I had my £150 cash back for swapping to First Direct, so the savings got a healthy boost today, and the small amount of £20 went into my Squirrel Account too!
Well worth swapping the bank accounts!

Savvy_sewing

Today would have been my Dad's birthday, so I telephoned my Mum to see if she is ok, she wasn't in but the answer kicked in, for me to hear Dad's voice on the answer machine. Bittersweet moment. Slightly made me sad!
I have come home to have the boiler service done and the housing inspection about the mould.
The boiler guy was here right on 12noon, but I am wondering if the other person will keep me waiting until 6pm? !!

dktreesea

Food banks up here aren't all Trussell Trust, so don't need social workers signing off before people can use them. But as you say, not everyone lives in the inner city within walking distance (well, kind of - 1.2 miles away) of a food bank. And wealthier cities like Edinburgh probably do the community support stuff better than most communities could afford to. Edinburgh is the kind of place where you could have a free meal pretty much every day of the week, if you knew where to go. Nowhere near as good as Glasgow, but still, you don't need to go hungry here. The soup kitchen is a bit odd because it starts at 9pm. If you had children to feed, would you take them out at that time of night? I only would if I was totally desperate.

dktreesea

My DD is hopeless at managing her pay, but thinks nothing of going into debt, borrowing from friends and family and in some cases taking months to pay it back. I no longer lend any money to her. I've realised the only way she would be persuaded to manage her pay better is to actually be totally skint and not able to do anything for a few days.


I realise you can't do that with your children, Mooloo, but my DD has everything going for her and is selfish enough to put her own wants ahead of other people's needs.