What are our rights playing the drums?

chucknorris

Towser wrote: »

9 year old Autistic sons received a full drum kit for Christmas and he loves them. We live in a semi detached house though.

I understand we should be quiet between the hours of 11pm and 7am but we have some neighbours who complained when my son was playing loud music at 7pm.

Of course we will be quiet between those hours but just need to know our rights when the neighbor comes knocking on our door again. We are a very musical family and play several instruments but this might be the straw that broke the camels back!

My kids are just playing, as theirs do in the garden making a terrible din screaming and fighting in the summer.

Are there any drummers out there that have the same problem. What do you do? How do you cope with the neighbors, environmental health and possibly the police?

I think being well informed is being well armed.

You've just reminded me why we bought a detached house, thanks.

Towser

Because some autistic children cannot perform to a schedule, so the hire may be wasted if the child is already stressed/upset about something else. (Our son has missed 3 of 6 recent RDA sessions for this reason.)

Tigsteroonie thank-you. Not everyone can understand this. That is why they call it a "hidden" disability.

Tigsteroonie

duchy wrote: »

IF your child genuinely has an autism diagnosis you will already be in touch with professionals who could advise you

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

I have no idea if the OP is a troll or not. I'm happy to continue talking to them in case they are not.

It's not as though they have already let their son start drumming at 9pm and had a neighbour complain. They are pre-empting that situation by asking for the thoughts of others. As for buying a drum set, heck, we clutch at any and all straws to find something to interest our son.

Towser

Not sure why you think your neighbours should suffer because of your lack of imagination/poor parenting.
IF your child genuinely has an autism diagnosis you will already be in touch with professionals who could advise you - so yes I too am calling troll on this one.

Some people really are very peculiar -

Because there is a shortage and the ones that are around are not very good. Once you have met one Autistic person you have met one Autistic person they are not all the same.

He has had a diagnosis since the age of 2.

Towser

pre-empting that situation by asking for the thoughts of others

Yes, so I will definitely talk to the neighbors and do the right thing.

So really wanted to know from the drummers as I seem to have had a lot of negative feedback from the anti noise brigade.

I bet you there are probably even drummers that work with Special Educational Needs children but just not stumbled across them yet.

All the help I have received so far I have stumbled across or gone to tribunal for. He is in a Special School at last, who said he definitely needed to be there.

Duchy we are not perfect like you. I have never claimed to be perfect just wanted advice before I made some wrong decisions which would land me in trouble.

ManuelG

Towser wrote: »

Not yet but we will be figuring it out.

Think we're 1812 here to complete the proper effect.

SingleSue

Middle son is a drummer, his kit used to live at my parent's house (half is now living in his university halls room, the other half will be joining it in Jan). He played for no more than an hour in the afternoon after school/6th form and never finishing any later than 5pm, twice a week, occasionally 3 times a week and never at the weekend.

My parents never received any complaints...apart from when he had a break from playing and the neighbours missed it! Said it used to brighten up their week and made them feel young again (the average age around my parent's house is approx 70 apart from their immediate neighbour who was always at work when he was playing).

At home, he would play his guitar, keyboard, ukelele and sing. Never too loud (you could just about hear it whilst in our house) and the attached neighbours could hardly complain, they listen to music at stupid hours and at stupid noise levels and have done for years...alongside hoovering at 4am including bashing the skirting board with the hoover, having loud arguements again at silly o clock in the morning etc.

Towser

As the mother of an autistic son I was always very aware that he was a noisier child than most other children and there is no way on this planet I'd have bought him a drum kit ....or allowed anyone else to without having somewhere soundproofed for him to play as I'd feel my neighbours already had more to deal with from noise from his meltdowns than if the lived next door to a family without ASD in the mix.

I am not going to stunt my sons' growth just because other people can't handle a bit of daytime therapy. He is disabled and needs all the help he can get.

Think we're 1812 here to complete the proper effect.

Class

Towser

He played for no more than an hour in the afternoon after school/6th form and never finishing any later than 5pm, twice a week, occasionally 3 times a week and never at the weekend.

Thank-you wanted reasonable guidelines.

People drum for all sorts of reasons not just to make noise.

marksoton

Towser wrote: »

I find it really difficult to find things that entertain him.

Exactly. I find your posts offensive to my friends that have genuine autistic children.

Grow up and get it sorted. They have and the results are amazing. Lovely children who don't require any excuses.