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Husband refuses to put my name on the deed of the house
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I agree with you, I think "this marriage is doomed" as well.0
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I think you want your cake and eat it. You are exactly in the same situation as my OH and if he had reacted as you are I would he been mighty shocked.
I think you are confusing things ie divorce and death. You are bite married so if yoy were to be divorced deeds would be irrelevant. As it stands you owe 50% of your joint wealth ad a starter. Saying that as he has children to support he could potentially gain more. That's to late to do anything about it you agreed to this when you married.
Death is dealt with wills. You can out whatever you want with yours. Your argument about the kids mum doesn't stand though as you could agree that anything going to the kids would go into a trust to be managed by whoever you wish so that the mother has no right over the property.
Maybe you could arrange to see a solicitor for advice and then discuss it again with your OH.
Mostly this, depending how property is owned -
Joint tenants or tenants in common.0 -
"I was like", "he was like", "I was like"
Is this happening in LA?0 -
Just wondering, who do you want to inherit your property and money when you die?0
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I sort of agree with your hubby on this, either you both jointly own both properties or you own one each. I get the step children situation, I also have step kids and none of my own and get why you don't want anything to go to his ex but he is trying to provide for his children's futures and make sure they are financially protected if anything should happen to him.
I don't however agree with him calling you names although you do say you both said things you shouldn't have so was that more of a 50:50 on the name calling and accusation front?
I understand him trying to look out for his kids.
All I am saying is that what was mine before marriage, should remain mine. I can't put all my eggs in one basket with his. As I am going to be financially responsible for the half the bills as I have done, then I feel my name should be on the deeds of the new buy.
I am perfectly happy with his children can benefit from stuff we accumulated together.0 -
I have to say that it's quite impressive that between the pair of you a positive property and financial situation has been turned into a massive fallout.....0
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Ok here goes.
You have a £400k property with X amount of equity in it. You are named solely on the mortgage, and you don't get any income from the flat?
Your husband is now losing part of the discount because of you're circumstances. - certainly the very least is that you pay him this. (if you want to do the mine and yours mentality)
Now onto practicalities.
You can own property in many ways. Either You each own 100% of the property (so if one dies, the other automatically owns it all)
Or you can each own 50%, in which case you can decide what to do with your share, and he with his.
Who would you leave it to?
Yes, my property is being rented out.
I will continue to be financially responsible for half the expenses in the new buy. If I am going to be paying half the mortgage then why should I have to pay him £16k as well? The discount being reduced essentially means we add £16k to the mortgage which I will be partially responsible for so wouldn't I be paying twice?
I wouldn't like to leave my share to non biological children...just being honest. I already do a lot for them as it is. I have blood relatives who I would like to benefit as well.0 -
Why oh why would you do anything that's going to cost you £16,000 seems nonsensical.0
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