Finding partner for serious relationship.

LilElvis

Gulash wrote: »

Come on, who joins clubs these days? Only retired people. I am not that old to join a club to find a grannie to marry. That's ridiculous. I just saw in meetup.com the groups and I mostly see people in their 50s. I need a good alternative. Anyone tried speed-dating?

PS: I will NEVER date woman with kids, for all those women here that get hurt by seeing men thinking like that, DEAL WITH IT!!!

I'm pretty sure that the way they will "deal with it" is to breathe a tremendous sigh of relief that they haven't been lumbered with a Neanderthal like you.

As for the comment about only "oldies" joining groups - that is completely daft. How would you know unless you actually try joining some?

Any other groups within society you would like to offend?

Gloomendoom

Gulash wrote: »

Come on, who joins clubs these days? Only retired people. I am not that old to join a club to find a grannie to marry. That's ridiculous. I just saw in meetup.com the groups and I mostly see people in their 50s. I need a good alternative. Anyone tried speed-dating?

Before we got married, my wife went along to a speed dating thing to give moral support to a desperate friend.

It didn't end well, as Mrs G ended up with queue of hopefuls and the desperate friend was still desperate... and very annoyed.

Obvious desperation puts people off... as does living under a bridge.

12_month_challenge

Gulash wrote: »

Come on, who joins clubs these days? Only retired people. I am not that old to join a club to find a grannie to marry. That's ridiculous. I just saw in meetup.com the groups and I mostly see people in their 50s. I need a good alternative. Anyone tried speed-dating?

PS: I will NEVER date woman with kids, for all those women here that get hurt by seeing men thinking like that, DEAL WITH IT!!!

With your attitude the only speed dating you're going to get is women running for the door

By the way your english suddeny gets better in this post TROLL!!

kingfisherblue

Gavin83 wrote: »

Personally I wouldn't date women with children but this is more due to the attitudes this brings and also for the fact I don't want my own children so I wouldn't particularly want anyone else's either. It's totally fair enough that women already have children and plenty of men wouldn't consider this a problem but it's not for me.

I understand that some people don't want to date anyone with a child, and that's fine. It's the OP's attitude, though. He seems to look down on women with kids (well, on women in general!). He doesn't come across as very mature.

Delia_Cardei

I always think everyone has a someone out there -- It's just meeting them at the right time. What you can do is to make yourself a better you. Good luck!

ognum

Gulash wrote: »

I am having trouble finding partner for serious relationship. In most networking sites, most women say only chat, only friendship, etc. Apart from that, most women have already children and are single mums. Last, most women don't even look at you unless you look like a model. Should I completely ditch online search or do I do something wrong? But again, where could I meet someone? Is it normal to start talking to a total stranger in the pub? What do you advise me?

OP, it appears that English is not your first language and because of this there are some nuances in how and what you write that can cause offence without you realising it.

So I will try and answer what you have written in the spirit I believe you intended rather than taking offence.

If I was on a networking site I would say I was interested in 'chat or friendship' even if I was looking for a relationship. I would want to get to know someone first before jumping into a relationship. Maybe just 'chat' with a few people and see what develops.

I doubt it is true that 'most' women have children but they are people who also find it difficult to meet people in other ways. Maybe open your mind a bit to some new friends.

Many people meet at work, through friends and family, through shared interests. What are your interests?

I will not address your comments on Essex, that is like condemning a whole country and is just stupid.

I have read some of your previous posts and can see you are striving for a 'better' life. Maybe relax into your life a bit more and good things could happen.

VfM4meplse

Gulash wrote: »

Come on, who joins clubs these days? Only retired people. I am not that old to join a club to find a grannie to marry. That's ridiculous. I just saw in meetup.com the groups and I mostly see people in their 50s. I need a good alternative. Anyone tried speed-dating?

I think it's a great idea for you, you'd fit in well with the rest of the social misfits that can't interact with human beings.

Gulash wrote: »

PS: I will NEVER date woman with kids, for all those women here that get hurt by seeing men thinking like that, DEAL WITH IT!!!

I think most of the female population will breath a sigh of relief, others may just choose to get knocked up as an insurance policy.

trollopscarletwoman

Gulash-I thought that was a rather tasty dish.

How wrong I was!

SailorSam

I've been trying to remember what happened in that Kingslayer thread when he was almost kidnapped by an older woman who only wanted him for his body while her kids slept in the next room. Didn't he say he didn't want to stay the night but only had bus fare so had to wait until the next morning.

indiepanda

Hmmm, with those kind of prejudices it's not really a surprise you haven't got a girlfriend. Too lazy to join a club or make the effort to travel to London, but won't date local girls as they're all pregnant at 18.

As an Essex girl (albeit one that left home to go to university over 20 years ago and didn't go back), I met my new boyfriend online, he lives in Kent, I live in London - he's worth the journey. Oh, and we'll be going to a party run by the social club I belong to for new year, and at that club I have met a number of nice single people from Essex.