Noisy neighbour

ognum

catoutthebag wrote: »

Mother sounds unstable to do it this regularly.

While I in no way condone your neighbours actions I think some of the replies as usual for MSE are becoming extreme.

How may times is 'numerous' in a four month period when you have only moved into your bedroom for part of it?

If you are the mother of a wakeful 2 year old you can get short tempered, this mother may have returned her child quietly and ably to her own bed many times before she has finally lost taken to shouting which I agree is not good but it does happen.

I doubt the child is terrified, terrified children tend no to encourage the reaction they are terrified of. This may be her only way of getting attention but she is seeking attention which she probably wouldn't if she was that scared of her mum.

For all you who have not had children who keep you awake night after night with no support from a partner who is out at work then I can understand you feel this is abuse but actually in the real world mums do become frustrated and fed up and do shout.

My suggestion would be that you befriend this poor lady rather than antagonise her. Go round and talk about things, offer help not criticism.

I am not condoning this lady shouting I am only living in the real world where people need help and support.

TrickyDicky101

catoutthebag wrote: »

Shouting at children in the night is pretty frightening. It is tantamount to mental abuse and poor Freya is probably scarred and scared. I would definitely mention to father.

My wife regrettably only has one volume setting (any time of day) and it is basically shouting. The kids are just used to it so it gets completely ignored and as such has no impact. You are making a heck of a lot of assumptions.

catoutthebag

Yes I don't know the exact living situation.
But, a mother screaming in the night at her little one, on what has been described as on a frequent basis a) must be terrifying for the little one and and will not help her to get to sleep b) is disrespectful to the OP (and other neighbours who gave clearly heard it). This is supplemented by the fact that the op has communicated this to the neighbour, albeit not in the best fashion, not once, but twice.

Going forward. I suggest she invites the family over, including father for cuppa, and brings it up politely.

Then, move into the bedroom where they should be.

If this doesn't rectify things, well, come back here to update.

I went through similar, as the link shows, but it wasn't daily or weekly, but still annoying. It has subsided. Peace and a restful sleep are essential to conducive living.

ognum

catoutthebag wrote: »

Yes I don't know the exact living situation.
But, a mother screaming in the night at her little one, on what has been described as on a frequent basis a) must be terrifying for the little one and and will not help her to get to sleep b) is disrespectful to the OP (and other neighbours who gave clearly heard it). This is supplemented by the fact that the op has communicated this to the neighbour, albeit not in the best fashion, not once, but twice.

Going forward. I suggest she invites the family over, including father for cuppa, and brings it up politely.

Then, move into the bedroom where they should be.

If this doesn't rectify things, well, come back here to update.

I went through similar, as the link shows, but it wasn't daily or weekly, but still annoying. It has subsided. Peace and a restful sleep are essential to conducive living.

Yet again a possible over reaction, OP does not say the neighbour was 'screaming'

catoutthebag

ognum wrote: »

Yet again a possible over reaction, OP does not say the neighbour was 'screaming'

'Shouting', then. Rest of my post is correct.
And I can imagine it to feel like 'screaming' when woken in the dead of night.

ognum

catoutthebag wrote: »

'Shouting', then. Rest of my post is correct.
And I can imagine it to feel like 'screaming' when woken in the dead of night.

You are right that peace and restful sleep is essential and that is how the neighbour will feel as well. She will not be at her wits end just to annoy the OP.

Calling the neighbour feral, checking her child for bruises and accusing her of being unstable and mental abusive will not help either.

Op try some constructive help and a friendly conversation.

marksoton

catoutthebag wrote: »

Invite her and Freya round for a cuppa. Quick visual check to see I'd she's bruised. Sounds like mum has parenting issues.

Oh come on, the OP is a neighbour who's annoyed at noise not some quasi social services.

catoutthebag

It was someone else that suggested abuse potential, not me.
I'm merely facilitating how this could be potentially verified by asking them round for a cuppa. I'm not sure there is something amiss with that suggestion. It was not the only suggestion I made. I also suggested moving back into the bedroom and speaking to the father, in order to find a peaceful and yet amicable resolution to the conflict.

catoutthebag

I do not know why everyone is ganging up on me. I'm trying to help. I've been through similar and it can be frustrating and lead to knee-jerk really reaction.

marksoton

catoutthebag wrote: »

I do not know why everyone is ganging up on me. I'm trying to help. I've been through similar and it can be frustrating and lead to knee-jerk really reaction.

I don't think anyone is ganging up on you. Simply disagreeing that the OP should in some way play social worker.

IF they have concerns regarding child safety they should report this to the appropriate authorities.

If they do not then yes, i would suggest a chat to resolve the noise issues.