At what age do you reduce gifts down to normal size.

borkid

pigpen wrote: »

when they are financially independant

They can be independant and still struggle. My daughter is independant, has been for 17 years but she is chronically ill so we buy her what she needs to make life more comfortable. Last birthday we bought a mobile air conditioning unit because she was suffering with the heat, about £200. My son often says don't bother with presents I don't need anything but if he wants to borrow money later in the year and he hasn't had a christmas present we just give it to him. I reckon on average we spend about £200 on each but we only spend what we can afford we never go into debt for birthdays or christmas.

missbiggles1

It's never occurred to me that people would spend less on adult children than younger, but then it never occurred to me to spend £200/300 each either!

busiscoming2

My children have only ever really had about £30 spent on them for their birthdays and that has continued into adulthood.

Christmastime they have always had about £100 worth each. Since the older two have good jobs and live independently with their respective partners there amount has reduced a bit. For me it just happened naturally without really thinking about it.

Anatidaephobia

My parents spend way too much on me for Christmas; I would be very happy for them to let me know they were going to cut back a bit as I would never want them to spend more than they were happy with.

megamax

18 is a good age to let them start realising that the bank of mum & dad should not always be shelling out, but I think that a special something should be purchased for their 21st

hazyjo

I get way more now at 45 than I ever got as a child :eek:


My mum is very generous. The value of our gifts didn't shrink, we just had 'different' sorts of presents. I bought my first flat at 21 so things then were more house-related.


Now, I get cash.


Out of interest, those who got/give less when older, did you expect it/tell them it would happen?


I suppose I do spend a lot more on my mum now than I did in previous years.


Jx

Kynthia

My parents never reduced what they gave us and still spend quite a lot on us for birthdays and Christmas. I'm sure they know they don't have to and that it's appreciated but they can afford it.

mish

when the grandchildren arrived ��

McTaggus

Personally, when they stopped appreciating the value of the gift, and started expecting it.

borkid

Faith177 wrote: »

I was really lucky my mum never put an amount on presents we always got really spoilt at Christmas and Birthdays. She just got us what we wanted and what she could afford some years we got more than others.

We had our last Christmas together last year and we still had a huge stack of presents each I was 28 at the time and my brother 24 she must have spent about £200-300 on us each

It's up to you how you want to spend your money on your children there is no set time in my opinion

Same here, we spend what we want to on our children ( 38 and 35) If we have the money and see something they would like then we buy it. I'd rather treat them now and see them enjoy what we buy than save it so they inherit it when we die.

We don't go short and don't get into debt so I don't see a problem just do what suits you at any one time.