Unplanned pregnancy...

Penny_Watcher

Curious_George wrote: »

... but it can work out, i know two people who got pregnant during their first month together :eek:
they ended up getting married and having another child, they have been together about 10 years now

:o [strike]Me[/strike] I mean us :o

I'd known my husband for precisely 44 weeks when DS1 was born (and DS1 was 2 weeks late. :eek:)



At the time discovering I was pregnant was the end of the world for me. I was settled in a good job. My eldest daughter was of an age when she was beginning to become more independent and life was good and being pregnant was definitely a huge blow. OH already had two young children and had just come out of a very bad marriage. I was devastated.

However OH really came up trumps. I was scared to death to tell him. I'd already decided to keep the baby - it was a case of whether we'd be parents together or he'd run for the hills.

Anyway, DS1 is almost 13, we've been married for 12 years and also have a 10 year old daughter together. Life can turn out right in the end, it's just a bit rough getting there sometimes.

Huge hugs and wishing you all the very best.

izoomzoom

Daddy's Girl

I am going to say congratulations, whether you want that or not.

Earlier this year, I found myself unexpectantly pregnant.

I really must admit to myself that I am not the best at taking a daily tablet, but I forgot for quite a few days running, not the first time either, and mentioned to DH that we needed to take extra precaution. We didn't immediately, but thereafter did, and because I had missed the pill for a couple of days, I wasn't entirely sure when I was due. So we carried on using extra precaution (I had stopped the pill because I really didn't have a clue when to take it) and waited. A good week after I was sure I should have had a period by now, I went on line and bought a cheap pg test. It took another 5 days to arrive, but hey, I would either have started by then, or I wouldn't have.

The test arrived on a morning when my husband wasn't at work, so I did it, and my words to him were '... it looks awfully much like a positive..'

To be honest, DH and I hardly spoke to each other for about 5 days. We were clearly both in shock, and I did look into ending this pg, but I didn't say anything. Eventually I said to my DH, what are we going to do and his reply was what could we do, it wasn't the end of the world, and it wasn't like we have never had a baby before.

So with a six year gap, we already have two DS, we are eagerly looking forward to the birth of number 3.

Tell you DH, and then decide between the two of you what you want. Nothing has to be decided immediately.

Good luck.

Nicki

False positives are possible, but they are rare.

Correctly administered, a pregnancy test has about a 98% reliability rate, and the vast majority of the errors are false negatives rather than false positives. However, about 6 in every 1000 errors are false positives. These are caused by certain rare medical conditions (eg some types of ovarian cysts) which cause the body to produce HcG, use of medications containing HcG and incorrectly administering the test (if it is read outside of the recommended results time, an evaporation line can develop which mimics a positive result. A test will also be positive if an egg has been fertilised but fails to implant properly or if an ectopic pregnancy has occured. In both cases, there is a technical pregnancy as sperm has met egg, but it is never viable.

Some leaflets which accompany pregnancy tests will make clear that false positives are possible, whilst others leave it vague. The ones I have at the moment, from Access Diagnostics give clear information about both false positives and false negatives. A search on the internet using google will also show some reputable research about the frequency of this. A search on these very boards will even show that there are some posters on these boards (of which I am one) who have had a false positive for one or more of these reasons (confirmed as such by doctors) For some reason though, there are still loads of people who will post that it is absolutely impossible! I have even read on these boards an ill informed poster tell a women who was posting of her experience of an ovarian cyst causing a false positive, that this was not possible and that the woman in question, in addition to the trauma of the cyst, surgery and subsequent infertility, "must have been pregnant and suffered a miscarriage" :eek:

All this being said, it is I am afraid much more likely than not that you are pregnant, and so you need to get yourself off to the doctors for further advice as soon as you can.

Best of luck.

dora37

DS1 was born 11 months after meeting, when we were both 22 :eek:.

When we first met we lived 200 miles apart (met on holiday abroad)- DS1 is now 16, has a brother 13 and a little sis,5, we have been married for 15 years next month......so though things don't seem ideal at the time, things can work out for the best.:j

Good luck.

Katie~baby

I met my OH in March slept together in April and low and fell pregnant which must of been the first few times we slept together!! We had been together approx 5 weeks when i found out i was 3 weeks gone! It was a shock i can tell ya and i to was petrified of telling him as he also has a child from a prevouis. But i just thought stuff it ive got to tell him and i did, he was gobsmacked to say the least and the first few months were tough, i mean really we hardly knew each other. But 7 1/2 years down the line and we are very happy! You might be suprised by his reaction?

Maybe you need a couple of days to get YOUR head around the idea before telling him?
Good Luck x x

dollop

hi hun listen dont worry yourself silly its not worth it,i decided to move away from the citty away from all m friends and family and everyone i knew to a place i diddnt know for a new start for my kids and also for them to grow up in a btter envoirment,before i left manchester my last period went a bit dicky i thought oh well stress of moving ect ect even though i knew stress dont affect me that way lol,anyhow i moved shifted the furniture got the kids in school and realised i still haddnt come on,had been very carefull too with protection ect so in jan decided to do a test and it was postive,i was devestated,i knew my fella diddnt want anymore,and the timing was so wrong the house needed so much doing to it and i wanted to start full time work straightaway and get into a routine,well obviously not,i felt so isolated at first as i diddnt know anyone diddnt know the area and the healthcare so far was crap,and decided to tell him indoors obv he wasnt happy at first,but it was a case of whats done is done,it was hard for me as im a people person i love chatting n getting to know people but was so hard,anyway to cut a long story short,went through the pregnancy lucky all healthy,and delivered him on tuesday i was really scared because all through the pregnancy i knew in my heart of hearts that the timing was so wrong and that orignally i diddnt want anymore but i kept telling myself as soon as that lill babe is born my maternal instincts will kick in and you know what they did,its just so hard sometimes,wrong time wrong situation ect,but it always works out,must admit i was cursing today when he was awake all night lmao but i wuldnt change it for the world now,it could be worst,my aunty who always said shed never had kids ended up pregnant at the age of 48 lol with her first,i read a post on a forum the other day called angels about all the people that had lost babies either misccaried or cot death ect and there was severeal people on there that cant have children or have had quite a few misscariages it brought tears to my eyes and i realised how lucky i was,good luck hun youll see itll work out xxxxxxxxxxx

mai_tai_2

me and my OH had been together exactly 51 weeks when my little girl was born. I was told it was almost impossible i could have kids and my OH said he never wanted any. Boom....after 3 months together i was pregnant! We were dubious at first as we'd just moved away to start new jobs but you should see him with his DD now!
Just wanted to say it's quite a common thing to happen (well to people i know anyway). And it's true you may be surprised by his reaction?

Either way Good Luck hun xx

MascaraMinx

I cried for 2 days when I found out earlier this year that I was pregnant. We'd just moved and taken on a HUGE mortgage, we'd only been married 10 months when I did the test, and we had big plans for travelling etc. It took a fair bit of soul searching and discussions to get here, but we're now both counting the days til Halloween which is our due date!!!

Carmina_Piranha_3

i've taken pregnancy tests which state in the instructions that a false positive can happen, for example with an ovarian cyst or if you are taking certain drugs (not the pill, that doesn't affect the result). the most likely outcome is that you are pregnant but a false positive is possible. you've missed pills though - you can get pregnant just by missing one pill. if you're not pregnant this time and want to avoid it in the future you could get the morning after pill if you ever forget your pills again. i forgot mine once when i visited a boyfriend and i went to his surgery to get some from there.

if you are in pain you should see your doctor. it doesn't mean at this stage that you must make a decision about whether you want to keep the baby or not, just tell the doctor you only just found out and haven't spoken to OH yet.

pain might indicate a cyst perhaps, but one possible cause is ectopic pregnancy, if this happens you need medical treatment. of course the pain might be nothing to worry about - my second pregnancy was really painful and i worried because i didn't feel pain with my first pregnancy so i thought i was miscarrying. my third didn't really hurt until i miscarried - all pregnancies are different and not everyone feels every symptom or side effect.

if you are in pain over the weekend there should be an out of hours GP you can see if needs be - call NHSdirect and they will get you an appointment if it sounds like you need one before your normal GP opens on tuesday. they'll ask about the pain etc. to decide if it sounds like an ectopic pregnancy. i don't want to worry you - most pain is normal and doesn't mean anything is wrong.

good luck with whatever happens *HUGS*

traveller

Hi, I wish you all the luck in the world.Usually you are able to find the decision you feel more comfortable with in time and in your situation, I honestly think your partner will come round.
I too have had a positive result and am a bit apprehensive.I have 3 kids already and me and their father have just started seeing eachother again,for about a year now after splitting 3 years ago!I was on the pill but turned into a monster so stuck to condoms.I am irregular, but always come on at least a week earlier in date than the previous month.On holiday a couple of days ago I did 2 tests.One was a very faint line, the other,a more reptuble brand positive within seconds.I'm not sure what to do.Deep down I'd love to have it,but I'm worried about how the financial implications would affect my other kids.They are 15 11 and 9 and I'm mid 30's.In honesty I'm totally confused.The only people I've told are my daughter who walked in on me doing the test and a friend.My daughter says we'll cope and be fine,my friend says it would be a bad move.

I just wish I had some answers for myself really.Anyone else unexpected ended up with a large family.Have'nt spoken to their father as although we both have good jobs, he does have money issues ansd I want to be clear myself mentally, before I broach the subject with him.