Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

tea_lover

Now have another incident number and yet another police appointment tomorrow (3 times in 3 days, this is ridiculous!)

Was feeling brave but cross earlier but am freaked out now. The police called him about 8.15am (when I was there). He was in church looking for me before 10am. I thought he'd hear the voicemail, realise things had got out of hand and give it a rest. But it seems his first reaction when he heard from the police was to go straight to where he thought I'd be. Maybe he thinks it's only a problem if he comes to my house.

I was counting on him coming to his senses once he heard the 'go away' message from someone else but he's heard it from a policeman and a mate of mine today and he's just carried on. I have literally no idea what he'll do next or what he's capable of and that really scares me

But hey, only one call in the auto reject log this evening so maybe I should be grateful for that!

mellymoo74

Just keep logging it tea.
Also doors and windows locked.
Xxx

*zippy*

I hope you don't mind me posting here, I hope it's suitable to your thread, I'd rather speak to people who understand if that's ok x

I'm feeling pretty upset. My husband had a breakdown a few years ago, it still affects him and the meds effect him, he wasn't able to return to his job, but they found him another position, he struggles and it takes a lot to try and not show that in work. He was bullied by a few guys when he first went there who knew why he'd been moved, eventually he reported it and the people spoken to and things did improve, though some still won't speak to him.

I work with the mother of one of his colleagues that's a nice lad, she said to me in the week was my husband going to the works Christmas meal, I hadn't heard anything about it so just said no. I remembered tonight and said to DH you didn't fancy the meal then. Well it turns out he saw a notebook of everyone going, but they kept it quiet and didn't ask him He is really upset, but hasn't said, he feels it drags everything back up and he starts having nightmares again. I'm his only support, I feel like telling the guys mother what they've done, it was an unofficial meal so they're entitled to invite who they like though. I've tried saying he prob wasn't the only one not invited or they've only invited the drinkers etc trying to make it better, but I know there's nothing I can do really? He's had a week off and dreading going back tomorrow, I feel awful for him, how can people be so horrible, he wouldn't have gone so they could have asked him, do they think they'll get through life not touched by mental health problems in some way.

If this is out of place please say and I'll delete and sorry first post is asking for some support x

mellymoo74

Zippy
:grouphug::grouphug:

Please enter the duvet fort where you will find a squish cupboard.

Is your husband getting any therapy? It can really help. I am waiting at the moment but it's really helped my OH.

System

Sorry the ex isn't getting the message tea, i hope he gets the message soon and leaves you alone

welcome to the thread *zippy* sorry about hats happened to your husband, i know its horrible to be intentionally left out of things, but the way i'd be trying to see it now is would i want to spend time with people like that? They don't sound like very nice people based on what you've said. Not this make it any easier,im not very good at advice but hopefully someone else will be along who can offer you some more/ Have a *hug* or a {{{squish}}}

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I had a lovely christmas meal with my friends tonight (it actually did feel like a christmas meal!), we had the meal and then played Cranium Was so nice to see everyone.

Flybaby

{squish} for tea.
I think him turning him up to your church in the morning and telling your friend that he only wants to talk and then turning up in the afternoon and NOT attempting to talk to you is a bit weird.


So lets get his straight - he found you and followed you in your car on Friday night, hammered at your door twice on Saturday and then went to your church twice on Sunday ( a place he has never been for 10 years) - how does that sound to you?
You have every reason to go to the police with this behaviour honey and I am so glad your parents and friend know - remember it is not YOU that is worrying them, it is him and they would WANT to support you.
{squishes to all}

katsu

Tea. Just keep reporting him for these inappropriate actions. You are doing the right thing. Get his things out of your house and to his mother's and then there can be no reason he can claim he needs to be in contact with you. Get someone to come with you to deliver then though, in case he is there.

*zippy*

Thank you melly, I just feel sick, I think things are going ok, but he bottles it up so it's sort of a shock then when I find out.

When he first was ill the Dr said the nhs wait list for counselling was so long he would be best to go private, I think it was well over a year wait at the time. He couldn't get into the lady he unofficially recommended so saw someone else who he just didn't find helpful so stopped after a few. At the time we couldn't afford to pay so his parents said they would, but they I think only paid for one or two so he saw it as a waste of money when it wasn't helping. I will mention maybe trying again though as we could afford it now. His main problem is it has damaged his memory, I don't know how common that is, the Dr doesn't seem to have an answer about it and he can't cope with any stress so it does stand out in work.

Thank you again, I feel better talking about it x

*zippy*

Sorry messed up I was slow typing and missed your post Thank you for the welcome x

Sorry tea I haven't read much of the thread yet, but just saw your post, I really hope the police will help you tomorrow hugs to you xxx

mellymoo74

See if you have a healthy mind in your area
You can self refer and get the gp to back it up.
Mental health provision is patchy I will be waiting 3 months for first stage cos I'm not suicidal OH got his first stage through in a few weeks and had been going weekly for a couple of months now.

Don't let GP put him off.