Sponsorship and blackmail

Indie_Kid

fierystormcloud wrote: »

What a cheek! :eek:

So what was the money she (supposedly) raised for? And how much did she raise?

Can't remember now. We received an email to say thanks and that some of the money went to the sky dive and the rest went towards the charity.

I'm due to race next year and will be hoping to raise some money in the process. Thanks to a lovely relative, I won't have to pay for somewhere to stay.:)

mrscb

It was the OPs sister decision to pick the charity and the OP should have their own decision wether or not to sponsor.. If it was me I wouldn't sponsor her if I didn't agree with the charity and would rather sponsor someone doing it for a charity I preferred.
My daughter recently did 3 half marathons .. She paid for her own places and then asked for sponsorship for her chosen charity.. So all the money went to charity ( rather than part of the sponsorship covering the cost of the place which is how I presume the charities that need x amount of sponsorship guaranteed before you can have one of the places work)
At the end of the day it's basically keep the peace or stand your ground :-)

onlyroz

fierystormcloud wrote: »

Cannot bear it when I go into work and someone comes sniffing around me begging for money for some charity I don't give a stuff about. In addition, I am sick of people bragging about what they're doing all over social media like they are some kind of Saint; because they're shaving their hair off and painting their head green for a certain charity that they support. (And as has been said, they didn't care about the charity before someone close to them was affected by it.)

Do they actually beg? My experiences with these things is being included in a group email which I can choose to ignore, or perhaps being asked once, politely, if I mind sponsoring them.

As for "bragging" - do people really do this? Again, in my experience people mentioning once that they've done something, and maybe included a photo - I don't think that's bragging.

gettingtheresometime

onlyroz wrote: »

As for "bragging" - do people really do this? Again, in my experience people mentioning once that they've done something, and maybe included a photo - I don't think that's bragging.

Earlier this year I took part in an event where I periodically posted on facebook my progress as well as a photo of when I finished.

Don't know if this was considered 'bragging' but as this was a major achievement I didn't really care lol

Anatidaephobia

Gra76 wrote: »

This year she's chosen a charity I've got absolutely no interest in whatsoever. I wouldn't put money in their tin if it was rattled under my nose in the street so I don't see why I should give them money via my sister. The charity she's picked is irrelevant, the point is I don't support her chosen charity. She's now sending me texts that literally just read 'Sponsorship??'.

Of course you don't have to sponsor her but you appear to have given her the impression that you will hence the texts. If you are not going to sponsor her then you should tell her, explain the reason, and put a stop to this. There isn't really any need for this to become an issue if you communicate openly with her.

Personally, I would sponsor her unless there was some serious issue with the charity, ie, I did not support it for moral reasons, or I had reason to believe it was corrupt in some way or badly run, something like that. I'm interested to know what about the charity makes you describe it as "irrelevant". Presumably it means something to your sister because she's doing it for a relative which makes it somewhat relevant to you, even if you consider it to be loosely connected. The idea isn't that you simply donate to charity but that you are also supporting the person raising money so, considering your feelings, it seems reasonable to donate more than the minimum amount but less than the amount you normally would (IMO).

Pollycat

No idea what is going on with the last dozen texts.
I feel like I've gone to bed and fallen down Alice's rabbit-hole and am wondering when the Mad Hatter is going to appear.

I don't know if the OP has expressed his disapproval about the charity his sister has chosen to his sister.

I certainly wouldn't like to receive texts from my own sister demanding money for sponsorship. If 'demanding' is what she is doing.
Given the title of the thread - which the OP admits is 'slightly harshly worded' - maybe she isn't 'demanding'.

He has clearly sponsored her in the past so maybe she's just reminding him.
As we don't know the dynamics of their relationship, it's impossible to tell.

However, if it were my sister who'd asked for sponsorship, we would already have had a conversation about the charity.
If it was one that I wouldn't usually donate to, I'd let her know that but I would still sponsor her (for the same amount as I would usually do) because she's my sister and I would want to support her in what is a pretty big event.

If it was a charity that was 'iffy', I'd tell her that I didn't feel comfortable about supporting that particular charity but I would ask her to nominate an alternative charity for my sponsorship money & hope she would appreciate and respect my point of view. (she would ).

TopQuark

OP, I think I'd just get on and sponsor her to be honest. I can understand not agreeing with some types of charity though, as I myself would never to give to any of the religious organisations masquerading as 'charities' in order to peddle their stories.

sooty&sweep

Your sister is running the Great North Run & so she gets to choose who she runs for.
Yes the sponsorship will go to her chosen charity but also by sponsoring her you are supporting your sister.
Personally I would sponsor my sister to show my support of her.
Jen

apesxx

Indie_Kid wrote: »

I sponsored a friend to do a sky dive a few years ago. Wasn't too happy to discover that some of the money was to pay for the sky dive.

I've been looking into doing a sky dive as it's something I always wanted to do. I couldn't believe it when I saw that if you do it through the charity and raise the £350 minimum only £70 goes to charity and the rest goes to pay for the skydive. When I do mine next year I am going to pay for it myself as I've always wanted to do one and anything I raise will wholly go to charity then x

Petra_70

I would sponsor her unless I had a massive issue with the charity.