What are our rights playing the drums?

Mojisola

Towser wrote: »

9 year old Autistic sons received a full drum kit for Christmas and he loves them. We live in a semi detached house though.

Are there any drummers out there that have the same problem. What do you do? How do you cope with the neighbors, environmental health and possibly the police?

I think being well informed is being well armed.

Wouldn't it have been wise to get better informed before buying the drum kit?

Towser

I would love to afford a detached house or an insulated garage for him.

After I came out I thought "That's it. No more!" And I found somewhere else to live.

I may have to be a responsible neighbor then and stick to reasonable hours. I have not become irresponsible yet. Just mulling the options as it has provoked some strong opinion.

The joy of drums is just too delightful to see. It's something he can do rather than cannot do.

KRB2725

duchy wrote: »

As the mother of an autistic son I was always very aware that he was a noisier child than most other children and there is no way on this planet I'd have bought him a drum kit ....or allowed anyone else to without having somewhere soundproofed for him to play as I'd feel my neighbours already had more to deal with from noise from his meltdowns than if the lived next door to a family without ASD in the mix.

What on earth was the person who gifted this to your son thinking of ?
(I actually find it pretty hard to believe anyone would be stupid enough to gift a drumkit without checking with the parents first unless they really disliked them)

You've experienced living next door to an antisocial family -yet want to become one yourselves. It has nothing to do with anti-drummers it's to do with raising your children to be considerate of others by example.

From post #14, it would seem that the OP purchased the drum kit.

Person_one

MacMickster wrote: »

I presume that this is a trolling thread (they always seem to increase during school holidays for some reason).

I suspect you're right. If these drums even exist than the OP has said they have bought mute pads already, so no need to keep stoking the controversy, and really no need to post in the first place!

lincroft1710

Your son should practise the drum part of the first 4 minutes of Led Zeppelin's "Stairway to Heaven" or any of the drum part of Mike Oldfield's "Tubular Bells".

I guarantee you will have no complaints from the neighbours.

goodwithsaving

Towser wrote: »

I may have to be a responsible neighbor then and stick to reasonable hours. I have not become irresponsible yet.

What a martyr....

Davesnave

MacMickster wrote: »

I presume that this is a trolling thread (they always seem to increase during school holidays for some reason).

Looking at previous threads, OP seems to be an adult and is female most of the time, but this can change:

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showpost.php?p=69363270&postcount=7

Given that things like the OP's sex can alter to suit the post, it's possible that other 'inaccuracies' might also creep in.;)

Whatever, I'm out.

Towser

the OP purchased the drum kit.

Yes and kid is loving it.

the OP has said they have bought mute pads already

it does not get rid of the sound altogether and kid can always take them off. Just like he knew he was not supposed to play them at Messy Church he knows he was not supposed to take them off. It's just too irresistible - only a drummer would know this. This is why I am seeking drummers point of view rather than anti noise point of view.

I understand the misery noise causes. Can you understand the joy, the ability to be free when you are trapped all the time by Autism? The Sensory therapy, the input ect ect

I'd also like to hear from people who teach disabled people the drums.

borkid

My son played drums when he was in his teens, I mean played as well not just bashing them around. He was very musical. We lived in a terraced house with an integral garage. The drum kit was kept in the garage cushion in the bass drum. We checked with the neighbours on either side and they were fine, actually one said enjoyed it but she was musical herself and we never complained about her piano practice. The other side was happy as she said her twins probably made more noise.

The rule was no playing after 5pm when the neighbours came in from work. We only had one complaint from the chap who lived 2 houses away. He came home early at 4:30 one day went and asked all the neighbours to complain about the noise but they refused. He didn't have the nerve to come and ask me to stop. He had a problem with me as I wouldn't be bullied by him and his wife re parking. He'd blocked us in a few times and refused to move ( this on a public highway) in the end we had to call the police to have a word with him.

Back to the original post, a 9 year old with drums, only after you've spoken to the neighbours and not in the evening when the neighbours are in. He is going to have proper lessons isn't he and not just bash away to get rid of his pent up energy/ frustrations?

Tigsteroonie

Parent to an autistic child here ... I'm not sure which will be worse for the neighbours, the son practising on drums, or the son having a meltdown when his Mum won't let him practise the drums when he wants

We want to go down the route of a drumset too, but it'll be a few years away. For now, bongos will suffice. And daytime only.