Noisy neighbour

kerri_gt

ognum wrote: »

Excellent well done. Hopefully you now have good neighbours.

Great news, hopefully you can both get a decent nights sleep soon. It can be hard with neighbours and noise esp when people just don't realise how noise travels. Our neighbours can have the TV on and prob not loud in their living room, if I'm in bed early I can hear it loudly in our bedroom because the noise travels up the cavity / party wall space.

It migh be worth thinking of moving into the other room temporarily until Freya settles. If you see the mum again I've seen good reviews about these (we've just bought one for my niece)

http://gro.co.uk/gro-clock

Hoping you get some peace and quiet.

ManuelG

ndi149 wrote: »

So I did go round this morning with some peace offering Xmas biscuits and Chris_m you were right she is "unsuccessfully" her words, trying to get Freya sleeping in her own room. She also knowledges she is loud anyway, so can imagine it is a nightmare in the night and she will try to keep it down.

So finger crossed Freya learns to sleep soon and I will get the ear plugs. For all the people who said about sleeping in the spare room, it isn't really an option in terms is space.

Excellent result, and good you'e broken those barriers down too.

Maybe out of this, beautiful friendships can develop for a happy festive story

chris_m

ndi149 wrote: »

So I did go round this morning with some peace offering Xmas biscuits and Chris_m you were right she is "unsuccessfully" her words, trying to get Freya sleeping in her own room. She also knowledges she is loud anyway, so can imagine it is a nightmare in the night and she will try to keep it down.

So finger crossed Freya learns to sleep soon and I will get the ear plugs. For all the people who said about sleeping in the spare room, it isn't really an option in terms is space.

Great result, hopefully Freya will get used to it fairly quickly.

[Deleted User]

Hi,

maybe Freya was all excited waiting for santa, she probably has a new cuddly thingy to comfort her now.

Good move going round with the biscuits, break the ice, maybe the mother is not too bad, and reacted with other neighbours because of the way they approached her.

Sweet dreams.

ScorpiondeRooftrouser

catoutthebag wrote: »

I do not know why everyone is ganging up on me. I'm trying to help. I've been through similar and it can be frustrating and lead to knee-jerk really reaction.

If a lot of people tell you you are wrong, here are two possible reactions:
1: I must be wrong, then
2: Everyone is ganging up on me!

Why did you choose 2?

Kynthia

Right let's get this straight, from what I can tell no-one is ganging up on anyone and no one is making the OP out to be a bad person. There was a bit of an escalation in posters assuming some shouting meant a child was being abused and a few posters that began to challenge that judgemental assumption, although I think most people would agree that if there were more worrying signs then they should be reported. Most parents shout sometimes, especially when tired and frustrated, and it will sound worse at night but it doesn't mean the child isn't loved and cherished.

OP I'm glad you spoke to your neighbour in person as even though it can be a scary thing to do, if done politely it is the thing most likely to work. I really hope you get some undisturbed sleep.

hign10pines

catoutthebag wrote: »

Invite her and Freya round for a cuppa. Quick visual check to see I'd she's bruised. Sounds like mum has parenting issues.

Maybe the child has issues and the mother can't cope?!

Randomjargon

Do they play drums?

mimi1234

So happy for you OP.

I too am suffering from a case of NN. Unlike yours, when we have tried approaching them, they have threatened us or insisted we move if it was causing us that much bother! And then they upped their ante, so now all the slammed doors are slammed even more forcefully and things are thrown against the party wall all day and night. Best of all the local council think it's just normal household noise and they can't do a thing about it. I would love for them to live next to someone who uses an food blender in their bedroom at 2am, and then drills and hammers and slams throughout the day!

Happy New Year all and so pleased for you OP.

Devon_Chris

If they are in social housing then complain to the organisation - depending on the quality of housing officer they should get the ball rolling on sorting it out. When I go around (i'm a PCSO), it does tend to curb the amount of incidents although some people literally will take no notice, hence why i prefer a joint visit with housing.

Also, go around and have a chat. Yes, it may well end up in you having your head bit off (usually does!) although it will certainly show your willingness to resolve without escalating to landords etc - it really does go along way. Also, if housing/PCSO does attend, they will be looking for signs of neglect/ abuse etc.

Good luck!