No Spark

Bobby2016

Long story condensed down!

Started chatting to this woman from a dating site 2 months ago. Finally met up yesterday. Date lasted 4 hours, by the end we were hugging, holding hands and kissed several times. Conversation flowed all night.

20 minutes after we parted I got a text saying "Thank you for a lovely evening"

We chatted some more this morning and I asked whether she would like to go on a second date. Received the following reply

"I would. Im not sure there is a spark with us but I do enjoy your company"

Was tied up at work and 20 minutes later got "I assume the lack of reply is not a good thing" With a confused smiley.

Must admit im pretty stumped!

Stevie_Palimo

Me thinks it is time to move on and look at your next conquest, Don't cry over spilt milk as the saying goes.

Bobby2016

Stevie_Palimo wrote: »

Me thinks it is time to move on and look at your next conquest, Don't cry over spilt milk as the saying goes.

Thats what im thinking. Even though she said she would go on a second date, guessing theres not really much point if she didnt feel a spark.

geminilady

I would reply explain you were tied up in work and arrange a second date if you like the lady,you got on well which is the main thing,there does not have to be a "spark"people can grow on you.

Stevie_Palimo

Bobby2016 wrote: »

Thats what im thinking. Even though she said she would go on a second date, guessing theres not really much point if she didnt feel a spark.

Only if your looking for a friend I guess unless she may like a FB deal ( Friends with benefits )

Bobby2016

geminilady wrote: »

I would reply explain you were tied up in work and arrange a second date if you like the lady,you got on well which is the main thing,there does not have to be a "spark"people can grow on you.

I did reply back shortly after and apologise that I was tied up with work. I said that at least we had met to see whether there was a spark. Havent heard anything back yet, if I will at all.

I did like her, we had an awful lot in common and the evening seemed to have gone really well.

marleyboy

To be fair OP, I would prefer someone who is as honest and up front like that than someone who may lead me up the garden path with false hopes. It takes the awkwardness out of the situation.

pollypenny

Maybe you and she would be slow burners.

probably worth meeting again. Try an activity, rather than a pub or restaurant, so you would do things together.

Bobby2016

Thats true, thanks for the replies.

Dont know if it makes any difference to the situation, but shes never had an adult relationship. Her last one was 15 years ago and lasted a year. She says she's been on plenty of dates, but nothing has ever turned into a relationship. She's under the impression she will never have a date that will turn into a relationship.

geminilady

Bobby2016 wrote: »

I did reply back shortly after and apologise that I was tied up with work. I said that at least we had met to see whether there was a spark. Havent heard anything back yet, if I will at all.

I did like her, we had an awful lot in common and the evening seemed to have gone really well.

The main thing is you had a great evening and had a lot in common and she did thank you for a good evening after your date.If she is not used to dating she might think it is like the movies or books,a good lasting relationship is nothing like it.I felt no "spark" when I first met my husband and we were married over twenty years

kittygirl20

I'd go for the second date, she's probably playing it cool and a bit nervous due to lack of relationship experience and is probably very pessimistic about things going further than just one date 'in general' rather than it being about you.

Go on