Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

tea_lover

I really like the word tartaruga

Torry_Quine

Fairie great that things seem to be moving towards getting the help you need ((((((hugs)))))
Melly you must come off slowly and under medical support
WW hope you soon feel better ((((hugs))))
Tea well done on starting to clear things out.
Code I love the portugaese
WaS the living rainforest sound lovely.feeding the armadillo would be great
Calley you sound really caring towards your husband.


Today has been a duvet day. Yesterday I spent over three hours at the hospital accompanying my elderly relative and that was exhausting in body and spirit.
Its been very wet here so wouldn't want to venture out anyway. My roses still look lovely, which makes me feel goof.

Wellyboots6

Clothes shopping with Escapette in town today. Overheard a lady and her daughter in a clothes shop...

Lady: I'm not buying ninja turtles for a girl!
Girl: (crying) but why not? I like ninja turtles!
Lady: Sit down and don't be naughty


I was sooo cross, I really wish I'd said something, or bought the girl the ninja turtles T-shirt myself! It really hadnt occurred to me that attitudes still existed where children can't express likes and dislikes across the gender stereotypes.

I went and bought Escapette a Batman T-shirt to make myself feel better!

Flybaby

Calley - fair play........I can completely understand......sounds like you have a best friend for life!


Welly - oooooo......that would have made me very cross too...........so glad you bought escapette batman T-shirt! The stereotypes still persist in all areas of life and society I think and it is very frustrating. Go you for being an awesome mummy! I think she needs some spiderman pyjamas!!!! I always had a little fantasy in my head that if I ever won the lottery - I was going to buy myself a custom made spiderman wetsuit and surfboard so I would loo cool as hell on the waves...............ah those were the days........................nowadays I would probably suit a minion outfit better!


You have brought back some lovely memories of my mum......she took me to air shows and motorbike shows and let me take things apart and probably bought me my first drill around age 12..........she always wanted a little girl and she got lumbered with me, but I never felt anything other than encouraged as a kid to do whatever I wanted. Nowadays, things are very different and she is always telling her friends how awesome it is to have a daughter who can not only dye her hair for her, but also fix the roof/car/fence/brick wall etc..........she says I am a son and daughter rolled into one.......(although she absolutely still hates motorbikes - she just didn't mention that till I was much older hoping I would grow out of it).......it's weird but as long as my mum is proud of me.............everything is right in the world. I must make sure I tell her that today............

whitewing

calley, your post about your husband makes perfect sense to me.

I got some sleep and awoke at exactly the time I needed my next dose of antibiotics and painkillers.

Cheery weekend greetings to you all.

Pyxis

codemonkey wrote: »

Boosts are awesome.

Eu - pronounce both letters seperately, kind of like a soft eww.
Não - now
Sou - sue
Uma - as written
Tartaruga - tartarooga

This is of course Brazilian Portuguese pronunciation but should be close enough that you can be understood in Portugual.

Thanks for that Code. I wasn't sure about the eu and the sou. Out of interest, what is the significance of the ã (don't know the name of the accent) on the pronounciation of the a?

calleyw wrote: »

FB,

Going to give a more detailed reply from this morning.

I do like and care about my husband very much. And it does cause me much pain to see him like this. But and here is the big but. His stroke has messed everything up. Going out for the day is hard work. I have to do all the driving. But very limited to what we can do. Can't walk along the beach etc. Can't go for bike rides.

We both like so many of the same things and get on with each very well. So I can see why some of you think its strange we are not together. But we can't live with each other. And I really don't want to be known as his carer. I use to get that when I met people we knew and I was on my own. Always ask how he was. Never gave a thought to me and how I was coping or not.

Still not sure if that still makes sense to anyone.

Yours

Calley

Thanks for being so honest, Calley. It can be all too easy to say that 'love conquers all' but the effect of coping day in day out can be a killer. It can be a lot better to live separately as best friends than together with one's own health decreasing as a result and resentment increasing.
It was a brave thing to do, IMO. :A

whitewing

Now I am bleeding again. Great.

How are you all today?

jobbingmusician

Awww, ww. Hope you get better soon xxxxxx

whitewing

Thanks JM. Heard today that my scan is on Thursday so that is two weeks after I saw the GP - not bad.

faerielight

thanks tory, polly and whitewing.. I've been diagnosed with BPD since my early 20's and I'm 45 now.. They observed me for a year before they diagnosed it. I used to get so much help.. I had an amazing CPN for 4.5 years and a support worker, plus I used to attend a day service with cbt courses.

It was the nail in my psychiatric coffin, recording the psychiatrist telling me to go and kill myself. I luckily didn't do it, but I wanted to protect others from him, in case they did do it. He has a bad reputation of saying things like that. What was weird was, when I had my last gastro check up after my surgery, I saw a different gastro DR, he told me he thought I was really brave standing up to a man like that! He said I had never mentioned it to any gastro dr, He said that he knew him, and that everyone knew how abusive and unethical he wa
I had no idea he had so much power and ran the roost of the psychiatric services in my area. Being linked in with the BPD/trauma service will get me away from him and his team that blocked me from getting help for the last 5 years. I regretted ever squaring up to him, but now it doesn't matter as I'm gonna get some help

x