Quit everything , and start again over 50?

another_casualty

Just bumped into the 'neighbour ' in the street. I'm so big, she couldn't get out of the way . I was just smiling to myself

lessonlearned

AC. Please stop working yourself up into a tizzy over your neighbour. What's the point. You are beginning to let her get under your skin and it is impairing your judgement.

Really.......feeling pleased she couldn't get past you because you are bigger than her.??? That is not nice. It's petty bullying and it's unworthy of you.

Back to the fascias........At this stage of the game it will be easier to just make a cash settlement rather than trying to get the works done in time to meet an October deadline.

It could be spring before they can sort out trades. Just reach an agreement and then you can crack on.

Still not heard anything about my revised offer on the bungalow so I'm taking that as a "no". I won't be making a higher offer. It's not necessary because it's definitely a buyers market here, there's plenty for sale and loads of reductions.

I am now a car owner once again. I have taken ownership of my sons little fiesta and we picked up a nice VW Passat for him.

My plan is to spend a couple of weeks house viewing. Now that I am mobile I can do a few drive bys first before committing to viewings.

Plus now I am driving again I can get to a gym more easily, so checking out the gyms and working out which kne appeals the most is next on my agenda.

Nice dry day so just going to have a bit of a garden tidy and repot a couple of saplings.

Hope you are having a good weekend. Are you decluttering and packing.

another_casualty

Thanks LL
Good luck with the car and house hunting.
Felt horrible again today. Was gonna have breakfast with my brother, but cancelled . Spoke on the phone though.

Vodafone gave me heart attack today, and lots of hassle.
Received new SIM card on Thursday. Said I'll wait till weekend before putting new one in .
When I came home this morning from shopping, I realised that they changed my phone no.
This meant that I was on the internet ' chat' which was useless.
I found a no.to phone, which took ages.
Will put new sim in later .Also, when giving my security details to them , they had the wrong address. I told them off. They're too busy trying to flog the iPhone 7
Will tidy spare room later, and start doing things .

Karonher

Can I add a little to what LL has said? Could you just concentrate on what you can do and not worry so much about others? I understand it is a big move, but it doesn't have to be so difficult.

For the sake of a few hundred pounds, I would be bending over backwards to get the move finalised.

It seems your brother was a problem, neighbour is spiteful, colleagues are against you, management company are not helpful, buyers need pandering to, at the beginning, Chase Buchannan were a problem. Some of the stress could be caused by perceived slights which by and large don't seem to be the case. If you treated me the way you treated the neighbour this morning I think I would want to do something about it.

Like you, everyone wants things to go their way. It would be great if you could concentrate on Christmas in Poole - or wherever you choose to go - rather than get wound up because people want to do things in a way that is not ideal for you.

another_casualty

Thanks karonher . I didn't do anything against the neighbour btw.
I had bags of shopping in my hands and basically I walked past her . She has a surprised and disgusted look on her face . I did absolutely nothing . Things sound much worse on forums at times than real life .
I wish I never mentions that bit now as I was Saying something here in jest
You , and everyone else are right , that I should forget about her .
I am doing that now .
I've not had any problems with chase Buchanan TBH .i don't think it fair to put all f my previous issues together and fire back at me . I tell you what goes on ,,and everything gets blown out of proportion. I now understand that I need to
Just get on with it . The help here from all of you is great .
If I want this to continue , I know now to just get on with things like I used to .


I'm forgetting the past , and putting it all behind .
The fascia is just down to negotiation , and about how much I should pay .
Shouldn't be a great deal . Apart from the sticking points mentioned, can't be long now .
Thanks

Karonher

That's great that everything is getting put behind you. That's the thing with forums though, everyone only knows what they are told.

Sorry if you thought that the previous post was too much, and I know it is none of my business how you view things, but it was just on observation on what you have said over the months.

If you want it deleting I will do that.

another_casualty

Thanks karonher
No need to delete really . I think it shows what I'm going through .
I try to be easy going . I am an open book . Too open at times:)
I have worn you all out on many occasions without realising at times .
I do think this steroid drug I'm on ( prednisolone ) can make me more
Frustrated when there is understandable frustration.
One or 2 folk thought I suffer from anxiety . As we both acknowledge ,
On a forum it's difficult to see the actual person typing than in real life .

You , like everyone on here are great , and I thank you for all of your help.
Sorry for being o t t without realising . I just need to keep my head down and carry on .
Thanks again

lessonlearned

another_casualty wrote: »

Thanks karonher . I didn't do anything against the neighbour btw.
I had bags of shopping in my hands and basically I walked past her . She has a surprised and disgusted look on her face . I did absolutely nothing . Things sound much worse on forums at times than real life .
I wish I never mentions that bit now as I was Saying something here in jest
You , and everyone else are right , that I should forget about her .
I am doing that now .
I've not had any problems with chase Buchanan TBH .i don't think it fair to put all f my previous issues together and fire back at me . I tell you what goes on ,,and everything gets blown out of proportion. I now understand that I need to
Just get on with it . The help here from all of you is great .
If I want this to continue , I know now to just get on with things like I used to .


I'm forgetting the past , and putting it all behind .
The fascia is just down to negotiation , and about how much I should pay .
Shouldn't be a great deal . Apart from the sticking points mentioned, can't be long now .
Thanks

Please don't take our comments too much too heart. We know you are under stress, unwell, broke, hate your job, desperate to escape......
Trust me I've been there and I'm guessing many of us who are trying to help can relate to some if not all of your woes. We get it.

However, what we are saying is that we have noticed a pattern in the way you relate to other people and to the challenges you face. You panic, you overthink, you agonise and then you (verbally) lash out, criticising all and sundry.

I suggest you try another tactic.

Have you heard about RAKs - Random Acts of Kindness.

Today with the lady........instead of smiling to yourself that you and your bags were blocking her path and feeling that this was somehow a "victory" would it not have been a kind and gentlemanly thing to do to step aside and let her pass, with a pleasant smile and a cheery "good morning".

Wouldn't that have made you feel better about yourself.

Try it.....instead of looking for the negatives, turn things round. Look for the good stuff.

Your say your boss is vile........do you know anything about her. Maybe she too has problems. Maybe she's out of her depth. Maybe she too hates her job, maybe she is terrified of you. Cut her some slack, try making her a cup of coffee and being nice to her (even if it makes you choke).

And yes I am afraid buyers do need pandering to,:rotfl: whether you like it or not, they do have the upper hand. However, I think they sound pretty genuine and arent just being awkward.

Don't forget they are first time buyers. They probably got spooked when they saw the survey - most FTBs do. They have no experience of owning a property, probably little knowledge about building matters and even less money set aside for repairs. As FTBs they are probably stretched to their limit.

Just meet them half way - you can afford it. Consider it a RAK.

Remember the old saying "What goes around, comes around" - be nice to other people and they will be nice to you.

We reap as we sow.

RAKS are like depositing money in the bank, the interest they pay is Good Karma.:D

wendym

At the risk of boring many of you to drink, prednisolone does have a lot to answer for.


I am not quite 'me', and although I dislike the expression, the kindest consultant I saw during my (unconnected) hospital stay with the embolism, congratulated me on soldiering on with 'pred head'.


The insomnia is not like normal sleeplessness, and as I said many pages ago, AC is to be admired for getting in to work, never mind all the other stuff.


Now, who mentioned a drink?

another_casualty

Thanks very much Wendy . It seems you may have hit the nail ,on the head. I am ( only ) on 10 mg( 2 tablets). Thinking back to last year, it was
14,tablets or so. Plus the other stuff.
Yes LL I hate the boss. She kicked me while I was down . Telling lies to my face , when I retaliated to her bullying. Yes bullied by a personnel officer . Long story , not for Here
Whatever next . The neighbour: if I said good morning to her , she would've snapped at me . In your last post, you are more or less telling me that I am miserable . Not so. In fact I'm the opposite .
I've done many acts of kindness , even giving the counter staff at wait rose
£60 I found on the floor in their shop.

I appreciate that I seem miserable and am blaming all and sundry.
I only blame people who really deserve it, as I have proof and reasons for doing so.
Sorry if I have been rambling on and depressing some of you .
Thanks for putting up with me , throughout.
Now , can we move on ?