Have I done the right thing?

Person_one

CathA wrote: »

I think the main thing is, no matter how old they are, kids don't like hearing sense from their parents!!

I think giving unsolicited advice/opinions about how another adult is living/behaving is a risky business whatever the relationship. Only to be done with extreme caution in very special circumstances!

concernedandbemused

I have just deleted what I originally put in this reply as I decided I did not want to say anymore. While I am grateful for the advice I have received I realise that it was a mistake for me to share my personal dilemma. I need to sort this out myself. Thank you all again.

amistupid

concernedandbemused wrote: »

I explained I thought she should curb her social life because she was struggling at the moment and especially because of the holiday.

She was very upset and said she should have a life of her own and I was told to leave which I did after trying to explain I was worried.

The truth hurts.

happy35

i dont think there was anything wrong with what you said, but you probably hit a nerve as she knows deep down that she shouldnt be going out as she has no money

It may be that she is feeling down and a bit lonely and needed to see her friends and is sick of the site of her own 4 walls, I remember feeling like I was in a prison wiht my son when OH worked away.

Am sure it will blow over tomorrow and your daughter will have had time to mull it all over and calm down.

Good luck hope everything works out for you x