Can I Fix This?

southernscouser

ciarasdreams wrote: »

Yes you did tell me that and you were right but I only ever seem to learn the hard way by getting everything wrong in the first place. I would really appreciate a non nurse looking after me because my sister is currently driving me to the point of distraction by fussing over me so much and looking so worried all of the time.

I'm always right hun!

Tell her to go home and make babies or something! :rotfl:

Trust me, you wouldn't want me looking after you.

ciarasdreams

southernscouser wrote: »

I'm always right hun!

Tell her to go home and make babies or something! :rotfl:

Trust me, you wouldn't want me looking after you.

She is going home first thing tomorrow morning but she seems to be planning to take me with her which does not seem to be impressing her husband in the slightest and I think that he is maybe already more than annoyed enough at me at the moment without any further encouragement or reason to increase it any being given to him. I would love to tell her to do just that but most other sane people I am just not brave/stupid enough to actually say it to her. Are your care skills bad? :A

southernscouser

ciarasdreams wrote: »

She is going home first thing tomorrow morning but she seems to be planning to take me with her which does not seem to be impressing her husband in the slightest and I think that he is maybe already more than annoyed enough at me at the moment without any further encouragement or reason to increase it any being given to him. I would love to tell her to do just that but most other sane people I am just not brave/stupid enough to actually say it to her. Are your care skills bad? :A

Start standing up for yourself girl. Do you want to go?

If not tell her you want to rest up at home and relax. Or something! :rotfl:

You are 24(?), you are old enough to make your own decisions.

ciarasdreams

southernscouser wrote: »

Start standing up for yourself girl. Do you want to go?

If not tell her you want to rest up at home and relax. Or something! :rotfl:

You are 24(?), you are old enough to make your own decisions.

I think that I do want to go but just not under the present circumstances because I think that it will be really uncomfortable being there at the moment with how things are with my brother in law and I do not really have any idea at all as to how to make it better. I just do not think that it is a good idea because I have never seen him this angry at anyone before and especially not at me. I was 24 on my last birthday a few months ago.

southernscouser

ciarasdreams wrote: »

I think that I do want to go but just not under the present circumstances because I think that it will be really uncomfortable being there at the moment with how things are with my brother in law and I do not really have any idea at all as to how to make it better. I just do not think that it is a good idea because I have never seen him this angry at anyone before and especially not at me. I was 24 on my last birthday a few months ago.

I'd tell him to go pleasure himself.

You haven't done anything wrong. You've made a mistake and your working your @ss off to put it right. If he won't give you any support then he isn't much of a decent bloke in my opinion.

ciarasdreams

southernscouser wrote: »

I'd tell him to go pleasure himself.

You haven't done anything wrong. You've made a mistake and your working your @ss off to put it right. If he won't give you any support then he isn't much of a decent bloke in my opinion.

It is a bit more complicated than just the debt and I can unfortunately totally see his point. :embarasse He has been good with the debt side of things and he worked really hard yesterday at the car boot sale to help me raise some more money which was just as well because I was rubbish.

southernscouser

ciarasdreams wrote: »

It is a bit more complicated than just the debt and I can unfortunately totally see his point. :embarasse He has been good with the debt side of things and he worked really hard yesterday at the car boot sale to help me raise some more money which was just as well because I was rubbish.

Well what else is there then?

ciarasdreams

southernscouser wrote: »

Well what else is there then?

I will do my best to explain without sounding like a rambling maniac but I will probably not do very well so please be patient. He is a few years younger than my sister and he was part of my group of friends before they met and I have known him for over 9 years now and always been quite close and got on really well and I know that he is annoyed because for a long time I was lying to both him and my sister and telling them that everything was great and that I was coping really well both financially and emotionally when really I was not at all. The bit that seems to have made him most annoyed is that my sister kept my confidence and always told me that it was my secret to tell people if/when I ever felt ready which I did not until last week and it is the first time ever that she has ever kept anything secret from him and he blames me because he quite rightly says I knew that she would never tell anybody ever unless I specifically told her to. He is most annoyed about this because he did notice the large amount of money missing from his bank account and he was not actually concerned about how much was gone but was really worried about what she had actually spent it on and I will not go into any further details here. It probably does not make any sense at all to anybody but me but I know what I mean.

southernscouser

ciarasdreams wrote: »

I will do my best to explain without sounding like a rambling maniac but I will probably not do very well so please be patient. He is a few years younger than my sister and he was part of my group of friends before they met and I have known him for over 9 years now and always been quite close and got on really well and I know that he is annoyed because for a long time I was lying to both him and my sister and telling them that everything was great and that I was coping really well both financially and emotionally when really I was not at all. The bit that seems to have made him most annoyed is that my sister kept my confidence and always told me that it was my secret to tell people if/when I ever felt ready which I did not until last week and it is the first time ever that she has ever kept anything secret from him and he blames me because he quite rightly says I knew that she would never tell anybody ever unless I specifically told her to. He is most annoyed about this because he did notice the large amount of money missing from his bank account and he was not actually concerned about how much was gone but was really worried about what she had actually spent it on and I will not go into any further details here. It probably does not make any sense at all to anybody but me but I know what I mean.

Well he is the one with the problem hun. Not you.

He's just thrown his toys out of his pram coz your sister kept your confidence. Give him a slap and tell him to grow up.

ciarasdreams

That would not really be fair though because I could do that easily and maybe even beat him to a pulp any time I chose to but the only reason that I would walk away from it unscathed is because he would never hit a girl back so there would be no real gain from it.