I'm so scared...

LittleOne83

I'm an anxious flyer too. I once took too many diazepam accidently (the gp I was with said take an extra 2, she meant 2mg and I thought she meant 2 tablets). Don't remember much of that flight!
Talk to your gp about doses and other drugs available.
I too know the physics and why certain sounds happen but it still freaks me out. To me it's unnatural and I'm not in control. But then I think to myself that someone else IS in control and I have to put my trust in them.
I also watch the stewards, if they're not buckled into their seats then all is good.

Maybe try the headspace app, it's some mindfulness which I find really helpful.
Good luck xx

busiscoming2

Horizon81 wrote: »

Cabin crew are naturally calm people and highly trained to remain relaxed regardless of the situation. Do you think airlines would employ staff who are jumpy and look scared at a bit of turbulence?! There could be a whole host of bad stuff going on and the cabin crew would be as calm and relaxed as usual.

They may be highly trained but if things were THAT bad I'm sure they'd look a bit worried. After all it's their lives too.

I love flying but at the same time I have some fear. If I ever get worried, think a noise is strange etc, I look at the cabin crew to check they are acting completely normally!

The more I've flown, the less worried I've become.

kerri_gt

Try these grounding techniques to help calm your anxiety.

https://www.google.co.uk/search?q=grounding+techniques&espv=2&biw=1366&bih=643&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0CAgQ_AUoA2oVChMIopeFzrqeyAIVA-wUCh3Oiw1n#imgrc=h0LZaqGlnCJirM%3A

FBaby

I used to love flying until a set of circumstances and one day I woke up utterly petrified at the idea of getting in a plane. This led to me doing everything to avoid it...until I met my partner who shared a love of travelling. It was an experience I rant wanted to share with him so knew I had to do something about it.

I tried various things but in the end what works for me is valium and a drink (or two). I hedge been flying two or three times a year for the past 5 years and it really is getting better. I even took a long flight last year was sick at the prospect of it for months before but was a surely fine. This year I even booked a weekend away myself flying which could have been done on the train so was very pleased with myself.

I still don't like it at all and would rather not do it but I haven't experienced that fear in my stomach I used to for a few years and don't get all anxious the days before. I'm ok at the airport too. I am however absolutely not ready to fly without my routine or without my OH yet.

Widelats

I too am scared of flying, i have flown and will never fly again, i always hear of some plane crash, emergency landing, or fire from BA the other week, and even the pilot said he will never fly again, so its not a bad thing to not want to fly.

I can absolutely NOT recommend any coach trips long haul, no way, especially Eurolines coaches, they are cramped, usually have angry very rude drivers and are not comfortable after a few hours travel, i would recommend the luxury sleeper coaches though where you have a bed available to lie down if your back starts hurting from sitting up all the time.

Better still i would suggest Eurostar or a simlilar train, though i have never used trains long haul i seriously doubt they are worse than coaches. At least you can use the toilet without being complained at by a miserable driver and walk in the aisles if your legs start getting stiff without being screamed at to sit down by the drivers, also trains have bars and tables and a huge lot more leg room.

Ferrys are also great (for me) i have been on the Calais to Dover with P & O Ferries i loved it, it was a night crossing and it was great, hardly any on board shops were open but still a lot of fun especially seeing the clandestine being pulled out of trucks in the port lol. they were all smiles and laughter.

Eurotunnel is fast, though they have disgusting, tiny, filthy toilet that always has a queue from it, and nowhere to sit in the train, except your vehicle again.

Lastly i would suggest investing in a decent scooter and going abroad yourself.

Goldiegirl

My friend is completely terrified of flying

She admits she's a control freak, and being flown by someone else makes her feel she can't control the situation.

She did just about manage to get on the plane in previous years - she even managed to fly to Australia. But on the way back she was so bad, that they let her sit with the pilot so she could see what was going on! ( this was pre 9/11)

But what finally finished her off was her honeymoon to the Maldives. They had to get on a small local plane to get to the little island they were staying on, and they had such bad turbulence, that even grown men were crying!

She managed to get back home, but since then she's tried everything to conquer her fear. She's tried hypnosis ( that made her worse), courses for nervous passengers, everything.

She's cancelled holidays at the last minute, because she's literally terrified to get on the plane.

She's accepted it now, and travels by alternative means - she does coach and cruise holidays.

Voyager2002

Goldiegirl wrote: »

She's accepted it now, and travels by alternative means - she does coach and cruise holidays.

Personally I feel less in control on a coach than on a 'plane. Statistically road transport is much more dangerous, and I find it a good deal more frightening.

Widelats

Voyager2002 wrote: »

Personally I feel less in control on a coach than on a 'plane. Statistically road transport is much more dangerous, and I find it a good deal more frightening.

How? You have a MUCH MUCH greater chance of surviving a coach crash than a plane crash.

tomtontom

Widelats wrote: »

How? You have a MUCH MUCH greater chance of surviving a coach crash than a plane crash.

But a much greater chance of being in an accident in the first place ...

Voyager2002

Widelats wrote: »

How? You have a MUCH MUCH greater chance of surviving a coach crash than a plane crash.

For a 'plane crash you have a fifty-fifty chance of survival. I doubt if the odds are that good if something goes badly wrong on Megabus.