Finding partner for serious relationship.

Gulash

OK, I could join clubs etc, but I am in Essex and we all know or have heard how Essex girls are like (18 and pregnant etc) and people here don't really join clubs (scarcely populated area) etc. It would be worthy to join clubs in London, but it's a bit too far.

kingfisherblue

Gulash wrote: »

OK, I could join clubs etc, but I am in Essex and we all know or have heard how Essex girls are like (18 and pregnant etc) and people here don't really join clubs (scarcely populated area) etc. It would be worthy to join clubs in London, but it's a bit too far.

Essex girls might have a stereotype, but there are many who would be insulted by your thinking. Also, why wouldn't women want to meet for chat and friendship, at least at first. Not everyone wants to jump straight into bed with someone, or into a serious relationship. A relationship can take time to grow.

Personally, I would like to meet a decent man who would accept that I have a history (and I would assume he would have one too). I have children, and was married when they were born (they all have the same father). My marriage didn't work out, but there are many others that don't. I'm in my mid-forties and dating seems unlikely for me. I don't want to spend the rest of my life alone, but I'm not desperate - and I'm afraid, OP, you come across as a bit desperate as well as very judgemental.

elsien

Gulash wrote: »

I am having trouble finding partner for serious relationship. In most networking sites, most women say only chat, only friendship, etc. Apart from that, most women have already children and are single mums. Last, most women don't even look at you unless you look like a model. Should I completely ditch online search or do I do something wrong? But again, where could I meet someone? Is it normal to start talking to a total stranger in the pub? What do you advise me?

This is a very familiar topic and posting style, can't remember the name though.

DUTR

kingfisherblue wrote: »

Essex girls might have a stereotype, but there are many who would be insulted by your thinking. Also, why wouldn't women want to meet for chat and friendship, at least at first. Not everyone wants to jump straight into bed with someone, or into a serious relationship. A relationship can take time to grow.

Personally, I would like to meet a decent man who would accept that I have a history (and I would assume he would have one too). I have children, and was married when they were born (they all have the same father). My marriage didn't work out, but there are many others that don't. I'm in my mid-forties and dating seems unlikely for me. I don't want to spend the rest of my life alone, but I'm not desperate - and I'm afraid, OP, you come across as a bit desperate as well as very judgemental.

Few people do, it's not as if yourself and the OP are a match, but I can see it from both sides.
Not every woman is for any man.
All over they have stereotypes of the people that may reside there.

It's probably true that the OP does not share my chisled looks, but it's not all about that.

There is no one hat fits all answer .

tomtontom

elsien wrote: »

This is a very familiar topic and posting style, can't remember the name though.

My thoughts too, the one that had issues about English women?

fierystormcloud

Person_one wrote: »

It doesn't sound like you have a particularly high opinion of women to be honest, are you sure you want to get involved with one? We're none of us perfect.

Agree totally.

elsien wrote: »

This is a very familiar topic and posting style. Meftep, something like that?

I thought that. That username didn't come to me, but another one did.

I won't name him, but he is someone else who has little respect for women, and says highly inappropriate things about them. He is also someone whose posts are 90% about women/chasing women/ lusting after women/judging women, whilst having no clue about them whatsoever.

kingfisherblue wrote: »

Essex girls might have a stereotype, but there are many who would be insulted by your thinking. Also, why wouldn't women want to meet for chat and friendship, at least at first. Not everyone wants to jump straight into bed with someone, or into a serious relationship. A relationship can take time to grow.

I'm afraid, OP, you come across as a bit desperate as well as very judgemental.

Yes indeed. Like someone else who usually posts on here with the exact same subject matter...

DUTR

Gulash wrote: »

OK, I could join clubs etc, but I am in Essex and we all know or have heard how Essex girls are like (18 and pregnant etc) and people here don't really join clubs (scarcely populated area) etc. It would be worthy to join clubs in London, but it's a bit too far.

Hope you drive around in a Focus RS, that could be the problem if you don't :eek:

Come on OP, spill the beans, are you above or below 6ft tall?
25-30 BMI
Employed
Left the parents home.
Can you dance?
Handy around the home eg DIY

elsien

tomtontom wrote: »

My thoughts too, the one that had issues about English women?

That's the one.

fierystormcloud

DUTR wrote: »

Hope you drive around in a Focus RS, that could be the problem if you don't :eek:

Come on OP, spill the beans, are you above or below 6ft tall?
25-30 BMI
Employed
Left the parents home.
Can you dance?
Handy around the home eg DIY

Or option 7; none of the above?

I suspect most men who filled the 6 criteria you listed, would not be single.

fierystormcloud

Rebel_Cause wrote: »

Ahh Kingslayer...

I was thinking about him when I saw Kingfisher's name LOL

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