Time to grow up.

Bobarella

That's great about the Florida fund!

Megano

Well Ive done it again! In typical me fashion Ive taken my two steps forward in terms of paying my debts realised I didnt like the view so took 10 steps back. Turns out my original figures weren't quite right after I did a couple of balance transfers . If I don't get debt free this year it will defo be next but then again most of my debts are 0% interest so there is no rush! Slow and steady wins the race. (then again we all know patience isn't a strong point of mine)
I applied for my local weatherspoons and despite having no experience they asked me in for a trial shift! When I arrived there because I don't have my personal licence I wasn't allowed behind the bar so I was floor staff. I'm running around clearing dishes, wiping tables asking how there meal is and I felt really confident until I phoned up today and was told I was told i was unsuccessful (apparently there was two Meganos in on Sunday for a trial shift and I was the one who didnt get it :rotfl::mad::(:rotfl::mad::(:rotfl::mad::() Now I know this is going to sound petty but 1st there was the befriender place, then the local pub and now weatherspoons? Seems like Im getting turned down for jobs left right and centre and what makes it worst was I spent £50 odd pounds getting new clothes for my trial (thankfully they can get taken back but I maybe given a store credit) - I also applied to work at the SECC as kiosk staff which I was accepted for! Training is meant to be this Saturday but Ive been scheduled to W1 and no one is willing to shift swap with me which is so frustrating as I ALWAYS agree to shift swap with other folk all the time and as soon as I need a swap all of a sudden no one is available? (don't even get me started on my work team - they are literally just copying and pasting notes from an engineer system *which makes no sence unless you have access to it - which the customer facing team dont* into the customers accounts - so when the customer calls about there broadband delay the notes might as well be written in ancient greek!*
I don't even feel like I'm banging my head off a brick wall any more I feel so trapped that regardless of what I move its hitting off the wall so to speak. :mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:
And breath...........
The ACTUAL bookies I clean is looking for part time staff, so I've thrown my hat in the ring and submitted an application form.

Right now it feels like Im running in quicksand but its all good.

Bobarella

Awwww sorry you didn't get wetherspoons. I didn't know you needed a personal license just to pull a pint these days! But still.

Don't take it personally. You know what they say, throw enough mud and some will stick. Keep applying, the law of averages says you are going to be successful eventually.

Florence_J

Take care Megano, I know it might not seem like it now, but it may have been a blessing not working at 'Spoons. I 'briefly' worked there (briefly is a generous term for how long I worked there for) and hated every single second of it. You'll know what to do.

KxMx

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Megano

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I can not believe you deleted my reply. If you don't like it, then fair enough. Tell me I'm wrong, etc - don't just pretend like I never posted.

You have a tendency to ignore people who tend to point out things you don't like. I wasn't doing it to be nasty. I was genuinely pointing out and making you aware that you tend to ignore kind and helpful replies left by the people on this diary. I also wanted to say that it's about quality and not quantity. So running around crazily, applying for every job that grabs your attention is a pretty silly thing to do. You are only exhausting yourself in the process - becoming upset when you don't get the jobs and then because of that, applying for more. You're going around in circles. Concentrate on your main job and maybe get a weekend one. Earning a couple of pounds for early mornings for job X and then another tenner for random afternoons at job Y isn't earning you much. I know every little bit helps but this is ridiculous.

It may do you the world of good and actually try reading and replying to the comments people are actually taking the time and effort to leave you - it's common courtesy.

Your diary is called 'time to grow up'. So why don't you do that?

Im honestly not even sure how to respond to this comment.
I didnt delete your post the last time I logged into MSE was on the 16th to update my diary that I never got the weatherspoons job also there has been MANY times where people disagree with me and my approach to becoming debt free (including OH, friends, even myself at some points :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:). I can honestly say I take everyones feedback on board and if its right for me and OH then I'll use it if not then I'll say thanks but no thanks (just ask Willowpop or Boberella :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:)

Your comment "why don't I grow up" is a little harsh I think - am i the most mature person on the planet? No. Do I have a lot to learn in terms of being financially responsible? most likely yes but where I was when I started this diary is night and day compared to where I am now (maybe not on a money sense but as a person)
Yes Im spending money on going to concerts and random stuff but I didnt realise having debt meant I had to spend my life under a rock.

Im also not going to justify why I work more than 1 job. Has anyone thought I like the security or the different challenges each one of them brings? W2 is a 0 hour contract which I fit in around W1 hours, W3 is 1 hour a day (and yes its minimum wage but that allows me to pay £100 to the debt per month) and as for W1 I concentrate on that very much so (in fact I'm the top performer in my department for the 5th month running.)
Whatever I choose to do is exactly that - my choice.

Florence_J

Hi Megano,

I've been trying to think of what to say and ultimately it is your life and you can make whatever decisions about it that you like. So if you are happy with having multiple jobs that is your business.

I have read countless stories in the papers about people with more than one job, I think it was originally referred to as being a 'slashie' which sounds a bit dangerous in our modern times lots of people have multiple jobs because it helps them manage their time, money, career prospects in a way that works for them.

I speak from personal experience. At one point I had SIX Jobs (admittedly two probably didn't count to some people as they were unpaid/voluntary) and having 6 jobs was really the only option for me at the time to get the money I needed to survive. Working 6 jobs eventually led to me having the one full time job I have now, but I had to work that hard initially to get to this stage.

There was once a time where I had a part time job, and then my OH became unemployed. I immediately got another part time job and went to interview for a saturday position as I wanted all the possible income I could get. The man interviewing me was very confused and clearly thought I was crazy and didn't give me the job, but it wasn't his call to say what I could and couldn't do. Oh well, his loss.

The thing is I did all those jobs because I was trying to show to either myself or my OH that I was doing absolutely everything possible to get to where I wanted to be. Although it paid off working all those roles, I do think I was being a little bit hard on myself and could have let up on myself a little.

The things is, if you are happy with multiple jobs and working different roles then that is great, you know what to do, you know yourself better than anyone. You don't have to answer to anyone.

If however you feel you have to have every possible job under the sun otherwise you would feel that you aren't working hard enough at clearing your debt (this is how I felt) then please take it from all of us that you don't have to do that.

It is your life, It is your decisions.

Megano

Sorry for going MIA again! There has been so many changes so lets start at the beginning (nothing too drastic I promise)

- Cast your mind back to the befriender job I applied for and never even got the interview. Well I'm sitting in W1 and they invite me in for an interview and even better I got it!!! :j:j:j:j granted it only pays just above minimum wage but Im well chuffed as I feel I'll be making a real difference to folks daily lives (its calling old people, making sure they are okay and having a little chat with them)
Only downside is I need to get a PVG disclosure which costs £60 :eek::eek::eek: (normally the employer would pay but for this job you need to get your own - pretty crap if you ask me)
It brings up the age old question about W3 should I stay or should i go?
PROs:
- paid fortnightly £80.30 (which will go on the debt after we've came back from Florida)
- its fairly easy job
CONS
-because of the times it can be done it would mean having to do it at nighttime (after 10pm)
- OH doesn't feel happy about me walking to the bookies it would mean OH would also be inconvenienced.
- its daily (like everyday! - 7 days a week, 365 days a year!)

Just seems I've had additional costs followed by more additional costs: I needed a new passport, got my provisional licence - I don't mean to sound ungrateful but Im looking forward to coming back from holiday and just pressing the restart button. It seems like everything is going on the holiday!
(I've also discovered I have a massive fear of flying and the thought of being up in the air for 8 hours honestly makes my blood run cold)

- OH's car is well and truly f**ked. Apparently the clutch has gone and there is an oil leak in the gear box which will need a specialist (who won't be in work until Tuesday because of the bank holiday :wall::wall::wall:) so we had to put the repairs onto the CC which has increased my debt total! *silver lining - its 0% until jan 18* and we are going to be carless for a week. Deep down I know I'm just being selfish but I really wish OH would have got a curtesy car or something :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

-OH has done a massive shuffle of his finance and thankfully due to a well timed email he's been able to refinance his loan which has reduced his outgoings by £200 a month! I keep telling him to do a DD clear out to see if he can make any other savings but as the famous saying goes you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink.

Florence_J

Hi Megano, I could do with some advice. My finances have hit the fan and I will need to temporarily get a part time job, I may be working 7 days a week.

How do you do it?

Do you have any advice about surviving?

Bobarella

I'm so pleased for you for the befriender role. Loneliness is such a huge problem for many older people. I bet you'll make such a difference to so many. What a kind thing to do.

As to the rest. Can you think about it on your holiday? When is that? You may just find when you are away and fully stopped you decide a 7 day per week commitment is not for you. I know myself that when I finally stop I always realise just how much I do ordinarily.

Sorry about the car. We had a cracked pipe and transmission failure in our last car when wed only just bought it. Obviously dodgy and broken in the first place and had been disguised just to sell it.

Have a good weekend.