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Sponsorship and blackmail
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PenguinOfDeath wrote: »This is rude. I don't understand why people who choose to do these events for charity demand sponsorship, most people only chuck money their way to shut them up! What wrong with doing these challenges for the pure challenge of it?
You could just do it for the challenge, but whilst you are, what's the harm in also raising some money for a charity that's close to your heart and that perhaps you've been touched by or helped by in some way?
I know when I've done these runs in the past, knowing I was raising money for a worthwhile charity helped spur me on and gave me an extra sense of achievement.
A lot of the runs you can't actually take part in unless you're raising sponsorship anyhow.0 -
To me there's a difference between a charity I have no interest it and a charity I actively think to have dodgy values or financial/ethical track record.
If it's a charity I have no interest in, say, save the slugs, but I know matter to my friends, I will sponsor them because they are my friends.
There is no way I would sponsor for a charity I though had a highly dubious record in say for example the way they treated people/staff/misplaced zeal.I try to take one day at a time, but sometimes several days attack me at once0 -
Charities fall into 3 categories for me,
1, those I like and love to support,
2, those I disagree with and wouldn't give a penny to and
3, those I wouldn't choose to support but have nothing against them
If my sister was running for charity 3, I'd sponsor her to show my support more for her than the charity. If it was charity 2 I'd politely refuse.
But this...She's now sending me texts that literally just read 'Sponsorship??'.
She'd not be getting anything from me!0 -
Georgiegirl256 wrote: »You could just do it for the challenge, but whilst you are, what's the harm in also raising some money for a charity that's close to your heart and that perhaps you've been touched by or helped by in some way?
That's the decision of the person taking part but they shouldn't expect other people to always sponsor them or hassle them if they don't.0 -
I'm very happy to give to any of the charities she's chosen in previous years. The charity she's chosen this year is something to do with her husbands extended family. I get the reasons she's running for them, I just don't agree with supporting that charity myself. In an ideal world I'll ask her if she minds me donating to one of the charities she previously ran for and she won't be offended.
So..her family?
Sounds like she hasn't plucked a charity out of the air, its one that has some meaning to her and her husband and their family. Is it for an illness or issue that has affected a family member?
It seems churlish that you'd be willing to sponsor her if it was for a charity that you and she both cared about, but not for a charity that she and her husband and other family members care about, especially if its not a case of being opposed on ethical/financial grounds.
Just suck it up and give whatever amount you usually give when she does this type of fundraising.0 -
I would not sponsor anyone whose chosen Charity was not one I supported or agreed with.It is your money,you choose what to do with it.Being hassled would irritate me intensely,just tell your Sister you have supported her,by giving to a Charity of your choice.
I have a friend who instead of giving Christmas presents,donates to several different Charities each year,none of whom I support,I find it very strange!Sobriety delivers everything Alcohol promised.
Alcohol free since May 23rd 2003.0 -
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No harm in doing these things for charity at all, I have done them in the past. What can be damaging is the expectation that all and sundry will sponsor them, or even worse when they expect to her to pay for their skydive/Himalayan trek and that money not going to charity!
Sorry....back on topic...0 -
Sponsor her if she is your sister. Why are you so massively against the charity she supports? I can't think of a single charity I would not support. I am not a huge fan of the RSPCA for several reasons, but I would still sponsor someone close to me, even it was for the RSPCA.
It is kind of annoying though if people continually ask for sponsorship and keep doing things. Wears kinda thin. And they must think folk have got a bottomless pit of money.Proud to have lost over 3 stone (45 pounds,) in the past year! :j Now a size 14!
You're not singing anymore........ You're not singing any-more!0 -
I wouldn't sponsor her.0
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