Sponsorship and blackmail

fizz

OP-go along to the event if you can and cheer your sister on, then you have supported her.

As for the sponsorship, you don't have to give if you don't want too-it really isn't compulsory.

fizz.x

Georgiegirl256

Mojisola wrote: »

That's the decision of the person taking part but they shouldn't expect other people to always sponsor them or hassle them if they don't.

Surely that goes without saying? From a personal point of view, if I'm doing a charity event, every sponsor big or small is received with gratitude. If a person declines to sponsor than that is entirely their choice, no hard feelings. People shouldn't automatically expect to get sponsorship.

Having said that though, I would always sponsor a relative. Unless it was a charity I totally disagreed with.

Mojisola

Gra76 wrote: »

The charity she's picked is irrelevant, the point is I don't support her chosen charity. She's now sending me texts that literally just read 'Sponsorship??'

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Surely that goes without saying?

Gra76's sister doesn't seem to think so.

Georgiegirl256

onlyroz wrote: »

It is understandable to take a greater interest in a charity that has affected you personally. It doesn't necessarily mean that you didn't "give a flying fudge" before - just that you didn't know anything about it.

Here here :T

There are two charities that are very close to my heart as they have helped out our family at an absolutely terrible time and it meant the world to us. One in particular I don't know what we would have done without them.

Why wouldn't we want to support them after benefiting from them? They are a local charity and every penny raised, and every bit of awareness raised can only be a good thing IMO.

If that "Grinds on people's norks" then tough, I really couldn't give one!

gettingtheresometime

I've done a number of sponsorship events where there was a minimum amount you had to raise (never heard of a minimum donation though)

I've told people I'm doing the event and if they want to sponsor me how to but if they don't then I haven't blackmailed them to do so.

I'm looking to do a major event next year and am fully prepared to fund the minimum sponsorship....though would appreciate it if friends did sponsor me

bluenoseam

I'd simply say that I do not wish to support the charity involved, if that offends her then I'm afraid she needs to learn to grow up. I personally have a select few charities that I will support & any sponsorship I give is always aimed at one of those. I also however have "charities" which I will never support because to me they have issues which do not deem them worthy or they have exhibited behaviours which are unacceptable.

Just tell her you're happy to donate a similar amount as normal to a charity in her name - ultimately if she rejects that & takes the hump she's throwing the toys out the pram.

fierystormcloud

Quizzical_Squirrel wrote: »

If you're just not interested then bear in mind that charity is not always as entirely selfless as it appears.

When you learn someone supports a medical disorder charity, for example, it is inevitably because someone close to them has been affected by the illness. Before that, they didn't give a rats ars3 about it.

Charity is as much about the giver as the receiver. People don't care until mum's snuffed it or their youngest is afflicted. Then suddenly, they're proud to support the cause ... because it makes them feel better.

True charity is giving when it's not all about you.

Lily-Rose wrote: »

It really grinds on my norks when people suddenly start obsessing about a cause or a charity when they didn't give a flying fudge about it before, and it's even worse when they expect everyone else to care too!

Yes, to a certain extent, you can understand people having a vested interest in a cause that has affected them, but it is quite annoying when they are rabid about it, when they had no interest AT ALL before.

I know several people who have had no interest in certain medical conditions, until their children were diagnosed with it, (or sometimes another close family member,) and now every other facebook post is about it. And they put things like 'share this if you care about children with *insert name of condition here*' And they say things like 'if you have a heart you will share this' kind of nonsense!

As I said, what is even more annoying, is how they assume everyone else is going to care passionately about it too, and when other people don't, they get all huffy!


Annoys the heck out of me tbh!

FBaby wrote: »

That whole sponsorship for a sporting event is really doing my head in. People think they are special by doing some sort of event that many other people do and as such think it is their right to be given money for the achievement. There is a lot of pressure to do so and not doing it automatically seem to label you as a stingy and uncaring. The reality is that if you are friends with people who share an interest in sporting events, you can end up sponsoring someone almost every week-end, for a charity you might have no interest in at all.

Agree with these 3 posts wholeheartedly.

Cannot bear it when I go into work and someone comes sniffing around me begging for money for some charity I don't give a stuff about. In addition, I am sick of people bragging about what they're doing all over social media like they are some kind of Saint; because they're shaving their hair off and painting their head green for a certain charity that they support. (And as has been said, they didn't care about the charity before someone close to them was affected by it.)

Worse still (imo) is people begging money for their kid's ice hockey team or football team to go on a trip to New York or Chicago to a special tournament! I know a number of people who do this, and think it's their kid's right to have a flashy holiday paid for by 'sponsorship.'

Another thing I find annoying is going into certain foodstores of a weekend, and finding lots of little sprogs offering to pack your bag for you, as long as you chuck a few pound coins into their 'Paris Trip for the school band' bucket! :mad:

To the OP. If you don't want to sponsor your sister, and you feel strongly enough, then don't sponsor her.

Indie_Kid

I sponsored a friend to do a sky dive a few years ago. Wasn't too happy to discover that some of the money was to pay for the sky dive.

fierystormcloud

Indie_Kid wrote: »

I sponsored a friend to do a sky dive a few years ago. Wasn't too happy to discover that some of the money was to pay for the sky dive.

What a cheek! :eek:

So what was the money she (supposedly) raised for? And how much did she raise?

warehouse

Gra76 wrote: »

She's now sending me texts that literally just read 'Sponsorship??'

Don't sponsor her. That is plain rude and you're being used as a cash cow and nothing else.