Should I go on the coffee date?

burlington6

The fact he has asked you more than once is a warning sign.

He sounds like he's insecure and needy.

Dating is like a game of tennis. You respond then he does.


And have others have said texting should ONLY be used to set up dates. Find out about someone in person

FBaby

Dating is like a game of tennis. You respond then he does.

Sounds like a very childish attitude to me. That would put me off much quicker than someone enthusiastic to meet up.

burlington6

FBaby wrote: »

Sounds like a very childish attitude to me. That would put me off much quicker than someone enthusiastic to meet up.

Not at all. Someone could just be having a busy day. If they look down at their phone the moment they're free and see messages of someone they hadn't had time to reply to it isn't attractive

Gra76

Life is way too short to wonder 'what if'.

It's a coffee. If you don't get along then it's only a very small piece of your life you won't get back. If you're not feeling it after 20-30 mins then get up and make your excuses to leave.

Who knows, you might get along just fine. He certainly sounds keen enough!

Person_one

Have to say I'm surprised at the responses. They hadn't talked at all when he asked to meet, or have I misread? Even when you meet in person you tend to chat a bit, establish if there's any interest/common ground before arranging an actual 'date'.

cashewnut

Chlorine7 wrote: »

I said the weekend would be ok, he replied Sunday and I couldn't respond immediately and he sent another message about meeting.


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He seems far too keen but is that just me?

No it's not you. I personally would have been blocking this person by this point.

FBaby

burlington6 wrote: »

Not at all. Someone could just be having a busy day. If they look down at their phone the moment they're free and see messages of someone they hadn't had time to reply to it isn't attractive

The point I was making is that there shouldn't be 'rules' and people should be judged for who they are not how their behaviour is being labelled before even being known. By your standards I should have assumed that my OH was needy and insecure and therefore shouldn't have bothered to meet him except that he is everything but needy and certainly not insecure and I'm so glad I decided to get to know him rather than maje assumptions about him because he turned out to be my soulmate and the most amazing man for me. I am so grateful he fell in love with me.

burlington6

FBaby wrote: »

The point I was making is that there shouldn't be 'rules' and people should be judged for who they are not how their behaviour is being labelled before even being known. By your standards I should have assumed that my OH was needy and insecure and therefore shouldn't have bothered to meet him except that he is everything but needy and certainly not insecure and I'm so glad I decided to get to know him rather than maje assumptions about him because he turned out to be my soulmate and the most amazing man for me. I am so grateful he fell in love with me.

Actually, you're the one who sounds insecure

Randomjargon

Go for it. You might get lucky....

Ikamva

Just pray you do not meet a serial killer...just kidding.

Online dating is enjoyable and I also made friends. I'm a guy and I'm too lazy to do the email ping pong and so I prefer to meet straight away. I don't even like text messaging, I'd rather speak on the phone