Unplanned pregnancy...

Daddy's_Girl

I read on another post that you can't have a false positive but I don't know if this is just a "wives tale"

Badger_Lady

You really need to make an appointment with the Doctor... from everything I've heard, a negative result can be wrong but a positive result is almost certainly correct.

You can't be sure until you visit your GP / FPC, and even then (particularly if you've got stomach pains), there's no guarantee that you won't have an early miscarriage anyway (pretty common in first month or so).

It must be really stressful for you, I'm so sorry, but try and keep your cool until you know what's what.

heather38

oh hun have a hug, it's true that you can't have a false positive (unless you take some very rare medicine- which you would know if you were taking it)
you might be surprised your OH might be pleased. try not to worry too much, tell him and decide what you're going to do after.

mummy_Jay

One step at a time, breathe deeply and gather your thoughs.

Ok, do another test if you wish but I would contact your doctor, my doctor told me you can get false negatives but that you don't get false positives with pregnancy tests.

As for being on the pill, I was when I got pregnant with my son. Lots of factors here, like the contraceptive protection of the different pill varies some may only give you 75% protection, then you have the factors of any drugs(inc antibiotics) you take can counteract it, also things like being sick or the runs can counter it.

Share the news with your OH, take him with you to the doctor, then the doctor can talk him through how it happened. He may surprise you.

LilMissEmmylou

dont panic - i was in your situation just over a yr ago with an unplanned pg. I just thought I was ill. I was in uni and well a yr on ive had the baby, heading back to uni and OH who was shocked loves his DD to bits

Just try not to worry about it all, things always work out and congrats

r.mac_2

first of all stop panicking!

secondly, its not "all your fault". It takes two to make a baby!

thirdly, you are right to wait until you have spoken to your Dr before thining/telling/doing anything.

just want to wish you good luck x

emma_b_4

hi just wanted to say that i was in a similar position earlier this year, with a suprise positive test! im a student nurse and money is tight, we hadnt planned a baby and it came as a huge shock.
there is no right or wrong way to react to the news you are pregnant but im sure your OH is adult enough to know it takes two to make a baby and he might not react the way you think
it is unlikely that you have a false pos test.
i would go and see your doctor and also talk things through eith your partner or other close person such as friend or parent.
dont be pressured into anything just think things through for yourselves

Curious_George_2

Badger_Lady wrote: »

there's no guarantee that you won't have an early miscarriage anyway (pretty common in first month or so).

what encouraging advice, thanks for that :rolleyes: jeez...

daddysgirl - its not an old wives tale, home pregnancy tests really are that good these days, if you tell your doc you have had a positive they wont even do a repeat test to check (unless you really push for one)

your OH might be a little shocked and upset, but whats done is done and as r.mac said, you didnt do this on your own!!
you didnt do this to spite him so dont worry...
people do get pregnant on the pill, my friend got caught out twice while taking the pill religiously... so it can happen even if you have been really careful

and if he doesnt come round eventually, well... its probably better to find out now than still be with him in years to come when your biological clock is clunking around in your head.... but it can work out, i know two people who got pregnant during their first month together :eek:
they ended up getting married and having another child, they have been together about 10 years now

lauric

Hi Daddys girl,
just wanted to wish you good luck

your rite, you can get false positives, but try not to stree too much, as stress can make your periods late / not at all!
trust me ive been in this position before!
and they always say to wait at least 2 weeks after a late period to take a test.

whatever the outcome i hope you are happy and you make the rite decision for you

your OH shouldnt be mad, as said in a previous post, it takes 2 to tango..

all the best
x x

Badger_Lady

Curious_George wrote:

what encouraging advice, thanks for that :rolleyes: jeez...

Sorry George - I wasn't trying to be doom-and-gloom, but it's a fact that nothing's certain in the first stages of pregnancy and, even though OP may in fact be pregnant now, it could still be a false alarm.

I know the word "miscarriage" is a terrible thing to hear when you are expecting a child (and I genuinely wish you all the best with your son!), but it can actually be a mixed relief to those who have accidentally concieved.

In particular, I had a friend who found herself pregnant at 17 and was in great distress about whether to have an abortion when, 5 weeks into pregnancy, it was no longer an issue and she could continue with her life as planned. She settled down with her fiance a few years later and they now have a fab little boy.

I'm not suggesting in any way that you should hope for this, Daddy's Girl - the pregnancy could turn out to be a blessing in disguise for you! I just think it's too early for you to be getting stressed out about what could or could not be.

Curious_George_2

thanks for explaining what you meant, i didnt mean to jump on you...i was just surprised to see someone say that!
i think its because im still shocked by the things people say to pregnant women (and those who have miscarried) and this is my second time round...:rolleyes:

ive had some outrageous comments made to me by family, friends and complete strangers!! some people really dont engage thier brains before speaking!