Quit everything , and start again over 50?

another_casualty

That book I mentioned earlier,' designs for small spaces', by Jennifer Hudson . Good book

Smodlet

Not the same Jennifer Hudson who was in Dreamgirls?

another_casualty

No idea never heard of dream girls .out of touch I guess

another_casualty

So today is a little different .
Another person left today ( early retirement ).
Obviously wishing it was me , although I should be next.

My friend in Poole , is coming into London today .
I'll be meeting up with him mid afternoon for a few beers , before he and my other friend go to Kentish Town to see a band .
I find the band bland , so I opted out
Our other friend should join us around 4.15 or so.

Should be cooler later . Humid again .

And of course it's the weekend

bettyboo71

Hello again AC - and everyone else.
I haven't been on for about two weeks, partly because I have been busy and partly because I was feeling a bit like LL, etc., that you just were not taking people's advice.

I do understand your thinking re not taking too much of a hit financially, but I think you are suffering physically, and your health is much more important. If I was in your position (and it is not that long since I was sort of), I would be cutting the price by £10-15k right now. Given your previous figures, tht would buy you a nice place in Poole and give you a healthy cushion in the bank. You could afford a year off to relax, recover, get fit, and re-evaluate. In the meantime, you keep an eye on the jobs in the new area, and you do apply if something really appeals.

One of the reasons I have been busy recently is that all the stuff I had in storage has finally been moved here. I have looked through most of it and am really not sure why I kept quite a lot of it. There re things which were not cheap, and which are far too good to throw out, and my OH and I have disagreed already because I am talking about selling some clothes, etc. which he thinks I should hang on to because they are good/nice. Sorry, I am rambling a bit, but my point is that you can replace things if you really need to, but there will be many things that you hang on to that you will never really need. Be as brutal as you can be, and if you can sell things, all the better.

Have a good weekend and, if you really feel that you are not going to sell soon, take a decent amount of time off of work and have a few days away.

In the last few weeks I have spent lots of time watching all our garden birds with their young, feeding them and teaching them to get the food for themselves. We have a family of foxes and the babies are noisy, but it is still lovely to know they are there. There is a rabbit (probably not always the same one) which really enjoys the little bit of grass that is cut at the corner of our track, sometimes it is there for ages. Then today I learned how they put the plastic wraps on the bales of hay (I know, but I am just an ignorant city girl), but the best thing was watching the buzzards flying and hunting. I even did some gardening.

Life is too short, AC. Don't make it any shorter. As LL said, get on with Act 3.

Smodlet

Where you live sounds like heaven, Bettyboo. It is great to see you back. S xx

lessonlearned

another_casualty wrote: »

That book I mentioned earlier,' designs for small spaces', by Jennifer Hudson . Good book

Before you start looking at storage solutions it's time you learned to "Kondo". :rotfl:

There is a great little book called "The Life Changing Magic of Tidying" by Marie Kondo. She is Japanese and as nutty as a fruit cake but what she says makes a great deal of sense.

There are lots of you tube videos about her, teaching you how to fold clothing "Kondo" style to make space. There is a thread on the Old Style board if you want to join in the Kondo fun and frolics on there.

I have long been interested in the Japanese ideals of aesthetic beauty and design.

For example they will have just a couple of favourite items on display. Then after a while they put them away for a rest and display something else to ring the changes.

But the overall effect is always a room which is calm and peaceful.

Japan is a very small and very overcrowded country so they have embraced an aesthetic which fully espouses the "less is more" ideal.

My new mantra!!!

Remember the old William Morris saying "have in your house only items which you know to be useful or believe to be beautiful"

Or......as the best architects say "God is in the detail"

Go through everything with a fine tooth comb, Handle each item and ask yourself does this object please me or is it fit for purpose, or as Marie says "does it bring me joy". Yes told you she is quirky..........:rotfl:

There is a Feng Shuey thing which says that you need to get rid of the old, worn out and obsolete to make way for the new - this means not just objects but also feelings, ideas and sometimes long held beliefs and ideals too.

Basically all these philosophies boil down to one thing. You have to let go of the past so that you can embrace the future.

Sometimes we are forced into this position - bereavement, job loss, illness, retirement etc and sometimes it's something we choose voluntarily.

I had no choice, I didn't abandon my past life - it abandoned me. In your case it's a mixture of both, you do have an element of choice. Perhaps that's your problem - you are overwhelmed by choice and are finding it difficult to stay focussed.

I say kick out the old life and embrace the new......start decluttering this weekend.

grunnie

So true Lessonlearned I have Kondoed my whole house and it looks especially neat and tidy and I can lay my hands on whatever I need. If I moved house every single item would come with me. I have cleaned out all the clutter and what is left is what I love and use and need. The plus side is it is so easy to clean and keep clean which frees me up to do whatever I fancy.

joeyjimbles

There are a couple of threads about Kon Marie on the Old Style Money Savings Board - this is the most recent. The first few pages have links to the best you tube clips etc.

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5385103

another_casualty

bettyboo71 wrote: »

Hello again AC - and everyone else.
I haven't been on for about two weeks, partly because I have been busy and partly because I was feeling a bit like LL, etc., that you just were not taking people's advice.

I do understand your thinking re not taking too much of a hit financially, but I think you are suffering physically, and your health is much more important. If I was in your position (and it is not that long since I was sort of), I would be cutting the price by £10-15k right now. Given your previous figures, tht would buy you a nice place in Poole and give you a healthy cushion in the bank. You could afford a year off to relax, recover, get fit, and re-evaluate. In the meantime, you keep an eye on the jobs in the new area, and you do apply if something really appeals.

One of the reasons I have been busy recently is that all the stuff I had in storage has finally been moved here. I have looked through most of it and am really not sure why I kept quite a lot of it. There re things which were not cheap, and which are far too good to throw out, and my OH and I have disagreed already because I am talking about selling some clothes, etc. which he thinks I should hang on to because they are good/nice. Sorry, I am rambling a bit, but my point is that you can replace things if you really need to, but there will be many things that you hang on to that you will never really need. Be as brutal as you can be, and if you can sell things, all the better.

Have a good weekend and, if you really feel that you are not going to sell soon, take a decent amount of time off of work and have a few days away.

In the last few weeks I have spent lots of time watching all our garden birds with their young, feeding them and teaching them to get the food for themselves. We have a family of foxes and the babies are noisy, but it is still lovely to know they are there. There is a rabbit (probably not always the same one) which really enjoys the little bit of grass that is cut at the corner of our track, sometimes it is there for ages. Then today I learned how they put the plastic wraps on the bales of hay (I know, but I am just an ignorant city girl), but the best thing was watching the buzzards flying and hunting. I even did some gardening.

Life is too short, AC. Don't make it any shorter. As LL said, get on with Act 3.[/QU

Thanks Betty .
Truth is , I am / will be doing some of the things mentioned .
TBH , I haven't the finances to do them all yet Iappreciate everyone's input here , and would be lost without it
You seem to have a lovely place with the animals;)